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Parents Are Debating Whether Or Not It Is Harmful, Even Perverted, To Call A Baby A ‘Heartbreaker’ Or ‘Ladies Man’

Ever since Michelle Obama pointed out the ways in which parents inflict gender biases on children, we’ve been a lot more conscientious of the ways in which these impacts occur. In particular, we’ve become more concerned with how to teach young boys how to respect women and treat them responsibly. Recently a discussion on the site LipsickAlley about the use of terms like “ladies man” reminded us of another way that our culture and words can hinder these efforts.

LipstickAlley user Curlista93 recently asked users “who refer to their sons as “heartbreakers” and “ladies man” at a very young age” whether or not they thought using such terms were “more likely to encourage or allow fuckboi behavior” when their children get older.

It didn’t take long for women to come forward with all kinds of opinions and for us at FIERCE to nod our heads in approval.

Mostly because, as one user pointed out when terms like these are applied to young boys they often simply imply a “code for he ain’t gon be shit.”

Of course, comments like these are well-meaning. They’re intended really to tell parents that their child is attractive and even sweet maybe. Still, in a lot of ways messages to children, ones that they are “ladies men,” or “heartbreakers” indicate that these are admirable traits to beheld. Moreover, being defined by these characteristics is the goal.

As one user in the thread pointed out, it’s also extremely sexist. “Fathers/Mothers posting pics of their 2-year-old son calling them these names, and they usually never refer to their daughters as heartbreakers. I assume these parents are more likely to groom or allow certain behaviors during adolescence and young adulthood.”

Also, It’s oddly sexual

Some users on the thread strongly disagreed with this sentiment. As one user wrote, “It’s not that serious. It’s just another way to say he’s a handsome young man. Don’t think too hard about it. But there IS something oddly sexualizing about the comments. “I think it’s weird and inappropriate. Sexualizing underaged children, particularly infants and toddlers, reeks of pedophilia/grooming to me,” another user said in response to the question.

It’s a road map for a bad boyfriend.

“Some of y’all don’t understand the power of these messages we give to our children,” another user pointed out. “Telling the boys that they will be heartbreakers and telling the girls they will break a lot of hearts is all putting those thoughts into their minds that that’s what they should do and it’s fine. Just like telling them that they ain’t shit or just like Their sorry ass daddies.”

It sets the bar low.

As one user pointed out “Its code for he ain’t gon be shit.” Why tell boys they’re “heartbreakers” when you could call them “future feminists” and “activists in-the-making”?

It makes for an entitled man in the future.

“I think it sets up destructive and entitled mindsets and behaviors surrounding social and dating dynamics. I loathe anything and everything that sexualizes or fetishizes kids and promotes highly questionable and problematic behaviors, attitudes, and complexes.”

Sure, as some users pointed out, in the end, comments like these might not aim to be so serious.

Often times, admirers of your children might just be trying to implement a compliment. But words have power (have the last 4 years not taught any of us this??). No doubt, comments like these might be coming from well-meaning people but they are comments that stem from some pretty problematic cultural norms about male behavior.

Identifying whether or not we’re dating a man or a little boy can be hard enough as it is. Let’s avoid making it worse.

Latino Father And Daughter Both Born On February 29, Break Record On Day Of Her Birth

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Latino Father And Daughter Both Born On February 29, Break Record On Day Of Her Birth

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For one dad and daughter duo, it really is like father, like daughter.

Being a Leaper, someone born on February 29, is already a rarity as is. Because February 29 occurs on the calendar only every four years, odds of being born on a leap day are just 1 in 1,461. So what’s more rare and exciting than having a birthday that lands on a Leap Year? Having two family members born on one. Enter Ivan Peñaloza, 32, and his newborn daughter Camila Peñaloza.

The father and daughter share the rare coincidence of being born on February 29th.

Camila Peñaloza was born at Mercy San Juan Medical Center the day of what is technically her father’s eighth birthday. While the likelihood of being born on February 29th is just 1 in 1,461, the chances of having a double birthday is a chance of only one in two million double birthday.

In a statement through the Mercy San Juan Medical Center, Ivan Peñaloza said that he counted the coincidence as a blessing.

“I prayed to God for my little baby girl and now we are going to share this amazing bond for the rest of our lives and I am just so happy,” he said in a statement through the hospital.

To celebrate her special birthday, the staff at the hospital gave Camila a leapfrog outfit and sang happy birthday to her and her father.

“Having a child is such a special experience already but it has been that much more magical,” Jennifer Rebollar Cortez, mother to Camila, also said in a statement.

“We feel incredibly fortunate to share in this special, life-changing moment with this family. Our heartfelt congratulations and we wish them a lifetime of love and happiness with their new bundle of joy,” Michael Korpiel, the president of the Mercy San Juan Medical Center, said in a statement.

Brazilian Newborn Goes Viral For Stankface After Being Born Via C-Section

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Brazilian Newborn Goes Viral For Stankface After Being Born Via C-Section

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In an age where everyone is likely bound to experience their 15 minutes of fame thanks to TikTok, Isabela Pereira de Jesus has earned hers sooner than most. Born in Rio de Janeiro on Feb. 13 of this year, the newborn quickly went viral on social media after a picture of her birth was shared online.

According to Insider, the newborn’s birth was captured by professional photographer Rodrigo Kunstmann.

In a post to Facebook, Kunstmann shared the image of her birth on Facebook writing “Today is my birth and I don’t even have clothes for this event.” Pereira de Jesus can be seen being delivered by cesarean section by doctors in the snapshot which features her mean pout.

The image quickly went viral on social media with over 1K comments and 3.5K reactions on Facebook as of Wednesday.

Users on Facebook were quick to laugh at the post calling out how adorable it is.

“Put. Me. Back,” one user joked of the image.

“You guys woke me up? For what? ❤️????❤️,” another commented.

Another user joked that the image was, “A forewarning of her teen years.”

In an interview with Today Parents, Kunstmann said the little girl’s parents found the image hilarious.

“They were like, ‘This could be an internet meme!’ Everybody thought it was funny.” According to Kuntsman, despite the picture, Isabella is a sweet little baby.

“She’s very sweet,” he told Today. “The picture was just a moment.”