Like where are those curtains hanging from? Where is the wind coming from? And what is he doing upside down? The bed you lay on is always a hot mess with heavy blankets and pillows thrown everywhere. You hardly have any space to lay.
There comes a time in a young woman’s life when she has to venture out into the world and experience everything out there that the world has to offer. And yes, “everything” includes sex. And while sex is a totally natural and expected step in a young woman’s coming-of-age journey, the Latinx community often holds notoriously conservative views about when it’s “okay” for a young woman to have sex for the first time.
This conservative attitude towards woman and sex is nowhere more prominent than it is in the minds of Latinx mothers. Many Latinx moms, especially from older generations, have been trained to believe that a young woman’s worth is tied to her virginity and that it’s a sin to have sex out of wedlock. This attitude makes it hard for girls to talk to their parents about sex, which means a large portion of the Latina population is uneducated about STIs, unwanted pregnancy, contraception, and how being sexually active can impact your emotions. Because of the shame surrounding extramarital sex in the Latinx community, many young women hide the fact that they’ve been having sex from their mothers in order to avoid conflict or avoid being shamed.
That’s why Fierce by mitú took to our Instagram page to ask our followers how their madres reacted when they found out their daughters were no longer virgins. We also wanted to know if our followers decided to keep their virginity statuses to themselves.
Check out the answers below!
1. This mom’s nosiness gave her more than she bargained for
“My mom found out I was having sex when I was 23 years old and she found my birth control (cringe!). This is a pretty common story I share with a lot of my friends but the way my mom found out was pretty mortifying. My novio, who I have been dating since I was 14 and who she has known for as many years, was over at the house. Because my mom has always been very nosey and a helicopter mom I would give him my birth control for safe keeping (For so many reasons Don’t DO THIS!!) Anyway. The birth control fell out of his bag and my mom flipped out. Any other scenario, had I hid it in a closet or sock drawer she would have found out sooner but I probably could have convinced her it was just for acne.” – Veronica, Chicago
2. This mama read between the lines and stayed silent
“I kind of had to fess up to my mom because I was moving in with my boyfriend. She’d been asking me since we started dating if I was using protection over and over again and I was too embarrassed to even say that we were having sex. I finally just told her that I was moving in with him and I think she got the deal.” Kathryn, Los Angeles
3. This mom insisted she could tell by just LOOKING at her daughter
“I told my mom years after, but she swears she knew the night I came home that it happened. I’m like c’mon, Mom. No way did you know. But, you know how they are–they know EVERYTHING.” – Laney, San Bernadino
4. The old “hyper-emotional” reaction
“My mom cried so so hard and then instantly got mad at me and gave me the silent treatment. She also claimed she “knew” that I wasn’t anymore anyhow ’cause I “started talking back”. But, I was 21 at that point!” – Yvette
5. The mom who doesn’t know…but c’mon: she knows
“To [my mom] I’m still [a virgin] ’till I’m married….Nahhh I think she probably suspects I’m not by now”. – Connie, Southern California
6. The mom who lives in blissful ignorance
“I’m 30 years old and still haven’t told my mom. At this point she’s gotta suspect I’m not [a virgin]. But at least I waited until I was 19!” Anna, Chicago
7. The Suffocating Silence
“Literally my current situation, lol. I want to tell her but, I’m afraid of her reaction. I don’t think she’ll be mad, but I really would hate for her to cry about it. Send help!” Darlene, Riverside
8. The “Live Your Life” Type of Mom
“I keep it to myself, but I’m pretty sure she knows me better. 😉 ” – Belle, Puerto Rico
9. The “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” Policy
“She never asked and I never told her… but for what it’s worth, I waited till I was at least 18.” Tania, Los Angeles
10. The Mom Who Tries and Fails to Guilt Trip
“She said: ‘Why didnt [you] wait ’till marriage like [I] told over and over again?’. So, I said: “Who said I’ll ever get married?” Lizet, Bakersfield, CA
11. This mom who started crying when she walked in on the act
“I had skipped school to lose my virginity to my high school boyfriend. We had planned it out so that I would play sick and he would skip school and do it when my parents were out of the house. They boy work long hours so we figured we had some time. The actual act went well, but literally just as we finished we heard my front door open. No snuggling. We both jumped up to hide. I’ve always thought it took maybe 30 steps to get from my front door to my room, my mom took five. My boyfriend ducked out of the bathroom and somehow my mom got to the front of the house to confront him. I mean he had no shirt on and was pulling him his pants. She knew. She knew so much she cried.” Ana, Austin, TX
Mariah Carey’s latest interview is giving us so much good gossip that we honestly can’t contain our excitement. Carey, who loves a good magazine cover and good lighting, scored both of those as the August cover girl for Cosmopolitan magazine. The 49-year-old is perfectly done up on the cover wearing a tiara and a t-shirt with her face on it. Do you expect anything less? The shirt, by the way, is already for sale for only $25 bucks, so yeah get it.
