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Don’t Plan a Basic Bachelorette Party, Try These Fun Ideas For Your Pre-Wedding Party

Have you ever heard of the tradition of the “June Bride?” It comes from Roman times when couples would get married during that month in order to appease Juno, the goddess of fertility. While Summer is still a popular time to get married, October is actually the most sought after month to get married. September and November are also often chosen because of the mild temperatures, beautiful changing foliage and because they are before the winter holiday season.

With so many saying “I do” during this time of year, let’s focus on one of the most important parts of the wedding experience: the bachelorette party. Whether you’re tying the knot soon or are hoping to in the future, there’s no way your girls are letting you walk down the aisle without one last party totally in celebration of you. Since it’s such an important milestone, it’s only right that it be an extra special affair. If your needing some inspiration to upgrade your bachelorette plans from average to awesome, explore these fun options.

1. Get goosebumps with a spooky ghost tour.

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Is that cold feet your getting or are you just spooked by the ghostly specters at this party? Don’t be afraid to embrace the macabre and explore the haunted parts of your town. Most cities have some sort of ghost tour company that can take you and your girls through the history of local haunts. Whether you prefer a walking tour or to be driven around sipping spirits, this option will scare up a good time. Just be sure to sage the bridal party afterwards.

2. Explore your favorite winery, distillery or brewery.

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If you can rosé all day, are curious to see where your favorite vodka is made or are just in it for the booze, this party is for you. Breweries, distilleries and wineries are always down to offer tours to the public that offer as much tasting time as they do information. The best part: the alcohol is included with these tours so you don’t have to worry about settling a bar tab at the end of the night. 

3. Take DIY to a whole new level.

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For the crafty sort of bride-to-be, diy events are a lot of fun but a bachelorette party should take it to the next level. That’s where Madalynne Intimates comes in with their DIY lingerie kits. The company sales sewing kits complete with everything you’ll need to make a handmade piece of lingerie. The bridal party can create sets for the future bride’s wedding night or can make a little something sexy for themselves with this option.

4. Embrace your inner thrill seeker.

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They say marriage is the ultimate adventure but your bachelorette party can still get in a ton of excitement. Whether your interested in indoor skydiving, a trapeze party, bungee jumping or paragliding, there are plenty of thrills to be had before you take that marital plunge. After this party, the actual wedding will be a piece of cake.

5. Learn how to work the pole.

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You aren’t the only one who got inspired by the movie “Hustlers.” Make Jennifer Lopez proud and conquer the pole with a group pole dancing class. If you’re really bad at it, you and your girls will have plenty to laugh about and, if you’re really good at it, you’ll have something new to show the fiance.

6. Hit the road.

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What better way to celebrate your upcoming journey into marriage than with a journey with your favorite girls. Load up the car and rent an Air B&B somewhere new. Explore the local night life and enjoy what a change of scenery can do to your group. It doesn’t have to be Vegas to be a good time.

7. The ocean is calling.

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All life comes from the water so why not return there to celebrate this next step in your evolution. Rent a place by the beach or a real life boat house for you and the crew and enjoy the sunshine and surf while ocean-side. You could also plan a private yacht trip or book a vacay with a cruise line and experience the bounty of the sea that way.

8. Eat your heart out.

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You’ve probably been watching what you eat the past few weeks but what better time to indulge than now. If you’re a foodie who loves to feast, take your bridal party on a food tour of your city. Discover all the best places to dine or just hit up some of your favorites. You deserve every last bite in honor of your big day.

David Schwimmer, The Actor Who Played Ross In Friends, Defended The Show After Backlash Over Insensitivity And Lack Of Diversity

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David Schwimmer, The Actor Who Played Ross In Friends, Defended The Show After Backlash Over Insensitivity And Lack Of Diversity

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“Friends” is loved by everyone. You’d be lying if you said you’ve never spent an entire day on the sofa, binge-watching the 90s comedy. But it’s safe to say that some of the jokes, punchlines, and themes of the show wouldn’t have been very well received in 2020 —aka some of the show’s storylines have been regarded as more than a little problematic. Here are some examples. 

“Friends” originally aired in the 90s —but with Netflix reviving the craze for the show a few years ago, millennial viewers noticed a few insensitive punchlines.

