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Beloved Spanish Flamenco Guitarist Charo Says Her Hair Was Covered In Her Husband’s Blood After He Committed Suicide

It’s one thing to lose a loved one but it must be completely devastating and traumatic to witness them take their own life. In her first television interview since the death of her husband, Kjell Rasten, Charo opened up about finding him on “The Talk” and the importance of spotting depression.

TRIGGER WARNING: Graphic details about death suicide appear in this article. 

Recently, Spanish Flamenco Guitarist Charo detailed the circumstances of her husband’s tragic death, which occurred back in February of this year.

During her appearance on “The Talk,” the Spanish singer and actress famously known as Charo detailed the days leading up to his suicide. Rasten died of a self-inflicted gunshot wound to the head. According to USA Today, Charo has previously noted that her husband’s mental health had declined in recent years “due to bullous pemphigoid, an autoimmune disorder that which causes chronic blistering of the skin, and the medications (including steroids) he was prescribed to treat it.” 

This resulted in, Charo says, Rasten becoming depressed. “That, along with the many medications he needed to take, became too much for him,” she has said. 

During her emotional interview, she also thanked fans and family for their support and reminded others to beware of the signs of depression.

Her husband, who died earlier this year in February at 79, worked as a TV producer in the ‘70s and ‘80s. He married Charo–whose real name is María del Rosario Pilar Martínez Molina Baeza–in 1978. They were married for over 40 years.  During her first interview after the death of her husband, Charo recalled the night before it all happened. She said they had just returned from a show in Palm Springs and when they returned to their home in Los Angeles, he seemed off. “He looked at me very strange,” she says in the video. 

Speaking about Rasten, Charo said she had been completely in the blind when it came to his suicidal thoughts.

“He was the best husband, the best father, the best companion,” Charo says repeating that she had “no clue” suicide was on his mind. 

The following day, on February 18 in the evening, he shot himself. Rasten shot himself in an alley and Charo believes “he did not want that I find him.” She found him though and when she did, she thought that her husband had simply fallen down. 

The details Charo shared of her husband’s death were extremely shocking.

“I ran to him, because I thought he fell and I hugged him and I was full of blood,” Charo says. “My hair was full of blood like I had a shower of blood.”

Charo continues to detail her husband’s last moments to the hosts of “The Talk” calm and collected–her strength is inspiring.  She continues to explain that when she found her husband he still had a pulse and was still breathing. 

She immediately began to call for help, call the police and the ambulance. As soon as they got to Cedars-Sinai, Rasten was declared her dead. 

“And that moment, I had a bullet in my heart,” Charo said detailing the moment when a policeman made it clear to her that her husband had not in fact fallen down, but “put a bullet in his head.”

One of “The Talk” co-host’s Sheryl Underwood, who’s an actress and comedian, also went through the same experience. Her husband died from suicide in 1990, and the comedian told Charo that they now have a “sisterhood in this way.” 

“How do you survive?” Charo asked Underwood. To which Underwood replied, “In the same way, I had to choose life, and I put God first. And you and I have a bond.” 

We’re sending so much love and light to Charo and her family during this difficult time in her life.

Despite what she’s gone through, Charo continues to show us her bubbly and wonderful personality on Instagram, sharing daily updates on her life. 

On Father’s Day, she shared a photo of her son visiting his father’s grave leaving his roses. “I want to share with you a nice moment with my son, Shel Jr. bringing flowers to his Wonderful father,” she captioned the photo. 

Earlier this month she gave her first interview since her husband’s death to The New York Times where she revealed her secret to finding joy in life again. 

You must live! And you must watch out for the people you love!,” Charo said. “I have a plan. I want to change the world. I know what I want, what I want is what people want.”

Let’s all adopt Charo’s words of wisdom and look out for one another.

It must have been so hard for Charo to open up about this painful experience but we applaud her for her bravery in order to help others who may be going through a similar experience.

If you or someone you know is in need of support, call 1-800-273-8255 to reach the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. 

