Welcome to a new age, machismo! And guess what? Our woke dads and moms are not inviting you to the banquet.
Just a few years ago, our brothers, primos, and tíos might have been chided for even floating the idea of wearing something like a dress or playing with a doll. Today parents are allowing their kids to express themselves in whatever blatant or innocent ways they choose.
Twitter user @_abbybeltran and her husband are allowing their son Jayce to buck all things machismo and recently shared an example of their decision to let him do so with friends.
In a post to her Twitter account, the user shared a video of her son from months ago dressed as one of his favorite TV characters: Tina Belcher.
The “Bob’s Burgers” character has become a favorite amongst TV watchers and her son Jayce. In the video, the user’s son can be seen wearing, a wig, bow, and a skirt to model his favorite character. When asked to look at the camera he seems to proudly strike classic Tina poses.
In a follow-up comment about the costume, the user wrote “I’m just a proud mom who decided to repost my son’s Halloween costume. His dad & I appreciate all the love we’ve been receiving. We are proud to be this thanos, Mario, bobs burgers & paw patrol loving boys parents. Love & kindness always outweighs the negative.”
Users on Twitter were quick to praise Jayce and his parents for the costume.
Basically everyone loved this little guy for picking this epic costume!
And other guys started sharing pics of themselves dressed as the character.
The Tina Belcher obsession never ends!
Literally, there’s a men as Tina movement!
And I am here for the cuteness.
Honestly I wouldn’t hate it if this was the summer outfit of 2019.
But for real. Could this look abolish machismo? I think yes.
Father’s Day is just one day a year where we show our dads love. They do so much for us making sure we have everything we need and that we are always taken care of. While some times our dads let their machismo flare up and try to control things, times are changing and a lot of our dads are changing along with them. For some people, our dads never allowed for anything machismo to enter our houses and it is something we are so grateful for. We asked you to tell us how your father kept the machismo at bay in the house and here’s what you had to say.
Happy Father’s Day to all the dads that never treated their wives as someone who had to do everything for them.
There is something so sweet and kind about dads taking on household duties to make life easier for their wives. We all stan a Latino dad who rolls up his sleeves and gets to work cooking and cleaning without being asked.
You have to show some respect to single fathers who did it all.
It’s hard to raise kids when both parents are in the picture. Coordinating schedules and figuring out responsibilities to keep everything moving is not easy. It is even harder as a single parent having to work full-time and taking care of your little ones.
Leading by example is one of the greatest ways to make sure you leave your kids with a strong example for the rest of their lives.
There’s nothing more inspirational than watching your dad strive for his dreams while keeping you motivated to achieve yours. Watching your dad sacrifice and push to be his best will definitely get you in the same mood.
Some times it is as simple as not pushing for your daughters to realize their full worth.
Our culture has always highly valued women getting married to show the world their self-worth. There is nothing better than a dad telling his hijas that you can be whoever and whatever you want to be.
A working father helping his stay-at-home wife with chores is everything.
Being a stay-at-home mom is a very hard job. You are essentially an office manager making sure that everyone gets to their appointments on time and has enough to eat. Having a partner to help you our is crucial to making the whole thing work.
Teaching valuable life lessons is so important.
It is nice to be taught things that are so important around the house. Obviously, the most important thing to know is how to cook and clean. However, if he can teach you how to save money and take care of a car, all the better.
Even when they did have machismo moments, he knows how to make things better for everyone in his own ways.
He might say some things that are old school at times but his overall actions are what matter. If he is teaching you how to be a strong woman who can take care of yourself, that’s the best.
Even something as simple as working nights is a major move.
How sweet that this father would work nights to give his wife the chance to work during the day. He might be doing it to guarantee a dual-income household, but it is still so sweet. He sacrificed his nights to give his children his attention during the day.
Down with the patriarchy, up with the matriarchy.
We all know that abuela holds the real power in the family. Whatever she says go. Its nice to know that some das are instilling the message that, as a woman, you deserve to live the life you want regardless of other people’s thoughts.
Pushing for education will get you far.
Knowing that this dad is planting flowers and talking about the arts is just too much. Way to go, dad.
Let the women protest for their rights because it is important.
We are in a time when people need to fight for their rights. Everyone is watching as marginalized group after marginalized group is taken down a scary path. Fortunately, we have bad ass dads willing to let us fight back.
Some times they even do the hard tasks, like talking about periods.
Who else has had their father explain what a period is? It is something that so many people are uncomfortable talking about and acknowledging. However, periods are normal and some times your dad has to explain it to you.
Take a moment this Father’s Day to thank your dad for making your life everything it is with his life lessons, dad jokes, and understanding that you are your own person.
Happy Father’s Day to all the dads out there doing their thing and raising strong children.
A recent study conducted by Brazilian-based gender equality organization Promundo and Unilever-owned cologne brand AXE concluded that toxic masculinity costs the US economy at least $15.7 billion annually.
The study, entitled “The Cost of the Man Box” comes after Promundo and AXE’s 2017 report, “The Man Box”
And Promundo knows what they’re talking about–a Brazilian-based organization, this company aims to “prevent violence by engaging men and boys in partnership with women and girls”.
The original 2017 report investigated how harmful toxic masculine ideals are for young men. In the study, “The Man Box” was defined as a “rigid construct of cultural ideas about male identity”. According to the report, this construct included “acting tough, looking physically attractive, sticking to rigid gender roles, being heterosexual, having sexual prowess, and using aggression to resolve conflicts”. AKA: classic expressions of machismo.
In the 2019 report, “The Cost of the Man Box”, Promundo and AXE measured the economic cost of toxic masculinity by drawing from available public health data about negative incidents they believe are directly caused by warped ideas of what it means to be a man.
The incidents they believe are influenced by toxic masculinity are “traffic accidents, suicide, depression, sexual violence, bullying and violence, and binge drinking”.
“We already know that when guys have stereotypical ideas about manhood — like they need to be tough, not ask for help, and seem cool at all costs — they might be closed off, rude, or tell a sexist joke,” said CEO of Promundo, Gary Barker, in an interview with Teen Vogue. “What our study confirms is that the impact of these ideas go even further, and that they have real, economic costs.”
Barker also stated that he hoped the report will serve as a “wake-up call” to a society that values cold hard cash over less quantifiable factors like the negative social and emotional impact of toxic machismo.
As we know, Latina Twitter has a thing or two to say about machismo…
While many men think that acting tough and aggressive is a way to protect themselves, it’s actually costing them lucrative jobs and healthy relationships.
This Latina minced no words expressing what she thinks about machismo culture:
Sometimes, it’s hard to even tell what machismo culture is because it’s so deeply ingrained in our society.
This Latino recognizes that there’s a way to respect your culture while looking for ways for it to improve:
We’re making progress, but we still have a lot of work to do. Hopefully, reports like this one will keep pushing the dial forward.
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