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This Is What One Of Mexico’s Superstars Told Herself The Day She Decided To Walk Away From Abuse

Kate del Castillo has starred in telenovelas since she was a young girl and has been in the limelight basically her entire life. While some of her fans know about her turbulent marriage and divorce to Mexican soccer star Luis García, Kate recently opened up about the pain she endured during this time of abuse hoping to encourage women to walk away from any kind of abusive relationships.

Kate del Castillo opened up about the alleged domestic abuse she experienced while she was married to soccer player Luis García.

The video was released by Real Women Real Stories is “a social project designed to promote awareness of the often unseen hardships women face in different professions and places around the world.”

In the video, Kate says that when she met Luis she was 27 and thought he was very handsome and charming.

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She said that they dated for almost one year before he proposed. Kate said that looking back now she realizes “There was something in the back of my mind that was like a red light, saying something’s not right.” But added that she was in love and didn’t see those signals.

After only dating for about a year, the couple got married. Kate said things went wrong during their honeymoon.

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“My honeymoon was terrible,” Kate says in the video. She said she’d wait for him to go to sleep so she could cry alone. “I knew things would not be okay.”

“I thought that I had good self-esteem but this man broke me in many, many ways.”

“Even with my work, he would tell me that I’m a horrible actress that I should go and take classes. Every single day he would say, ‘Oh my god, you woke up uglier than yesterday,’ and he would laugh.”

She said it was comments like that that ultimately affected her self-esteem.

“He was the star and he thought that he was the star, but I was a star as well. I was very well known in Mexico, and he didn’t like that.”

Kate said that at first, she only experienced verbal abuse, and then it became physical.

“Then he started touching me and hitting me and kicking me — he tried to choke me many times.”

She said that the marriage only lasted a year and a half but to her, it felt like ten years.

Kate said that she knew she had hit rock bottom when she didn’t recognize herself anymore.

“There was one moment that I clicked eyes with myself, and what I saw devastated me because I was very skinny, I looked old, I looked ugly and of course unhappy. That’s why I’m so pissed about it — it’s not being a victim it’s that who can come and tear you apart and break you, just like that? How easy is that?”

She said she knew she wasn’t happy and that’s not the person she was.

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After looking at herself, she said she didn’t want to see herself in that light anymore. She knew she had to do something. When he went away for the World Cup in Japan, she packed her bags and left.

After walking away, she worked on rebuilding her confidence and self-respect. She says that was the toughest part.

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She says the most frustrating part of this relationship was the self-respect she lost. She was in shock that another person could tear her apart and traumatize her for the rest of her life.

Kate came forward about her story because she wants to help other women.

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“I don’t sacrifice not for my family, not for my career, no. If I do anything it’s because I think it’s for the best. If I give away my things or my emotions or whatever, it’s because in the end I think it’s going to be for the better, and that makes me feel amazing. But there’s no sacrifice. We don’t need to sacrifice. Women, we don’t need to apologize, for anything, for anything. For being a woman? Of course not.”

Luis did respond to her allegations by basically not denying that it happened.

According to Telemundo, he said: “I was very careful to say absolutely nothing, I did not say it several years ago, 15 or so, I will not say it now. For me it was a closed chapter. ”

Watch the full video here:


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There’s A Fake Beauty Site For People To Report Domestic Violence While “Shopping”

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There’s A Fake Beauty Site For People To Report Domestic Violence While “Shopping”

Since the start of the pandemic, many communities have seen an increase in the amount of domestic violence reports. With more people staying at home under stay-at-home orders, many have been unable to escape their abusers. This has led to an increased need for resources for domestic assault victims.

Well, one teenager has thought up a pretty ingenious way to get that help into the hands of those who need it in a very discreet way.

Teen launches fake beauty site to help victims of domestic violence.

A teenager who was aware of the increase in domestic violence since the start of the pandemic, has taken it into her own hands to help out victims. She’s launched a resource for domestic assault victims disguised as a fake beauty site. The Facebook page called “Rumianki i Bratki” (Chamomiles and Pansies) allows victims to stuck in their homes to seek help.

“I heard about a French initiative, where people go to the pharmacy and ask for a special mask that lets the pharmacist know they are a victim of domestic violence,” Paszko said in an interview with the BBC. “I thought it was a brilliant idea, so I came up with the idea of selling cosmetics.”

