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A Waitress At A Bar Changed A Pregnant Woman’s Cocktails To Virgin Without Her Permission

Motherhood is stressful. Especially when you have a newborn baby. Your body is a minefield of hormones and emotions and is trying to repair itself after giving birth. During this time, you only have baby on the brain and are too exhausted to worry about anyone else besides that new little guy. If you have other children in addition to your newborn, it’s even harder. 

We’ve got to give it up to moms and — especially — we’ve got to cut new moms some slack. 

However, not everyone feels this way and we’ve recently seen some major mommy-shaming aimed at women who are just trying to take a break from all of their mom duties. 

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On July 30th, Nicole “Snooki” Polizzi shared a photo of herself and her newest bundle of joy, baby Angelo. Angelo is the brand new addition to Snooki’s household and joins siblings Lorenzo and Giovanna. With such a full house, it must be a rare occasion to capture calm moments like the one Snooki posted in this pic. In it, Angelo enjoys a bottle of breast milk while Snooki relaxes with her own beverage. The problem people see with this is that the drink Snooki happens to be sipping is a glass of red wine.

Haters were quick to mom shame the “Jersey Shore” star, judging her decision to drink alcohol while obviously giving her son milk that she expressed herself. 

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Some comments questioned Snooki’s fitness to mother while under the influence of one glass of wine. This comment, in particular, painted a hypothetical situation where Snooki would spill her wine all over her baby’s face. The Instagram user even accuses MTV of being the reason why Snooki is drinking a glass of wine. 

This comment tried to shame the reality star for breastfeeding while imbibing but Snooki was quick to school them about the lengths breastfeeding mothers go through to provide safe milk for their babes.

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Most people may not realize this but breastfeeding women can ingest alcohol without harming their babies. The American Academy of Pediatrics Section on Breastfeeding says that drinking no more than 1-2 8 oz glasses of wine per week is completely harmless. They also advise mothers to hold off on breastfeeding for 2 or more hours to minimize any presence of alcohol in the milk. 

There’s also something called the “pump and dump” method. In doing this, breastfeeding mothers pump their breast milk after drinking alcohol and dump it down the sink to avoid giving any milk to their babies that might contain traces of alcohol. However, the American Academy of Pediatrics has said that this really only benefits moms by easing any concerns they might have. As long as they follow guidelines, their milk is safe. In summary, moms like Snooki put in the work to make sure their babies get the good stuff while still having an occasional drink and that’s totally okay. 

However, Snooki isn’t the only one being mom-shamed over pregnancy, babies and drinking alcohol. 

Reddit / AITA

Recently, a thread in Reddit’s “Am I The Asshole” section discussed this very topic. A waitress at a restaurant was serving four women when she overheard one of them comment that she was “14 weeks along.” The women had each ordered a house cocktail but the waitress didn’t think much about it since it was only one drink. 

Things changed when the group of women began ordering more cocktails. 

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At this point, the waitress decided to make a decision for the possibly pregnant woman. She went to the bartender and convinced him to make one of the cocktails a virgin. This non-alcoholic deception continued for several rounds. 

Then, things took an ugly turn when the deceit was uncovered. 

Reddit / AITA

The possibly pregnant woman’s drinks were marked as “virgin” — as they should have been — but this note exposed the waitress’ trick. The woman came back and asked about the notation on the receipt and the waitress finally fessed up. She told the woman she assumed that she wanted virgin drinks because she was pregnant. 

After the woman left with a refund, the waitress was verbally reprimanded by her manager and taken off the schedule. The bartender was also forced to take leave while the event was investigated. As her manager explained, the restaurant can be charged with discrimination for a stunt like the one the waitress pulled. 

Obviously, tons of people had a lot to say about this, but overall she was marked “YTA.”

Reddit / AITA

As this comment says, if the waitress was uncomfortable with the situation, she should have just refused service or talked to her manager. It would have avoided the well-meant deceit. 

Basically, these two instances teach us a very valid lesson: when it comes to pregnancy, breast feeding and child rearing, mind your own business.