A Video Of A Woman Singing ‘Fallaste Corazón’ To Her Abuelo With Dementia Is Going Viral After He Remembered The Lyrics

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A Video Of A Woman Singing ‘Fallaste Corazón’ To Her Abuelo With Dementia Is Going Viral After He Remembered The Lyrics

We all know that growing old is inevitable in this life and that our days on Earth are numbered. Regardless of that truth, it’s human nature to either feel afraid of growing old or to feel melancholy when it comes to thinking of growing old. What can be even more painful is seeing our parents, our aunts and uncles, or our grandparents growing old and imagining a life without them in it. 

Last week, one woman on Twitter shared a video of her grandfather who has dementia singing along with her to “Fallaste Corazón” by Pedro Infante in a fleeting moment of lucidness. 

In the video, you can see the woman singing with such passion to her grandfather who is attentively watching her sing and who later begins to sing along to the lyrics as well.

 Dayis, on Twitter, shared that her “tata” doesn’t remember a lot of things due to his dementia but in an effort to help him with his dementia, she sings to him every day. 

“Today he remembered the song fallaste corazón and I swear I was trying so hard not to cry,” she writes. “This many is my life.”

According to Alzheimers.net, there are many reasons as to why music boosts brain activity.

According to the site, “musical aptitude and appreciation” are two of the last remaining abilities in dementia patients, music can bring emotional and physical closeness, music can shift moods and stimulate positive interactions, and it evokes emotions that bring back memories.

Since musical aptitude and appreciation are the last remaining abilities in patients with Alzheimer’s and dementia, “music is an excellent way to reach beyond the disease and reach the person.” In later stages of dementia, patients are also prone to losing the ability to share emotions with their caregivers or family members but through music, they can still reach that emotional and physical closeness they once had. Further, singing to and with dementia patients is engaging and it leads to patients “exercising more mind power than usual.” 

People who saw the touching video on social media were not only quick to share their reactions after watching it but they also shared their own personal experiences with family members and loved ones who had dementia. 

One Twitter user replied to @Dayannagmusic03 and shared that they couldn’t stop watching the video. 

The Twitter user went on to say that their grandfather also has dementia but notices sometimes that “something around him has triggered a memory” and to see that, they said, is the best feeling in the world. 

The woman who initially posted the video shared that her “tata” is currently on “stage 6” of dementia and although it’s been a long and rough battle, “he always seems to remember certain songs.”

“When he does, it warms my heart with joy,” she continued to write on Twitter. 

It’s safe to say the video had a lot of people in their feels and rightfully so.

We love to see raw and touching moments like these. 

The 0:50 mark made us ugly cry too.

This is right when her grandfather starts to faintly sing along with her and man, she sings with so much emotion too. 

Other folks on Twitter sent their blessings to her family and her grandfather.

We hope her grandfather continues to have more moments like this. 

People on Twitter also compared the heartwarming video to the movie Coco.

Remember the scene toward the end of the film when Miguel sings to Mamá Coco and she begins to remember? I’m not crying, YOU’RE CRYING. 

Others said what we’re all thinking… just thinking about our parents, aunts, uncles, and grandparents getting old hurts a little bit more as we keep getting older ourselves. 

We’d like to keep believing their invincible and will live forever. 

Another Twitter user @missmalindakat tweeted that she had never seen anyone sing with more “heart and passion” than in that video.

One Twitter user shared her own video of her grandfather in a similar situation who also seemed to remember the lyrics to “El Rey” by Vicente Fernández when her great aunt sang it to him.

It’s touching to see other folks sharing their similar experiences and videos in an effort to support one another. This video has also amassed over 47,000 views on Twitter. 

Listen to “Fallaste Corazón” in full on YouTube below:

One Latina Talks About Breaking Down The Walls Of Stigma In The Latinx Community

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One Latina Talks About Breaking Down The Walls Of Stigma In The Latinx Community

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In an ideal world, we would all play active roles in breaking down the mental health stigma. Dinner talks would be filled with

 “¿Mijo, cómo te has sentido?” 