Translated from Polish, the description of the Facebook page reads: “Chamomiles and Pansies is a store with natural cosmetics. We will help you with the purchase of the appropriate specifics, as well as with all other problems.” There are a total of nine products listed on the page, and each has a description detailing how the product can help.

The Facebook page offers a variety of services depending on what the victim is comfortable with.

When someone messages Chamomiles and Pansies inquiring about a face cream, they’re assisted by a psychologist posing as a salesperson. Using Facebook Chat, the psychologist is able to collect essential information. The psychologist can then send authorities to visit the home if the domestic abuse victim chooses to place an order and leave an address.

When Paszko first launched the site, she thought it would only reach her friends and extended family, but the BBC reported that more than 350 people have contacted the website. Since the initiative took off, Paszko has enlisted the help of the Center For Women’s Rights, a Polish nonprofit. It currently has over 22,000 likes.

Cases of domestic violence have been on the rise since the start of the pandemic.

More than 10 million women and men experience violence from an intimate partner  every year, according to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence based in Colorado. The National Domestic Violence Hotline reported a 9%  increase in emergency calls from March through May last year when many states issued lockdown orders. Police departments have reported increases of domestic violence cases around the country including 18% in San Antonio, 22% in Portland and 10% in New York City, according to the American Journal of Emergency Medicine.

If you are experiencing domestic violence in the United States and need help you can go to TheHotline.org to chat with someone or call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

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California State Senator and Victims’ Rights Advocate Susan Rubio Calls on FBI to Investigate Marilyn Manson

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California State Senator and Victims’ Rights Advocate Susan Rubio Calls on FBI to Investigate Marilyn Manson

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A Latina state senator is demanding a federal inquest into Marilyn Manson, the controversial rock singer who has recently been accused of abuse by multiple ex-partners.

In a letter to the FBI, California state Senator Susan Rubio has asked the federal government to investigate Manson because she fears he may “continue abusing unsuspecting victims.”

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When the allegations against Manson were first made public, Rubio called on law enforcement to take the claims seriously.

“As a survivor myself, I was horrified to hear of these domestic violence allegations. We need to stand with the victims,” she wrote. “We know they are almost always isolated from loved ones, making it that much more difficult to escape or seek justice.”

She continued: “These allegations of physical, emotional and financial abuse against Marilyn Manson, also known as Brian Hugh Warner, must be taken seriously and thoroughly investigated. If law enforcement does not do that, we will not only fail these victims but future possible victims of the alleged perpetrator.”

As background, on Monday, Marilyn Manson was accused of “horrific abuse” by his ex-fiancée, actress Evan Rachel Wood in an Instagram post.

That same day, four other women came out publicly to tell their stories of abuse at the hands of Manson as well. The allegations include claims of rape, physical abuse, violent threats, and psychological torment among other things.

“[Marilyn Manson] started grooming me when I was a teenager and horrifically abused me for years. I was brainwashed and manipulated into submission,” Wood wrote in her statement. “I am done living in fear of retaliation, slander, or blackmail. I am here to expose this dangerous man and call out the many industries that have enabled him, before he ruins any more lives.”

Manson and Wood were together from 2007 to 2010. They began a relationship while she was 18 and he was — and married to another woman.

In 2018 Evan Rachel Wood testified before she testified before California legislators, giving her own personal account of domestic abuse in support of the Phoenix Act–legislation authored and championed by Sen. Susan Rubio.

The Phoenix Act was legislation meant to grant more rights to victims domestic violence and alter the statute of limitations for perpetrators.

“My experience with domestic violence was this: Toxic mental, physical and sexual abuse which started slow but escalated over time, including threats against my life, severe gaslighting and brainwashing, waking up to the man that claimed to love me raping what he believed to be my unconscious body,” Wood said. At the time, she didn’t name her alleged abuser.

California Senator Susan Rubio also has her own personal story of domestic violence.

Born in Juarez, Mexico, Rubio lived in Texas as an undocumented immigrant until she became an American citizen in 1994. She married fellow lawmaker Roger Hernández in 2013 before filing for divorce in 2016.

After her divorce, Rubio filed a permanent domestic violence restraining order against Hernández, alleging he had been physically abusive to her.

Since her election, she has been an outspoken advocate and champion for the rights of victims of gendered domestic violence. She authored the Phoenix act in 2018, which was signed into law by Governor Gavin Newsom in 2019.

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