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Beloved Spanish Flamenco Guitarist Charo Says Her Hair Was Covered In Her Husband’s Blood After He Committed Suicide

It’s one thing to lose a loved one but it must be completely devastating and traumatic to witness them take their own life. In her first television interview since the death of her husband, Kjell Rasten, Charo opened up about finding him on “The Talk” and the importance of spotting depression.

TRIGGER WARNING: Graphic details about death suicide appear in this article. 

Recently, Spanish Flamenco Guitarist Charo detailed the circumstances of her husband’s tragic death, which occurred back in February of this year.

During her appearance on “The Talk,” the Spanish singer and actress famously known as Charo detailed the days leading up to his suicide. Rasten died of a self-inflicted gunshot wound to the head. According to USA Today, Charo has previously noted that her husband’s mental health had declined in recent years “due to bullous pemphigoid, an autoimmune disorder that which causes chronic blistering of the skin, and the medications (including steroids) he was prescribed to treat it.” 

This resulted in, Charo says, Rasten becoming depressed. “That, along with the many medications he needed to take, became too much for him,” she has said. 

During her emotional interview, she also thanked fans and family for their support and reminded others to beware of the signs of depression.

Her husband, who died earlier this year in February at 79, worked as a TV producer in the ‘70s and ‘80s. He married Charo–whose real name is María del Rosario Pilar Martínez Molina Baeza–in 1978. They were married for over 40 years.  During her first interview after the death of her husband, Charo recalled the night before it all happened. She said they had just returned from a show in Palm Springs and when they returned to their home in Los Angeles, he seemed off. “He looked at me very strange,” she says in the video. 

Speaking about Rasten, Charo said she had been completely in the blind when it came to his suicidal thoughts.

“He was the best husband, the best father, the best companion,” Charo says repeating that she had “no clue” suicide was on his mind. 

The following day, on February 18 in the evening, he shot himself. Rasten shot himself in an alley and Charo believes “he did not want that I find him.” She found him though and when she did, she thought that her husband had simply fallen down. 

The details Charo shared of her husband’s death were extremely shocking.

“I ran to him, because I thought he fell and I hugged him and I was full of blood,” Charo says. “My hair was full of blood like I had a shower of blood.”

Charo continues to detail her husband’s last moments to the hosts of “The Talk” calm and collected–her strength is inspiring.  She continues to explain that when she found her husband he still had a pulse and was still breathing. 

She immediately began to call for help, call the police and the ambulance. As soon as they got to Cedars-Sinai, Rasten was declared her dead. 

“And that moment, I had a bullet in my heart,” Charo said detailing the moment when a policeman made it clear to her that her husband had not in fact fallen down, but “put a bullet in his head.”

One of “The Talk” co-host’s Sheryl Underwood, who’s an actress and comedian, also went through the same experience. Her husband died from suicide in 1990, and the comedian told Charo that they now have a “sisterhood in this way.” 

“How do you survive?” Charo asked Underwood. To which Underwood replied, “In the same way, I had to choose life, and I put God first. And you and I have a bond.” 

We’re sending so much love and light to Charo and her family during this difficult time in her life.

Despite what she’s gone through, Charo continues to show us her bubbly and wonderful personality on Instagram, sharing daily updates on her life. 

On Father’s Day, she shared a photo of her son visiting his father’s grave leaving his roses. “I want to share with you a nice moment with my son, Shel Jr. bringing flowers to his Wonderful father,” she captioned the photo. 

Earlier this month she gave her first interview since her husband’s death to The New York Times where she revealed her secret to finding joy in life again. 

You must live! And you must watch out for the people you love!,” Charo said. “I have a plan. I want to change the world. I know what I want, what I want is what people want.”

Let’s all adopt Charo’s words of wisdom and look out for one another.

It must have been so hard for Charo to open up about this painful experience but we applaud her for her bravery in order to help others who may be going through a similar experience.

If you or someone you know is in need of support, call 1-800-273-8255 to reach the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. 

If You’re Struggling With Mental Health Problems, J Balvin Wants You To Know You’re Not Alone

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If You’re Struggling With Mental Health Problems, J Balvin Wants You To Know You’re Not Alone

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J Balvin is known for the brightness of his style and mentality. His ‘Arcoiris’ tour, which holds a partnership with arts collective “Friends With You,” stayed true to its name, bringing light, color, and positivity to every city it stopped in. The tour of the US started in September and ended just a few weeks ago in LA’s Staples Center. The Colombian reggaeton icon kept up his signature high energy and used the tour as a platform to shine a light on a very taboo subject in the Latino community; mental health.

