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9 Dating Tips My Abuelita Gave Me That Saved My Relationships

My abuela passed away, at age 102. She made sure to leave a legacy of old-fashioned dating advice that surprisingly has helped me in my relationships. Here’s what she told me…

Déjelo Ser

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Nothing attracts a guy more than feeling he’s still got his freedom. But you know what they say, too much of anything can be a bad thing.

No Lo Persiga

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Flirting with him is great, chasing him will only make him run faster.

Preséntelo Con Su Mami

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Mom’s can see through bullshit. One look at him and she’ll tell you what she thinks of him. Most likely she’ll say he’s no good for you.

Gánese A La Suegra

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And may the Lord protect you and be with you.

Relájese

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Nothing scares a potential novio more than a woman that screams desperation.

Sea Usted Misma

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It’s better that he knows (and likes) the real you from the get go.

Escuche La Tripa

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Your gut doesn’t lie, neither do your instincts.

No Crea Todo Lo Que Le Dice

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Actions speak louder than words.

No Seas Escandalosa

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No one likes a drama queen. Not a novio. Not your amiga. No one.

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In My Own, I’ve Learned That Interracial Relationships Won’t Work If You Run From The Hard Stuff

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In My Own, I’ve Learned That Interracial Relationships Won’t Work If You Run From The Hard Stuff

In a sea of olive skin and dark eyes, there’s a tuft of blonde hair with baby blues. That guy with blue eyes is my person. At every christening, wedding, or birthday party, where there’s me, there’s my boyfriend. We go together without thinking, and I feel fortunate that I’m at a point in my life where bringing my boyfriend to family events is a given.

Throughout my dating life I’ve been asked “What you don’t like Latinos?” and “Will you ever date someone who isn’t white?” by friends and family alike.

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For those asking: I do, and I have, but not with the frequency that the people asking those questions would like.

My grandparents came to the mainland in the 1950s and my great-grandfather, though born in Puerto Rico, was still considered a citizen of Spain. In comparison, his family lineage in the U.S. goes so far back that you can trace it to the Mayflower.

Often, I get called an “Oreo,” too white-minded to be Latina, and too dark-skinned to be white. I’m conscious of our differences, but I don’t date my boyfriend to be a living educational exhibit. I refuse to be fetishized or exoticized. I am who I am.

Even so, I have a lot to learn in terms of how I project some old cultural customs, be they sexist or racist, onto people I love.

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My boyfriend and I aren’t afraid to talk about it as a couple or as friends.

The upbringing I have had, as traditional as it is, has led me to be judgmental, private, and less open. Meanwhile, he is open to my family and my culture. Where he jumps head-first, I’m hesitant to do the same because I’m afraid to lose sight of who I am.

Comments on my being one half of an interracial couple have always made me feel like my romantic relationships aren’t my own, and that to be in one, it had to please the people around me.

Yes, I do believe that your friends and family ultimately want the best for you. And yes, Latino families are sometimes so on our cases we don’t know where we end and they begin. It’s the positive danger of coming from a culture that’s close-knit, regardless of whether or not you want it to be. But, you learn to work with and around it.

I’m sure that when my loved ones ask me these questions, they do so less out of malice, and more of concern. Maybe to them, by being with someone who doesn’t share my cultural upbringing, I’m missing out on the best parts of my heritage.

In this relationship, I do see color.

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We are two completely different people. Racially, and in turn socioeconomically. These two things play a key role in our relationship. Our interactions consist in “we don’t do that” or “you can’t say that,” and “when you say that, you sound like,” fill in the blank.

I call him out when he says something culturally insensitive or racially charged. I tell him when his privilege is showing. He lets me know when my upbringing doesn’t allow me to express thoughts and ideas I have due to fear or being shut out by others in my Latino community.

My boyfriend was never a dance partner at a quinceanera, he has never seen a quenepa up-close, and bendiciones to the elders was a foreign concept that he’s continually being introduced to. But although he’s new to all of those things, he embraces them.

When I say that, I don’t mean that he works to be or act Latino.

I do mean that he works to see the value in these things that are foreign to him, but non-negotiable as part of my life, and in turn, our partnership.

He seeks out this understanding. He asks questions about what he can’t relate to through personal experience and admits that there’s more to the Latino community than he realizes.

Together, we are on a journey to unlearn the bad and embrace the good in both of us. It’s hard, it’s messy, and there are fights. But this is the future, one of color-conscious love that, as a result, allows the best of us to shine through.

We Should Carry The Same Energy As These Latinas Texting Their Boyfriends To Make D Appointments At Their Convenience

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We Should Carry The Same Energy As These Latinas Texting Their Boyfriends To Make D Appointments At Their Convenience

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We all know how hectic our day-to-day schedules can be. Between work, errands, and other every-day responsibilities, it can feel unreasonably difficult to find time to have some spontaneous sexy fun with your boo. Busy ladies know that, sometimes, the best way to go about fitting-in some much-needed hanky-panky time is to schedule it with your partner.

Not only is sex then a sure-thing rather than an “if-we’re-not-both-too-tired”-thing, it also fills the hours leading up to sex with excitement and anticipation–which is almost as hot as the act itself.

No one gets the idea of “sex appointments” better than Twitter user @baby_b0nes.

On May 28th, @baby_b0nes shared a cute and funny interaction with her boyfriend when she texted him for a “dick appointment”. She then shared the tweet with her 10,00 followers and the post quickly went viral, racking up almost 4,000 replies, 54,000 likes, and almost 8,000 retweets.

After @baby_b0nes called her followers to action, users across the Twitterverse shared their SOs’ responses to their texts inquiring about “dick appointments”. To much the delight of Twitter-users everywhere, responses ranged from goofy and playful to surprisingly professional.

Some boyfriends got extremely creative with their responses:

Sometimes, all the medicine you need is some one-on-one romantic time.

While some men were a little confused, to say the least:

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Hey, not every boyfriend can be a quick-witted comedian!

This man took the scheduling process one step further:

According to Twitter user @cakefacebritt, the “appointment center” just ended up being her “Loveybug”‘s best friend, who reached out to set up the appointment!

This couple had to coordinate their “dick appointment” with their baby’s sleep and nap schedule:

“After her next baba” = cutest line ever. Cue the collective “awww”s from the Twitterverse.

This man got a little bit romantic with his response:

Who doesn’t want to hear that they have a standing dick appointment with their bae? Like, that’s pretty much a proposal, right?

This guy got a little too over-enthusiastic with the word play:

We live for a punny joke or two, but “dick o’cock” is a little eye-roll inducing.

And finally, this girl’s BF knows the REAL way to a woman’s heart:

Say it with us, gentlemen: consent is the sexiest kind of foreplay.

This Twitter thread definitely made our day and gave us some pretty great ideas for reaching out to our novios the next time we’re in the mood. Check out the rest of the hilarious responses on Twitter here.

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