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Vanessa Bryant Forced To Respond To ‘Beyond Hurtful’ Comments Made By Her Own Mom On ‘El Gordo y La Flaca’

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Vanessa Bryant Forced To Respond To ‘Beyond Hurtful’ Comments Made By Her Own Mom On ‘El Gordo y La Flaca’

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Within just nine months, Vanessa Bryant has (like all of us) had to deal with the stress and uncertainty of a pandemic, racial crisis and injustice, and the threats of unstable political leadership. She has also had to deal with the almighty devastation of losing her husband and daughter on the same day. You think this would be enough to ensure that she receives only sympathy, support, and light during this time but not so.

Recently, the wife of the late basketball great Kobe Bryant is dealing with negative claims taken to the press by her own mother.

In an interview with Univision, Bryant’s mother Sofia Laine claimed her daughter had kicked her out of her home.

Appearing on “El Gordo y La Flaca,” Laine claimed that her 38-year-old daughter had forced her out of a family home and made her return the car she used.

In a statement to People, Bryant defended herself saying “My husband and daughter passed away unexpectedly, and yet my mom has the audacity to do an interview on TV talking negatively about me while shedding tears about a car and home that wasn’t in her name.”

“She has removed all her diamond jewelry, emptied her apartment that I provide, and put the furniture in storage to appear as though she is without support,” Bryant went onto claim. “My husband and I have financially supported her over the past 20 years, and I continue to do so, in addition to her monthly alimony.”

Bryant went onto add that “contrary to previous reports, she has not been physically present or emotionally supportive for my daughters and me after my husband and daughter passed away. Going forward, I see what is most important to my mom and it is beyond hurtful. I hope this public airing of our personal relations will stop here.”

Bryant lost her husband, the late NBA star, and the couple’s second-oldest daughter Gianna in a tragic helicopter crash in January.

The crash claimed the lives of seven other people including Payton Chester, 13, Sarah Chester, 46, Alyssa Altobelli, 14,Keri Altobelli, 46, John Altobelli, 56, Christina Mauser, 38, and the helicopter’s pilot Ara Zobayan, 50.

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New Study Finds Black Newborns Are Three Times More Likely To Die Under The Care Of White Doctors

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New Study Finds Black Newborns Are Three Times More Likely To Die Under The Care Of White Doctors

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We all know that in the United States, Black lives are always under threat. Few know, however, that the threat against Black lives can start at a very young age.

A new study found that Black newborns born in the United States are three times more likely to survive their births when cared for by a Black doctor. On the other hand, Black newborns cared for by white physicians are three times more likely to die.

Horrifying, right?

Researchers found that Black infants are more likely to survive births led by Black doctors.

The death rate for Black infants is slashed nearly in half (39 and 58 percent) when a doctor who is Black leads the delivery.

The Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences published a study that found that the mortality rate for white babies is not dependent on the race of a doctor. “Strikingly, these effects appear to manifest more strongly in more complicated cases, and when hospitals deliver more Black newborns,” the authors of the study wrote. “The findings suggest that Black physicians outperform their White colleagues when caring for Black newborns.”

Researchers behind the study examined data from 1.8 million Florida birth records from 1992 to 2015.

The researchers paired the births with the race of the doctors involved.

The study lines up with a 2019 report from the Centers for Disease Control that revealed that Black newborns are two times more likely to die before their first birthday than white babies.

Studies have found that the U.S. mortality rate for Black women giving birth is particularly high for a developed country. As of 2018, the mortality rate for Black pregnant women was 37.1 per 100,000 live births. That’s three times the rate of maternal deaths related to non-Hispanic white and Hispanic women.

Researches involved in the study, are now urging hospitals to analyze their racial biases and health practices.

“Taken with this work, it gives warrant for hospitals and other care organizations to invest in efforts to reduce such biases and explore their connection to institutional racism,” the researchers explained. “Reducing racial disparities in newborn mortality will also require raising awareness among physicians, nurses, and hospital administrators about the prevalence of racial and ethnic disparities.”

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