Anyone who’s been in a long-term relationship knows that things change a little as time goes by. Many of these changes are awesome and comforting and great. And some are, well… kinda gross. (Especially when they involve the bathroom.) You’ll see what we mean:
You get to a point where you can communicate with only The Look.
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Valentine’s is actually OK when the other person knows EXACTLY what you want.
Three years have passed since Cardi B and Offset got married and quite a bit has happened for them in the interim. They’ve had a child, they’ve both managed to make Billboard music hits and come out with multiple albums. They’ve dealt with public spats, accusations of infidelity, breakups and reunions.
Last week Cardi announced that they’re officially ending it.
Now’s she’s opening up about why.
In a post shared to her Instagram LIVE on Friday, Cardi B confirmed reports that she’d filed to divorce Offset. Surprisingly, she even opened up about why. The rapper revealed that after being with Offset for four years, she “got tired of not seeing things eye to eye” and that she has “not shed not one tear” since making her decision.
Further referencing her decision to file, Cardi explained that “Every single time that this guy has been so crazy, so f—ed up and it hits the media, I’m always crying, always sad because I don’t like that type of s—,” she explained before going on to assert that “this time, I wasn’t crying. You want to know why? The reason for my divorce is not because of none of that s— that ever happened before. It’s not because of cheating. I’m seeing people be like, ‘Oh, he has a baby on the way.’ That’s a whole f—ing complete lie. That’s the second time people are trying to pin babies over here. No, that’s bulls—.”
Ultimately, the rapper admitted to growing tired of the dynamic of her relationship with her “Clout” collaborator.
“I just got tired of f—ing arguing,” she confessed. “I got tired of not seeing things eye to eye. When you feel like it’s just not the same anymore, before you actually get cheated on, I’d rather just leave.”
“Nothing crazy out of this world happened, sometimes people really do grow apart,” she admitted. “I been with this man for four years. I have a kid with this man, I have a household with this man…sometimes you’re just tired of the arguments and the build-up. You get tired sometimes and before something happens, you leave.”
The “WAP rapper” filed for divorce from Offset last week.
Cardi filed for divorce from the Migos member earlier this week on September 15. The divorce petition was filed with the Fulton County Superior Court in Atlanta, Georgia.
“Offset and Cardi both continue to put Kulture first through this troubling time,” a source reportedly told Us Magazine. According to reports, the couple has a hearing set for Wednesday, November 4.
In December 2018, Cardi confirmed that she had split from Offset in an Instagram video where she claimed they “grew out of love.”
“So everybody been bugging me and everything and you know I’ve been trying to work things out with my baby’s father for a hot minute now,” Cardi said. “We are really good friends and we are really good business partners — you know he’s always somebody that I run to talk to, and we got a lot of love for each other — but things just haven’t been working out between us for a long time. It’s nobody fault I guess we just grew out of love, but we are not together anymore. It might take time to get a divorce and I’m going to always have a lot of love for him because he is my daughter’s father.”
At the time, Offset begged to be taken back and gave her a long apology on Instagram.
“I only got one birthday wish and that’s to get my wife back Cardi,” Offset revealed. “We’re going through a lot of things right now, a lot of things in the media. I want to apologize to you Cardi. I embarrassed you. I made you go crazy.”
Soon after, the couple reunited and made things official at the 2019 Grammys. As part of an interview with Vogue this past January, Cardi opened up about forgiving Offset’s infidelity.
“Everybody has issues,” Cardi explained. “I believe in forgiveness. I prayed on it. Me and my husband, we prayed on it. We had priests come to us. And we just came to an understanding like, bro, it’s really us against the world. He has my back for everything, I have his back for everything, so when you cheat, you’re betraying the person that has your back the most. ‘Why would you do that?’ We have come to a clear understanding. For me, monogamy is the only way. I’ll beat your ass if you cheat on me.”
If you’re here, it means you’ve made the decision to make a bigger step of commitment with your partner and have decided to move in together. For some of you, things are all uphill from the moving in process, for others it will take a lot more hard work and dedication to make things work (if that’s what you choose in the long-haul.) Fortunately, plenty of chicas are familiar with the experience of moving in with a partner and are offering up some insightful advice on how to merge your life with a partner without causing harm and keeping yourself sane.
Recently, we asked our FIERCE readers who have experienced or are currently living with their significant other for some tips.
Check out the best advice and tips below!