J Balvin used his tour as a platform to talk about mental health issues.

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The Colombian singer’s “Arcoiris Tour” officially launched Sept. 11 in Atlanta and then headed off to Miami, Toronto, Boston, New York, and Tulsa. The itinerary also included visits to Phoenix, El Paso, San Jose, and Las Vegas before wrapping up in Los Angeles on Oct. 26 and in all of those stops Balvin took a moment to talk about immigration, mental health issues, love, and compassion. 

Arcoiris was a bright and energetic show that shone a light on issues close to the singer’s heart.

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The Arcoiris Tour, or “rainbow” tour in English, stayed true to its name as every night, a venue was covered with neon lights, dancers dressed in elaborate costumes that ranged from walking clouds to mushrooms. All the while, the performers were accompanied by a huge cloud-shaped screen and two smaller screens that displayed colorful graphics throughout the night.   

J Balvin performed his big hits and paid tribute to other icons of the genre.

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Balvin performed some of his biggest hit songs like “Bonita” and “Ginza,” as well as iconic songs by fellow reggaeton singers, such as Wisin y Yandel’s “Rakata” and Daddy Yankee’s “Gasolina.” He would later move on to perform “La Canción,” which is part of Balvin’s collaborative album with Puerto Rican rapper Bad Bunny, titled “Oasis.” 

The singer then came to a halt to share his important message.   

During ‘La Cancion’ Balvin took a moment during the interlude to first speak on the importance of addressing one’s own mental health, encouraging people to not be ashamed of seeking professional help, and letting the audience know they are not alone.   

“Las enfermedades de salud mental son una realidad. Yo he sufrido de depresión y he sufrido de ansiedad, así que tengo que aceptarlo. Y eso me hace más humano, me hace entender que la vida tiene pruebas,” Balvin said. “Pero si alguien está pasando una situación difícil, no están solos, siempre llega la luz. Tarde o temprano llega la luz.”  

“Mental health illnesses are a reality. I have suffered from depression and anxiety, so I have to accept it. And this makes me more human. It makes me understand that life has challenges,” Balvin said in Spanish. “But if someone is going through a difficult time, they are not alone, light always comes. Sooner or later, the light comes.”  

The singer also addressed immigration issues, by sharing his own story. 

J Balvin explained that eight years ago he came illegally into the U.S. where he painted houses and fixed roofs for a living. “Vine con ese sueño de echar para adelante y seguí soñando. Después de pintar casas, pasé a pintar mis sueños.”  

“I came with a dream to move forward,” Balvin said in Spanish. “I followed that dream and after painting houses, I started painting my dreams.”   

The fact of the matter is that Latino culture tends to disregard mental health.

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Balvin highlighted this by reminding the audience that as much as we can trust God to pull us through difficult situations, we must be more willing to seek out professional help when we need it.

In fact, only 20 percent of Latinos with symptoms of a psychological disorder talk to a doctor about their concerns, and only 10 percent contact a mental health specialist, according to the National Alliance on Mental Illness. J Balvin took the opportunity to raise awareness about how both depression and anxiety affect Latinos and emphasized on the need to address it. 

In social media, Balvin highlights the fact that even artists who seemingly are on top of the world, struggle with mental health issues. 

Balvin has been very transparent with fans about his mental health struggles in recent months. While the hugely successful reggaetonero is having a major moment in his career, he hasn’t remained immune to depression or anxiety. This is why Balvin has used his platform as an urbano superstar to normalize experiences of mental illness for his fans. 

In recent social media posts, the reggaetonero has shared his own experiences as an example of how help and recovery are possible. 

In a video posted on Instagram, J Balvin revealed that he is feeling better now, only after receiving professional help.“I want to thank you all for the good vibes. After two months, I’ve left this chapter of anxiety and depression. Thanks to God, thanks to the professionals, to the medication, and thanks to you for the support. Definitely, sometimes we don’t prioritize these things, but we can always learn to,” he said in the video.

He’s also taken to Twitter to share his evolution with mental illness.