While her cover is as flawless as you’d expect, what we’re most interested in is hearing all about her love affairs (or lack thereof).
Mariah Carey opened up about her most intimate affairs including that she’s only had five sexual partners.
Speaking with Cosmo Carey admitted that when it comes to her sexual experience, she actually hasn’t been with a lot of men. “I haven’t had that many, but there has been a variety pack,” she explained in the interview. “I’ve only been with five people in my life, so I’m kind of a prude, honestly, compared to most others in the field.”
Of course, while it may be surprising to hear the chanteuse suggest she could be a “prude,” we’re also well aware that when it comes to partner counts any goes! There isn’t a standard of how many people anyone should sleep with, regardless of age. Whether its five or five thousand, it’s not our business or place to judge.
What IS interesting however is that Carey has had some very high-profile boyfriends. So we can’t help but be curious about who exactly is on her list. Just a reminder: Eminem made a big stink out of his relationship with Carey… is he on the list?
Carey also disclosed a nightmarish marriage to music producer Tommy Mottola (who is now married to Thalia) that lasted eight years.
Carey caught the Sony Music boss’s eye when she was just a teen and had been picked up by his company after she’d put a demo tape together. Mottola, who has also worked with Celine Dion began to work with Carey and ultimately began a relationship with her beside a pretty massive age difference and her young age. Carey was just 24 years old when the two ultimately married.
“You might want to picture a child bride,” Carey told Cosmo of their relationship. “There was a conscious effort to keep me as this all-American, whatever that means, girl. It was very controlled. There was no freedom for me as a human being. It was almost like being a prisoner.”
According to the magazine, Mottola has said his relationship with Carey, and his treatment of her was “wrong and inappropriate.”
The couple divorced in 1998, five years after their divorce and in 2008, Carey married Nick Cannon with whom she had twins with and also later divorced. Carey was also recently engaged to Australian billionaire James Packer and is now reportedly dating her back up dancer Bryan Tanaka.
So, assuming Carey bedded all four men (Mottola, Cannon, Packer and Tanaka)…
Who is the fifth person she has slept with? We have an idea.
Okay, so Carey has been rumored to have dated Eric Benét and former Yankee Derek Jeter, but she also dated Luis Miguel!! The two ended up being in a 3-year relationship with Spanish heartthrob singer Luis Miguel. The most exciting aspect of this courtship is that he didn’t speak English, and she didn’t speak Spanish. OMG! She said they could under each other on a more personal level. They did, after all, have a lot in common.
“The public and the media, whatever, will attack a relationship and make it into, you know, drive people crazy,” she said. “And it really takes someone really secure to be able to handle that kind of thing. So I’m really actually very happy in a relationship right now with someone who’s an entertainer, very big, Latin superstar. His name is Luis Miguel, and he’s great… He’s so secure with himself, with what he does, and you know even to the point where people are like, ‘Do an English album.’ He’s not doing an album in English, because he doesn’t need to. He’s not a follower. He doesn’t have to follow the trend of that right now. And he’s great because he understands this craziness of my life because he’s got the same thing. There’s very few people who you can be like, ‘OK, well, I’m about to go on stage right now and sing in front of 50,000 people, so I’ll call you back when I’m done.'”
Ugh! Why did these two have to break up?
Her interview also included a bit of shade toward other artists who sing their music but don’t necessarily write it.
“A lot of artists say they write, but they don’t really write. No offense to anybody. That’s just what I’ve seen,” she said, but who is she referring to? Well, at this point it’s probably 80 percent of the industry. That’s why Carey stands on legacy status.
Here’s what some people on social media had to say about this eye-opening interview.
Who can top Mariah as the best diva of all-time? No one.
She’s earned every ounce of respect.
Talent like hers cannot be replicated, which is why there’s no one else out there quite like her.
While she did spill some tea, she didn’t name names!
Yet, people still got mad.
About her five sexual partners…
Dang, Sara is cold! No reason to slut-shame.
We love that she’s so open, but how did this conversation come up in the interview anyway?
Her number is no one else’s business but her own.
From diva to challenge winner, she can do it all.
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