When was the first time you heard the phrase “boys will be boys”?
It’ll probably take you a long time to recall that moment because it probably feels like you’ve been hearing that since forever. But there’s a way to get these outdated and ridiculousgender stereotypes out of our heads, and this video directed by Gloria Moran hopes to help with that.
In the two-minute clip, actor Jorge Diaz narrates what we’ve all heard a million times from Latino parents — that girls have to set the table and boys just wait to get fed. Or that boys can go out without any curfew, while girls have zero social life because they should be home helping mom with the housework.
Diaz narrates these machismo ideals while doing the things men usually don’t do such as wash the dishes, clean the house, and get kids ready for school.
“It took me some time, but I know that’s not the way,” Diaz says. “Being a man is about challenging the script that was handed down to us. …It’s time to change that narrative.”
This moving video exhibits how it’s up to us to end the cycle of gender stereotypes, especially when it concerns the machismo culture that is engrained in our heritage. Change starts with us.
Miguel Cervantes, the man handpicked by Lin-Manuel Miranda to play Alexander Hamilton in “Hamilton,” shared the news of his daughter’s death. Adelaide Grace, his 3-year-old daughter, had been living with severe childhood epilepsy and was diagnosed with the disorder.
“Hamilton” star Miguel Cervantes and his wife Kelly Cervantes shared the sad news of their young daughter’s death.
“The machines are off. Her bed is empty. The quiet is deafening. Miss Adelaide Grace left us early Saturday morning,” Kelly wrote on Instagram. “She went peacefully in my arms and surrounded by love. Finally, she is free from pain, reactions and seizures but leaves our hearts shattered. We love you so much Adelaideybug and forever after 💔💜”
Kelly’s Instagram is filled with photos of Adelaide surrounded by her loved ones.
Adelaide suffered from consistent seizures and there was no cure for her disorder. While she was diagnosed with childhood epilepsy, the overall disease was neuro-degenerative, according to Kelly’s blog Inchstone. Kelly wrote the blogs to document and show readers the journey her family was facing every day with Adelaide’s deteriorating health.
Kelly detailed the decision to move Adelaide into hospice care earlier this year in a blog post titled “Dear, Adelaide.”
In the blog, Kelly reveals the work she and Miguel have put into Adelaide’s care. She admits that the focus of the family for so long was keeping Adelaide alive and in treatment but it finally became clear that things needed to change. In a heartbreaking decision, Kelly and Miguel agreed that it was time to move their daughter to hospice care and plan on making her remaining days as comfortable as possible.
“Becoming a parent is undoubtedly life-changing. But you, my dear, didn’t just change my life, you caused an eruption,” Kelly wrote in his letter to his daughter.
“As the pieces have fallen these last few years, I haven’t been sure what to make of the remnants. The once-familiar landscape was charred and with each step, I worried the ground might give way beneath me. You have been stronger than me every step of the way. Nothing has come easy for you, fighting for some of the most basic and essential life skills, then losing them and having to fight for them all over again,” Kelly wrote to her daughter. “I think that is why this next leg of the journey has been so hard for me to accept. We’ve been standing at the precipice for weeks? Months? I’ve allowed myself to be comforted by denial asking you to wait until I’m ready. Though I realize now, I’ll never be ready and even more so, that the timing is not up to me. You’ve been fighting for your life for so long and I can see now that you are tired. It is my turn to be the strongest… and let you go.”
Kelly continues in her letter showering her daughter with love and promises.
“I promise you, my angel baby, that your efforts, your fight, your life will not have been in vain. We will take the eternal lessons you taught us and continue to plant your seeds in the hearts of anyone who will listen,” Kelly wrote. “I promise you that I will never stop advocating on your behalf, raising awareness and money for research so that families in the future will receive their epilepsy, mast cell activation syndrome, dysautonomia, hypotonia or neuro-degenerative diagnoses along with a treatment plan to full recovery. I promise you that I will fight for science to catch up to the next child even though it could never catch up to you. I will fight so that you can rest, free from the pain this world couldn’t relieve. I love you so much, my Adelaidey baby. Your loss will shatter me in ways I never thought possible but you’ve provided us with everything we need to heal. When it’s time sweet girl, we’ll be with you, and forever after.”
