TMZ bumped into Carmen Carrera as she was walking around Los Angeles and, of course, they asked about Caitlyn Jenner. Before you know it, she basically told the camera Caitlyn doesn’t get what it’s like to be a trans woman in normal society. Grab some papitas, it gets good.
Carmen Carrera threw shade right off the bat when asked if she’d heard the rumor that “I Am Cait” is being cancelled.
“I think that Caitlyn is obviously awesome, brave and all those great things,” Carrera said. “But I think that she put herself in a tough situation because she hadn’t experienced much of the trans life.”
And, though she recognizes Caitlyn has brought some visibility to the trans community, Carmen thinks her knowledge of trans experiences starts and stops with living a closeted life.
“You have to learn about this community and you have to really understand our views and what we have actually been through,” Carrera told TMZ. “Because I don’t think she’s really experienced, aside from living a closeted life, I don’t think she’s experienced the adversity that we have faced, that I still face, on a daily basis.”
Carmen made a point to say that she doesn’t think Caitlyn will ever fully understand what it means to be a trans person in everyday society, because ?.
“Once she experiences that first-had, which I doubt she ever will because she lives in a beautiful castle, I think that then she might change some of her political views and some of her conservative views,” Carrera said in closing.
Jennifer Lopez has been wildly busy as of late – and that’s all despite a global pandemic. The Hustlers star attempted a takeover of the New York Mets baseball team with her husband A-Rod, she’s launching her own beauty line, and continues to push out grade-A social media content that keeps her fans begging for more.
Although she’s been busy, she still found the time to support her nibling – who has created a short film about how art was a lifeline for them when coming out. She used the term, which is a gender-neutral alternative for a niece or nephew, when discussing her sister Leslie Lopez’s child, Brendan Scholl (who is transgender and uses they/them pronouns).
Jennifer Lopez has introduced the world to her nibling Brendon and their new short film.
In a video posted to her Instagram TV channel, JLo introduced the film Draw With Me. She’s supporting the short film by her nibling which is about “accepting change and challenges with love, knowing when we do –everything is possible. Please enjoy the first 5 minutes of this incredible story. Stay tuned for the full documentary at film festivals worldwide and coming soon on VOD. A film by @ithakafilms @marcomaranghello @lyndalopez08,” she says in the post.
During her introduction, she explained, “Draw With Me is a short film about a transgender youth and their journey of coming out to their family, and also engaging with their art to help them cope with the feelings they were having during this time.”
She continued on to say, “The film is important and timely in its story and message, and can have a huge impact on those of us who watch and experience what Brendon and their family is going through in this time of acceptance and admission. It’s a story very close to my heart, because it was a family affair… because Brendon is my nibling.”
In the film, Brendon tells the very important and timely story of their coming out and coming to terms with their identity.
After JLo’s brief introduction, there’s a short five-minute preview of the film, featuring Brendon telling their coming out story. “It was in eighth grade when I finally felt comfortable with saying that I’m trans,” they said. As their mom Leslie explained in the film, “You’re talking about your identity as a person. Sexual preference has to do with who you go to bed with, and your identity is who you go to bed as.”
Brendon continued: “I’m just hit with how lucky I am in terms of the family and friends. Titi Jen made that post where she used the right pronouns. It felt really nice to have a family member in a very public way show their support, makes me appreciate things other people will do for me and for anyone else who’s struggling.”
They also share some very dark moments that illustrates how important films like ‘Draw With Me’ really are.
When talking about their lowest moment in the five-minute clip, Brendon says, “The darkest point was definitely when I wasn’t out to any of my teachers or my parents. I was worried about when I came out, that would be like the last straw, so to speak.” The family then reflect upon the night that Brendon very sadly tried to take their own life.
After this, Leslie says, came a turning point, “When it finally hit me, like, ‘Oh my God, my kid just trying to kill themself’, it just hit me. When you finally get to the acceptance part, then you realise it’s not about you. This is about my child.”
And when aunt Lynda asked Brendon about advice they would give to someone who has never had a trans person in their life, their message was clear. “The best thing I can say is just believe them. I shouldn’t have to be scared to tell people who I am,” they said. “If they don’t like me because I’m trans then it’s their loss. I’m not going to change myself just because this one person doesn’t like it.”
As young Latinos, there’s no denying the fact that learning to fold our family culture into the customs we acquire as Americans can shape our abilities to handle pressure. In the process of assimilation, we learn how to meet the demands of our parents and our peers all the while juggling the everyday expectations we shoulder while in school.
Congresswoman Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez knows all about managing these expectations. Last year, while addressing the media’s desire to see her pursue her career and fulfill societal expectations of her personal life (AKA get married) the politician reminded her followers that she can handle pressure because she grew up in a Latino household.
To boot, she was the only daughter in her home.
But what about the rest of us?
Those of us who maybe aren’t quite yet thriving politicians but manage to succeed in our everyday lives and do it all? We asked Latinas on FIERCE about how they’re able to relate to AOC’s comments and the responses were not only enlightening but a good reminder of Latina strength.
“And the oldest for that matter!! You not only learn to be tough, but also to be resourceful and amazingly great at delegating.” – emramirez1
“So true ughh the oldest child the only female and the first American born and the first to go to college oyeeeee the PRESSURE #mujerfuerte AINT NO ONE CAN TAKE ME DOWN lol por que our familia made us strong!” –paulinacastrellon
“Only daughter and only child! Thats some other level of #latinohousehold.” –wellnessparalamama
“Or a daughter in a Latino household with a strict father period!” –elliev03
“Look i went through allot and none of it made me stronger im a very shaky person theres a difference between trauma and tough love , i think she had tough love trauama fucks u up.” –__head___in___the____clouds__
“Oldest daughter, of 3 girls! You are the example!” – _cynnrenee
“I only wish the means to becoming tough and handle pressure for a Latina daughter didn’t root in traumatic machismo (male chauvinism) and systematic inequalities experiences. Surely there are ways to learn to have an affirmative tone and handle pressure without the trauma.” – marimukkii
“Or just being in a Latina household, period.” –mar_knut