“¿Cómo vas con tu medicina?” or

“¿Sigues yendo a yoga?” 

Showing emotion would be encouraged and vulnerability would be praised. 

But you and I both know, this isn’t the case when it comes to the world we live in. Growing up in the Central Valley, surrounded by what seemed like endless tomato fields, with two farm-working parents, I will be the first to admit that conversations about mental health were non-existent. Up until my last year of undergrad, I believed that anxiety attacks were an over-exaggeration of weak, pitiful people who couldn’t handle a little stress. Until of course, it happened to me. I suffered my first anxiety attack one night during my last semester at Fresno State. It was one of the scariest things I’ve ever experienced, and it changed my life forever. 

During the years that followed, I fought against cultural norms. For me, nothing else had worked, so I said ‘yes’ to therapy and anxiety medication, even when my family opposed it or didn’t quite understand it. It was hard. I felt misunderstood and out of place. I was conflicted about how people would judge me and my family if they found out that I sought outside help. 

But I am happy to report that things did get better. Therapy and medication helped tremendously, and my parents eventually came around to supporting my decision to seek help, primarily because they began to see the progress I was making. 

So yes, even though these conversations are tough, I believe they are absolutely necessary to ensure the wellbeing of our families and our future generations. Mental health conversations have to become an integral part of our families, especially within the cultural context.

There’s no doubt about it, the Latinx culture is beautiful! Its richness is felt in the music, food and strong family values. However, many aspects of the culture are not conducive for growth. Not being able to comfortably talk about our mental health because of the ensuing stigma is definitely one of them. Truth is, if we want to move our Latinx families forward, we must find ways to play a role in normalizing mental health conversations within our traditional families. There is no room for inaction. 

The good news is, you don’t have to be a hardcore mental health advocate to help! 

Empowered Bystanders Matter

We can choose to either be an empowered bystander or play an active role in this. Both can be equally important in normalizing these conversations. First, we must acknowledge that not everyone wants to be outspoken and actively pushing change forward. Regardless, empowered bystanders can still make a difference with what may seem like small insignificant acts. 

Here is how you can help as an empowered bystander: 

Withdraw from toxic dialogue.

Oftentimes within traditional family dynamics, we witness ideologies that are toxic for people experiencing mental health issues. Conversations in family reunions can sometimes be offensive and discouraging. As an empowered bystander, you have a choice to partake in this dialogue or completely withdraw from it. By simply choosing not to laugh at an offensive joke, for example, you take a subtle yet firm stance that you are not here for this, you do not agree with this behavior. 

Compare apples to apples.

You may not suffer from a mental health issue, but you can still observe and pinpoint opportunities for conversation. Hypothetically speaking, let’s say one of your siblings is contemplating taking medication for their mental health but is discouraged by your parent who says things like: 

“¡You don’t need that, you are not crazy,” or

“¡Que locuras! Mejor ponte a limpiar tu cuarto, es lo que debes de hacer!” 

As an empowered bystander, you have the power to respectfully interject and propose an idea like:

“Pa, how is that different from you taking your daily blood pressure medicine, you take that every day for you to function.”

In doing so, you suddenly propose a new thought, a new perspective. You don’t force change; you simply ask questions and initiate thoughtful conversations.  

For those of us who are personally impacted by mental health issues, and feel strongly about creating change, here is how you can help as an active participant: 

Embody and embrace the rebel persona. 

Within the cultural family context, we must acknowledge that taking an active role in breaking the mental health stigma often comes with feeling isolated. We will not always fit in. Understanding this upfront will make it easier to cope. We have to understand that our immediate family will not always be our frontline cheerleaders. This is 100% okay. Whether we receive support within our family or not, it is vital that we seek some type of support, through friendships or support groups. 

Be the example.

Do you suffer from a mental health issue? Do you take medication? Do you go to therapy? Living without shame and using your experiences to offer insight and a different perspective in conversations with folks is key to normalizing this subject within our families. Own your experiences, so they become the shining light for others struggling to find their voice. Showing them that you can thrive with your condition is the best type of education we can provide to our families.

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