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How To Not Be Shy Around Your Crush

Keep It Honest and You’ll Lose Your Fear

When you’ve got a crush on someone, you’ll usually do everything in your power to keep it a secret. WRONG MOVE. How do you expect to get anywhere with someone if they never know how you feel? Josh breaks down how being open and honest about your feelings–even if it’s scary at first– not only helps you overcome your shyness, but also gets you to stop fearing rejection, boosts your confidence and, ultimately, lands you the girl.

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5 Tips So You Can Succeed At Your 2021 Resolutions

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5 Tips So You Can Succeed At Your 2021 Resolutions

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Your resolutions are your goals and aspirations. This means you can’t leave it up to anyone else. That is a surefire way to fall behind and not accomplish everything you put your mind to. Here are some tips to help you get through the new year and achieve your goals.

Don’t feel bad about being seflish.

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You are trying to better yourself. That is the point of making resolutions. This means that sometimes you have to be selfish and think about yourself and only yourself. If you want to get in better shape, you might have to tell your friends you can’t go eating with them all of the time. Or you want to follow your passion and need to create time to do you and block off time to do it. You deserve the investment so take the time to invest.

Your mom will love to keep you accountable.

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Latina moms are always here for you for anything. This also definitely absolutely goes for keeping you accountable. This is something that she already does naturally. You never have to remind her of a goal of yours because she will always remember and she will always follow up. She wants to know that her baby is getting everything they want out of life. Let them know your resolutions and you will get weekly check-ins to be held accountable.

Don’t go for those fad diets.

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Be good to yourself and your body. Make better food choices. We all have some kind of healthy food that we like. If you are trying to lose weight, let yourself enjoy the journey Find those foods that you already love that are good for you and your goal. Now, find ways to introduce more of that into your life. Those foods and replace the not-so-good foods to give you a better food option. Don’t go to the place of scarcity and famine. That won’t do you any good.

Light a candle to Saint Anthony, the Saint of Lost Causes.

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We have seen abuela and mami light candles to Saint Anthony so many times. At this point, he is legit a part of our family and there is a reason that he is so beloved in our homes. If you find yourself really struggling, go ahead and give this a trick. You might be surprised by the results of putting your faith in him.

Visualize the moment you are working towards.

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Take the time to see this through first. Don’t just jump into it without knowing where you are going. This will give you a roadmap that will lead you right to where you want to go. It is so important to visualize our goals if you want them to become realities.

READ: Reddit Users Are Sharing Their Craziest New Year’s Eve Stories And I Can’t Believe Some Of Them Didn’t Make The News

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The Romance Between Frida Kahlo And Chavela Vargas Gets Renewed Attention As Long Lost Love Letters Are Uncovered

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The Romance Between Frida Kahlo And Chavela Vargas Gets Renewed Attention As Long Lost Love Letters Are Uncovered

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Frida Kahlo’s paintings perfectly show the artist’s whirlwind of emotions throughout her life. Her art gives a look into her passions, her pains and her loves, which went far beyond Diego Rivera. 

It’s long been known that the prolific artist had many loves throughout her life, both men and women, and including many major personalities of their time. Everyone from Tina Modotti and the politician León Trotsky were on that list in addition to her longtime companion, Diego Rivera. However, one of Kahlo’s great loves and of whom little is said was the singer Chavela Vargas.

Chavela, who was 12 years younger than Frida, spoke on several occasions about the love she had for Kahlo when her musical career began to take off, while she was “a child.” And thanks to recently discovered love letters we have a new perspective on this little known relationship.

New love letters give us details into the romance between Frida Kahlo and Chavela Vargas.

Although Chavela had claimed to have destroyed all of the love letters she received from Frida Kahlo, new love letters have recently been discovered that paint a new light on the romance.

There is one letter Kahlo had written to Carlos Pellicer, a Mexican poet, to express her feelings about the singer. She told him that after meeting Chavela she felt attracted to her from the very first moment – in some pretty steamy language.

“Today I met Chavela Vargas. Extraordinary, lesbian, what’s more, I wanted her erotically. I don’t know if she felt what I did. But I think she’s a liberal enough woman, that if she asks me, I wouldn’t hesitate for a second to undress in front of her. How many times do you not want to get laid and that’s it? She, I repeat, is erotic. Is it a gift that heaven sends me?”, wrote Kahlo.

It was shortly after Kahlo wrote that letter that Chavela went to live with her and Diego at La Casa Azul. In another recently discovered letter, Vargas writes – of her time at Casa Azul – that she felt very happy and in love, as well as loved by Kahlo.

“She taught me a lot of things and I learned a so much. Without giving away too much, I held the sky with my hands, with every word, every morning,” she said.

The lovers had an intense relationship that has fascinated fans to this day.

The two had met at one of the many parties Kahlo and Rivera would host at their home in Casa Azul. The couple were prolific entertainers and often threw extravagant parties.

Before her death, Vargas detailed that night’s meeting.

“A painter friend invited me. She said: ‘There’s a party at Frida’s house tonight. Shall we go?’ I went and the atmosphere was full of people. The night passed, we sang, everyone danced, everyone entertained,” Vargas says in the documentary Chavela, released in 2017.

“I was in a daze when I saw her face, her eyes. I thought she couldn’t be a being from this world. Her eyebrows together were a swallow in flight. Without yet having the maturity of a woman in me, since I was a very young girl, I sensed that I could love that being with the most devoted love in the world, the strongest love in the world,” said the singer about Frida.

Although the romance didn’t last long thanks in part to the painter’s relationship with Diego Rivera.

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Vargas confessed that the romance didn’t last for a long time on the account of having to share the painter’s love with Diego Rivera. According to Vargas, one day Kahlo simply decided to abandon her.

“My words possibly hurt her a lot when I told her I was leaving and she told me: ‘I know. It is impossible to tie you to anybody’s life. I can’t tie you to my crutches or to my bed. Go away!’ And one day I opened the door and didn’t come back,” Vargas said.

Although the singer never spoke about whether she had intimate relationships with the painter, the romance, as well as the great love and attraction they felt for each other is something that cannot be denied.

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