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In a recent tweet, the singer expressed that these two months have been “hell,” but he is now feeling on top of the world. “Seek professional help,” he wrote, “Anxiety and depression are real.” If you struggle with depression and/or anxiety, seek help by reaching out to a trusted friend, relative, teacher, or counselor. You can also reach out for help by calling the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or contacting the Crisis Text Line by texting TALK to 741-741.

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Middle School Girls Formed ‘The Revolutionary Girls’ Baking Society’ After Principal Refused Request To Provide Free Tampons

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Middle School Girls Formed ‘The Revolutionary Girls’ Baking Society’ After Principal Refused Request To Provide Free Tampons

In recent years, there has been a movement among women’s rights activists to educate the public about the harmful cultural stigma surrounding menstruation. This movement, that pushes for “period equity”, aims to make it possible for all women of all ages to manage their period hygiene in a humane and dignified way. Although this mission seems simple, it is actually a deep-rooted and complicated one. 

There is almost a universal culture of shame that surrounds women and menstruation. So much so that according to UNESCO worldwide, lack of access to period products is one of the reasons that many school-aged girls in developing countries miss classes. One study by UNICEF showed that 35% of girls from Niger sometimes miss classes due to the shame surrounding their periods. Other cultures across the world isolate girls from their homes and families when they’re on their periods. In conclusion, the stigma surrounding menstruation combined with structural obstacles preventing school-aged girls from easily accessing hygiene products interfere with their education. And it’s a problem.

Recently, three middle school girls went viral with their creative response to their principal’s refusal to offer free period products in the girls’ bathroom.

According to a Tweet by reproductive rights activist and President of Pro-Choice America Ilyse Hogue, students at a middle school in the U.S. “organized for free tampons in the bathroom” because their school didn’t offer any. Apparently unmoved by the students’ display of activism, the male principal the students’ request. In his response, he stated that students would “abuse the privilege” of free period products in the bathrooms. Rightfully, the students took issue with this reasoning. Three of the female students responded with an eye-catching bit of activism: none other than tampon-shaped cookies, complete with blood-like frosting and strings.  

The Tweet describing the girls’ reaction to their principal went viral, racking up over 9,000 retweets and almost 60,000 likes. Not only were people outraged that the principal refused to provide period products to young students, but they were also upset that he labeled access to menstrual hygiene products as a “privilege”. As the non-profit organization PERIOD so eloquently states on its website: “menstrual hygiene is a right, not a privilege”.

Since the Tweet went viral, the girls that made the cookies have founded an organization called The Revolutionary Girls’ Baking Society, that aims to “bake a difference” through “one bizarre confection at a time”.

According to the newly-formed website, the three anonymous girls decided to form the society once they and their families were encouraged by “the groundswell of support” from the public. The website also provided an update to the situation at their middle school. According to the statement, the “principal and the school board are now working to make sure every girl in [the] town will have the products they need readily available so no girl misses a day of school”. The Society added that they “are very grateful that the school has taken our action seriously and is making a change”. 

Although it’s exciting that these young women were able to make a difference by their activism, the bottom line is, many young women are still negatively impacted by the stigma surrounding menstruation. “Period poverty” is real and it is globally pervasive–America is no exception. According to a recent study commissioned by PERIOD and Thinx, one in five teens has struggled to afford period products or were not able to purchase them at all. Keep in mind, menstruation is a bodily function that most women experience almost universally–the fact that there are still so many obstacles surrounding period management if proof of society’s inherent disregard for women and women’s health.

As usual, the internet expressed its own opinion about a male authority figure asserting a harmful influence over girls’ bodies.

Twitter was pretty vocal about what many considered the principal’s ignorant comments about privilege and menstruation. 

This Twitter user was confused out how “abusing” tampons would work:

The fact is, due to their privilege, many men are ignorant to how expensive period products are and how they can be difficult to get your hands on–especially when you’re in a pinch. 

This Twitter user was frustrated with the principal’s lack of education on the topic of period poverty:

Once the principal’s argument was investigated further, it became obvious that it held no ground. 

This Twitter user exposed the double-standard and built-in misogyny of refusing to offer hygiene products to help handle a normal bodily function:

It’s brilliant arguments like these that expose the hypocrisy of structural sexism and how it works against women at all stages of their life.