“Pick your battles. Everyone has their own messes and cleaning styles. Have patience to learn how they do things and for them to see how you do things. It’s also important to make time for yourself by yourself in your own home and for them to do so as well. Communication is key! (But also remember that communication doesn’t mean to fight all the time).” –jenoemi87
“You are not his/her mother. You are not his/her caretaker. You are not his/her personal chef. You are a unit. You are a team. There’s no I in team.” –lisztobombs
“Make sure you have schedules alone time daily or at least weekly👌🏾 it’s so easy to get caught up spending so much time with your person and start to lose yourself. This will only put a strain on your relationship + it’s not worth it. ALWAYS designate time that’s just for you + encourage them to do the same.” –theflowerchildbruja
“Separate bank accounts. Share bills and chores equitably. Maintain individual interests.” –deannavillanuevasaucedo
“Be patient. Not everyone was raised the same way you were.” –alexandriatrece
“Set boundaries!!!!!! Talk about finances openly. Don’t judge each other. Have patience but don’t take anyone’s sh*t.” –lisztobombs
“Get two restrooms!! It might be more money but it’s definitely worth your sanity.” –savannah_smilesssss
“Don’t be so hard on eachother. Don’t have such high expectations from your spouse, make it a point to organize and declutter every month bc most likely you’ll be moving things in the house around a lot. If you’re having issues with your partner holding up their end on chores assign them certain day where you both tackle them. Sometimes it can get overwhelming so it’s okay to walk away and finish things later. Communicate as much as possible if you’re feeling a certain way.” –neomiceleste
“Communicate. Communicate. Communicate. About everything- money, dishes, bills, hygiene regiments, sex, E👏🏼VER👏🏼Y👏🏼THING👏🏼 Trust yourself. And have a backup plan & secret savings because you never know 🤓 breakup or no, things could go south and you’ll need funds.” –alexis_danielle_quiroz
“Make time for yourselves – and also plan out chores, etc ahead of time so neither of you feel like you’re doing more than the other. Team work makes the dream work and that goes with romantic partners and also just friendships in general.” –bperformer
“Remember that you’re a partnership. Partners. That means no one is “helping out around the house” or “covering” for you. That home is yours to both care for, to cook in, clean, decorate, and provide for. Never forget that.” –alicianna88
“People aren’t mind readers so if something is bothering you let them know. Make sure the you have your own space even if it’s a corner of your room that just yours to adorne and feel safe. It can be a vanity, alter, a desk, etc. Understand each other’s love language.” –arcoiris_31
“If you are both working full time, each of you are in charge of dinner every other night. Whether it’s cooking/takeout/paying at a restaurant dinner is the responsibility one of you every other night. If you or your partner don’t know how to cook, learn together to achieve it.” –tarotqween
“Therapy. For each partner or for both. Couples therapy is not for marriages, it’s for people. Getting therapy doesn’t mean your relationship is in bad shape. It means that you value getting help with something you care about but that’s also super complex. Relationships are not easy.” –teresanastasia
“Speak about everything and all of it the first day! Or even before! who’s gonna do what and how it’s gonna be done, talk about what your relationship will be like, talk about having people over, talk about who pays what, listen and learn their ways because it’s HARRRRRD to do all this after time has passed and you feel the wrath of not communicating. But most importantly have fun with your new best friend/slumber party partner ! do stuff in the middle of the night, walk around naked (if you can) enjoy each other’s company!” –gold.dayummm
“Discuss how they load the toilet paper in the dispenser.-rixflixs
“Separate bank accounts & make a budget of all mutual costs to split evenly down the middle.” –rebelada
“Ask for references from past roommates/live-in partners.” –quezso
“This should be titled what information should each of you reveal to the other before moving in together: credit history, bank statements, pay stubs, retirement accounts. How will you divide bills and home duties?” –latangueranyc
“Live with them for at least a year before you go marrying them lol. People who don’t live together first tend to end up having problems down the road. Get used to each other’s living habits, and routines, or work out new habits and routines together. As long as everyone is happy and things are mostly peaceful.” –october_dreams
“Always keep bank accounts and car leases/ loans separate! Always!!!”-e.d.g626
“Be Respectful Communicators. Remember that not everyone will act, think and do as you. you have to be patient when they can’t reciprocate that and don’t let shit slide either. Set boundaries too because you need to take care of your mental health too. The right ones always respect these basics.” –ferarose_
“Talk finances! Don’t use your name for bills he is responsible for.” –mar_aqui_
“COMPASSION for communication. You are growing as a couple and it may take time to find the right form of communication when being in the same place. Keep yourself independent and have your private time even if it’s under the same roof. Set ground rules before someone gets used to something.” –mariposa.in.action
“You will be sharing your space, make sure you both understand that, it’s no longer just “I” or “mine”.” –ari.r.huichapa
“Never get joint bank accounts. Keep your money separate.” –jayyyyubz
“Communication and patience are essentials. Talk to one another and set the expectations at the beginning about bills, cleanliness of the house/apt. And don’t be afraid to speak up and talk when the expectations aren’t being met. You two should be EQUALS. It’s really easy to fall into stereotypical gender roles, especially coming from a typical Hispanic upbringing.” –21djenne
“Talk about who is going to clean the bathroom, kitchen etc ahead of time.” –offical_hartbreaker
“Invest in some time, it doesn’t have to be a lot of time, each day to be really in each other’s company without electronic interruptions. Whether it be talking, dancing, or just holding each other, give yourselves that time.” –senorita_maketa