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Big time rapper Cardi B might have carved her career from a different path, but there’s no doubt she’s done a lot of things right to get where she is today. The Dominican-Trinidadian rapper managed to transform her career multiple times within the span of just a few years. Having started as a stripper she turned her life around as a reality tv star and then came up on the up as a multi-platinum rapper. Now, the stripper-turned-reality-star-turned-rapper is turning a new leaf and becoming an actress ( if you didn’t already know her film debut will be alongside J.Lo in the film “Hustlers.) So like we said, she’s done a lot of things right and made some clearly lucrative decisions.
However, we’ve gotta say Cardi’s latest choice is giving us some pause.
It looks like Cardi has a new tattoo and the content and location of her newest ink has people talking.
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On July 22nd, Cardi’s hubby, Offset, shared a Face-Time snapshot of a call between him and his wife on Instagram. In it, we can see Cardi contoured to show off her newest tattoo. In elaborate script on the back of her thigh, the tattoo reads “Offset.” This tat matches Offset’s own “Cardi B” tattoo that he sports on the back of his neck.
While getting a tattoo isn’t a big deal, the fact that she’s decided to ink her husband’s name on her has us a tad concerned. It’s no secret that Offset and Cardi have been on-again, off-again in the past. As recently as five months ago, the Grammy-winning rapper addressed rumors that Offset was once again stepping out. The pair has appeared publicly many times since their reconciliation and have appeared to be totally in love but, as we know, passions can burn out quickly.
Many see tattooing a lover’s name on oneself as a set up for the relationship to soon end.
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It’s tattoo superstition that once you get your love’s name inked on you, the relationship is about to be over. Unlike most superstitions, however; this one has a little bit of truth to back it up.
Take for example the singer and actress Adrienne Bailon.
She famously dated a certain Kardashian brother back in 2007. During their time together, the Latina inked the famous last name on her butt before the relationship ended because of infidelity.
“I made a very bad decision!” Bailon shared. The Latina eventually got the tattoo removed in 2013 in a very painful procedure “You can smell your flesh burning,” she graphically explained.
Bailon is far from alone in her former tattoo regrets.
Actress Eva Longoria also knows the pain of regrettable tattoos.
Back when she was married to NBA star, Tony Parker, the star got a set of three tattoos honoring their marriage. The first was Parker’s jersey number, the second was the date of their wedding and the third was Parker’s initials. When the marriage ended in 2010, Longoria also endured the painful procedure of getting all three tattoos removed.
Christina Aguilera also made the mistake of getting a tattoo in honor of now ex-husband, Jordan Bratman.
The Latina diva got her then-husband’s initials tattooed onto her elbow in the Hebrew alphabet. Whether it was a sign or just a mishap, the tattoo DOESN’T actually say “JB.” It was actually mistranslated and says the number “12” instead. This could have been a lot more embarrassing had the couple stayed together but we’re sure that Aguilera still has to regret the tattoo a little bit.
It isn’t just people who get their loved one’s names tattooed on themselves who regret it.
A spur of the moment decision resulted in Demi Lovato getting her friend’s lips tattooed on her forearm.
The singer soon grew annoyed with the piece, however; and re-dubbed it the “vagina tattoo.” In 2012, the Latina had it covered up with new art in the form of a white rose. Lovato likes the new tat better but still definitely regrets that first one.
Jessica Alba also recently admitted that she had a couple of tattoos that she wishes she never committed to ink.
“I do have a few tattoos, and I regret one of them…maybe two. I got it when I was like 17 and I’m so irritated that I got it. I got it lasered many times and it’s not coming out.”
She’s referring to a back and back-of-neck tattoo that she got as a young woman. The neck tattoo is a sprig of flowers and the back ink is a pair of angel wings. The neck tat has been lasered a few times but some tattoos take longer than others to remove.
The point we’re trying to make is that sometimes you love something and think it makes sense to immortalize it on your skin. Yet, the truth is that a tattoo isn’t all that permanent anymore so maybe you should find a less painful way to commit to your love. Either way, a good tattoo is one that you don’t end up regretting later.
What would you do if an ex of yours were to hit you up out of the blue? To some it might not be a big deal, to others, it might be a little weird, and to many, it might just be a little random.
Added plot twist: what would you do if an ex of yours were to hit you up right before his wedding day? What are you supposed to do in a situation like that? Alexa, play “Someone Like You” by Adele.
Last week, Twitter user Alexsa Sanchez Aquilar tweeted out a text she received from an ex right before his wedding day.
Yup, you heard that right.
In a post to her Twitter feed, Sanchez Aquilar shared that her ex texted after out of the blue. The day before his wedding. the “I’m getting married tomorrow. I wanted to send you this message. (My fiance knows I’m sending this to you) Thank you for being my first love. Thank you for always encouraging me, thank you for keeping me out of trouble, thank you for the times you took care of me when I was sick, and depressed. Thank you for loving me. If you haven’t already I hope you one day find love,” the message says.
While the woman who shared the tweet didn’t say much when sharing the initial screenshot beside “i–i’m speechless” –– other people on Twitter had a lot of mixed reactions as the tweet quickly went viral.
The really long message from her ex goes on to say, “If you loved me that much when we were young I can only imagine how strong people and powerful your love is now. The way your heart is made it’s amazing. I know we were only kids when we dated but you taught me what love is. To the man who is lucky enough to have you as their wife I hope he treats you with care, I hope he knows who he has in front of him, I hope he shows you love and loyalty every day. You deserve that and more.”
“My point in all of this is, you are the reason why I know how to love someone. You taught me love, you taught me how to deal with my anger, how to deal with my depression and how to live life to the fullest and I’m grateful for you. I wish you love and happiness.”
BuzzFeed, who first wrote about the viral tweet, also reached out to Aguilar for comment. “At first, I didn’t know what to say. I started crying when I read the text –– it warmed my heart that I helped him be a better version of himself.”
But of course, many didn’t share Aguilar’s sentiment had questions about why the ex felt the need to send her a text the day before his wedding?
Like, should Aguilar have been like “congratulations, but are you sure about getting married?”
While some understood where @masonrain_ was coming from, they felt that perhaps the ex-boyfriend was simply reflecting and expressing his gratitude toward Aquilar –– even if the timing felt a bit sketchy.
But @masonrain_ flat out thought it was disrespectful to both Aguilar and the fiancé. It got people thinking and arguing about whether you’d be a little thrown off if your partner told you that they’d be reaching out to their ex the day before your wedding?
Ultimately, many Twitter users disputed these sentiments and arguments pointing out that in a lot of cases, breakups and past relationship make can make us stronger and that reflecting on them and growing from those mistakes is a good thing.
Plus, while some relationship may have ended badly –– you don’t always have to hold on to resentment or residual feelings of animosity for the rest of your life.
It sounds like Aguilar and her ex-boo went through a lot during their time together as a young couple, and it sounds like they look back at it fondly rather than negatively.
For one, Aguilar tells BuzzFeed that the texts weren’t weird at all –– despite everybody else’s two cents about the situation. She tells BuzzFeed that she and her ex had helped each other through difficult times. “We helped each other heal, I feel like no matter what happens, he and I will forever have respect towards each other,” she said.
Like Aguilar said we can all benefit from a broken heart and allow ourselves to see why a relationship might not have worked out and chalk it up it as a lesson learned.