The family is keeping Adelaide’s memory alive and raising money to research a cure for epilepsy.
“I want a cure for epilepsy,” Kelly said, according to ABC7 Chicago. “I want the fear that people have of talking about it, I want that fear to end. I want my baby girl to live, and I don’t get that. So I’m going to fight like hell for the rest of it.”
Rest in peace, sweet Adelaide.
Your mom and dad are doing everything they can to keep the promises they made to you. Rest easy, little one. Your story has inspired people to fight harder to find a cure to the disease that took you too soon.
If you would like to help the Cervantes family fight to cure epilepsy, you can donate here.
Dads, you have to love them, especially when they’re left to rule the house when mom’s away. While they generally try their hardest, some dads can be big kids and the house will essentially remain unsupervised by a responsible adult. This mom learned that the hard way after she handed over the torch of responsibility to dad while she took a little nap. She woke up to find that dad had shaved off the baby’s hair and her reaction is priceless.
This video proves that sometimes you just can’t trust a Latino dad alone with the children.
New mom Jasmin Aileen Valero, wanted to catch up on some sleep after the exhausting task of taking care of her newborn baby. Dad, Joshua Luevanoz, was entrusted with watching over baby Jazlyn, while mom took a little nap. To Jasmin’s surprise, she woke up to find out that dad had shaved Jazlin’s entire head of hair, leaving their newborn looking like a little diaper-wearing kiwi.
Mom clearly didn’t expect to wake up to such a surprise. Suffice it to say, she wasn’t happy.
The Californian family shared the video of Jasmin being given the shock of a lifetime and the internet loved it, except for a few viewers going as far as to call it ‘child abuse.’
Jasmin had only just woke up when Joshua handed her the baby and began filming. Next thing you know, he’s pulling a little blanket off Jazlyn’s head to reveal their newly bald baby. Jasmin’s reaction is one of true surprise or horror if you will. “Why’d you do that?” she asks holding back shocked laughter and tears. Many news outlets have reported that dad shaved the baby’s head as a prank. But if you grew up Latino, you know that in a Latino household, shaving a baby’s head is no prank, it’s serious business and there’s bound to be a group of elders putting pressure on the new parents to rid the child of his or her hair, for the sake of tradition.
Behind every bald baby, there’s an Abuelita or tía telling new parents everything about the millenary tradition of shaving the baby’s head.
“Is shaving the newborn baby’s hair necessary for his hair to grow stronger?”
The Latino tradition of shaving the baby’s hair is true and old. Many call it: pelar, rapar, rasurar or afeitar al bebé. It’s a tradition widely spread throughout many Hispanic countries. I can confirm that it’s a common practice in Venezuela, Colombia, Puerto Rico, Dominican Republic, Spain, Ecuador, and Mexico. Why do crazy moms, abuelas —and unsuspecting dads as it turns out— shave the baby’s hair? According to tradition, the new hair will grow thicker, more evenly, and beautiful.
Experts explain that shaving a baby’s hair will not make it thicker or change its texture. Baby hair changes depend on the normal development of the child, and his or her genetic make-up. Where this tradition started, I wouldn’t know, trying to find out would be like trying to trace back the origin of ‘el cucuy, ‘nobody knows, it’s just been a tradition for centuries and centuries. There’s no information explaining where we picked up this idea from. But it is, unfortunately for this mom, still a very common practice.
Latinos aren’t the only peoples who shave off little innocent babies’ heads. Muslims do it too, perhaps this is where the tradition started?
Surprisingly, Latinos aren’t the only people who believe in this magic capillary legend. Shaving the baby’s head on his seventh day on earth is a common practice amongst Sunnah Islamic followers. They believe that only boys should have their heads shaved as “a means to drive them closer to Allaah.” If we keep in mind that many Latino traditions originate from Spain, which was occupied by Muslims for centuries, maybe that has something to do with how all the shaving started.