A Waitress At A Bar Changed A Pregnant Woman’s Cocktails To Virgin Without Her Permission

Motherhood is stressful. Especially when you have a newborn baby. Your body is a minefield of hormones and emotions and is trying to repair itself after giving birth. During this time, you only have baby on the brain and are too exhausted to worry about anyone else besides that new little guy. If you have other children in addition to your newborn, it’s even harder. 

We’ve got to give it up to moms and — especially — we’ve got to cut new moms some slack. 

However, not everyone feels this way and we’ve recently seen some major mommy-shaming aimed at women who are just trying to take a break from all of their mom duties. 

Instagram / @snooki

On July 30th, Nicole “Snooki” Polizzi shared a photo of herself and her newest bundle of joy, baby Angelo. Angelo is the brand new addition to Snooki’s household and joins siblings Lorenzo and Giovanna. With such a full house, it must be a rare occasion to capture calm moments like the one Snooki posted in this pic. In it, Angelo enjoys a bottle of breast milk while Snooki relaxes with her own beverage. The problem people see with this is that the drink Snooki happens to be sipping is a glass of red wine.

Haters were quick to mom shame the “Jersey Shore” star, judging her decision to drink alcohol while obviously giving her son milk that she expressed herself. 

Instagram / @snooki

Some comments questioned Snooki’s fitness to mother while under the influence of one glass of wine. This comment, in particular, painted a hypothetical situation where Snooki would spill her wine all over her baby’s face. The Instagram user even accuses MTV of being the reason why Snooki is drinking a glass of wine. 

This comment tried to shame the reality star for breastfeeding while imbibing but Snooki was quick to school them about the lengths breastfeeding mothers go through to provide safe milk for their babes.

Instagram / @snooki

Most people may not realize this but breastfeeding women can ingest alcohol without harming their babies. The American Academy of Pediatrics Section on Breastfeeding says that drinking no more than 1-2 8 oz glasses of wine per week is completely harmless. They also advise mothers to hold off on breastfeeding for 2 or more hours to minimize any presence of alcohol in the milk. 

There’s also something called the “pump and dump” method. In doing this, breastfeeding mothers pump their breast milk after drinking alcohol and dump it down the sink to avoid giving any milk to their babies that might contain traces of alcohol. However, the American Academy of Pediatrics has said that this really only benefits moms by easing any concerns they might have. As long as they follow guidelines, their milk is safe. In summary, moms like Snooki put in the work to make sure their babies get the good stuff while still having an occasional drink and that’s totally okay. 

However, Snooki isn’t the only one being mom-shamed over pregnancy, babies and drinking alcohol. 

Reddit / AITA

Recently, a thread in Reddit’s “Am I The Asshole” section discussed this very topic. A waitress at a restaurant was serving four women when she overheard one of them comment that she was “14 weeks along.” The women had each ordered a house cocktail but the waitress didn’t think much about it since it was only one drink. 

Things changed when the group of women began ordering more cocktails. 

Reddit / AITA

At this point, the waitress decided to make a decision for the possibly pregnant woman. She went to the bartender and convinced him to make one of the cocktails a virgin. This non-alcoholic deception continued for several rounds. 

Then, things took an ugly turn when the deceit was uncovered. 

Reddit / AITA

The possibly pregnant woman’s drinks were marked as “virgin” — as they should have been — but this note exposed the waitress’ trick. The woman came back and asked about the notation on the receipt and the waitress finally fessed up. She told the woman she assumed that she wanted virgin drinks because she was pregnant. 

After the woman left with a refund, the waitress was verbally reprimanded by her manager and taken off the schedule. The bartender was also forced to take leave while the event was investigated. As her manager explained, the restaurant can be charged with discrimination for a stunt like the one the waitress pulled. 

Obviously, tons of people had a lot to say about this, but overall she was marked “YTA.”

Reddit / AITA

As this comment says, if the waitress was uncomfortable with the situation, she should have just refused service or talked to her manager. It would have avoided the well-meant deceit. 

Basically, these two instances teach us a very valid lesson: when it comes to pregnancy, breast feeding and child rearing, mind your own business.

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