The show was on air since 1994 and up until 2004. But since “Friends “started streaming on Netflix just a few years ago, modern day fans have found issues with the way the show depicts and handles some issues —like its lack of diversity for instance, or its depiction of women and LGBT people. 

Pretty much everything about “Fat Monica,” for example.

The whole ‘Fat Monica’ storyline fed into the media’s perpetuated image of overweight individuals as punchlines and nothing more. She only became a “worthy” character after she lost the weight, or at least that’s how the show made it seem.

Exhibit B. The treatment of Chandler’s trans dad.

Chandler’s homophobia and jokes about his transgender parent were awful. While the addition of a proud gay character in a show during the 90s was a huge step forward in television, they totally misrepresented the community. The show conflated transgender people and drag queens. In trying to expose and dismantle some prejudices, they also perpetuated others.

The objectification of women by the male characters

There’s a Thanksgiving episode where Ross and Joey are trying to leave so they can go and meet Joey’s good looking roommate and her dancing friends. And just like this one, there are many other episodes in which “the boys” spend the whole show trying to think up ways to trick women into sleeping with them —in this particular episode, Joey literally calls the women “objects” —and I’m triggered.

Joey’s sexism usually went unchecked—and he was downright creepy a lot of times.

Most of Joey’s scenes revolved around women —and a lot of them are problematic. Sure, he had his good and sweet moments, but it’s super problematic that he can’t remember who he’s slept with, or how he makes his roommates make breakfast for his conquest and then dump them for him. His roommate’s search was also awful: “Female, non-smoker, non-ugly.” —Seriously?

The constant examples of fragile masculinity.

The male characters frequently had to make a HUGE issue out of their fragile masculinity. Here’s an example for you: In the episode where Chandler moves in with Monica, she has him making cedar sachets with old pantyhose. Chandler asks to leave to go do “guy stuff.” He then finds Joey learning to knit and Ross applying face powder to try and minimize the contrast of his overly bleached teeth. He leaves in disgust. Later, after pointing out all the feminine touches Joey’s new female roommate has applied to the old apartment, Chandler points out that Joey is turning into a woman. “Why would you say that? That’s just mean,” asks Joey. “Now I’ve upset you? What did I say?” replies Chandler. “It’s not what you said. It’s the way you said it… Oh, my God! I’m a woman!” exclaims Joey in disgust —*ALL THE EYEROLLS*

Ross has been one of the most criticized characters.

The character of Ross has seen a lot of criticism, for his dismissal of the importance of consent, his possessiveness over women, the casual anti-gay comments and more. 

Even the show creators have admitted to feeling uncomfortable with some scenes. 

The creators spoke about their regrets at Tribeca Film Festival’s “Friends” 25th anniversary. When asked by the audience if there were storylines that they regret, Kauffman had a couple of examples ready: “the one when Phoebe starts dating her sister Ursula’s stalker, played by David Arquette (“we did a lot of rewriting on that to make it work”).” “It’s much harder for me to enjoy the good moments when there are moments in it where I’m going, ‘Oh my God, we let that happen? We did that,'” she explained.

Meanwhile, co-creator, David Crane, admitted he doesn’t remember a lot of specific scenes and jokes after working on 10 seasons 15-25 years ago, said that when he does stumble upon an episode, he’ll occasionally wonder, “Wow, really? We went with that?” “There are some that are better than others,” he said.

In a recent interview with the Guardian, “Friends” star David Schwimmer who played Ross, said he”doesn’t care” about the backlash, because he believes it comes from the show being taken out of the context of its time.

When asked about the backlash that the show went through after its Netflix renaissance, the actor said; “I don’t care.” A few articles and several Twitter threads suggested that the show’s jokes hadn’t aged well, like Chandler worrying about seeming gay, or jokes about Monica’s weight. “The truth is also that show was groundbreaking in its time for the way in which it handled so casually sex, protected sex, gay marriage, and relationships. The pilot of the show was my character’s wife left him for a woman and there was a gay wedding, of my ex and her wife, that I attended.”

“Friends” is a product of the pre-“woke” era when it comes to race, too. 

“Maybe there should be an all-black Friends or an all-Asian Friends,” Schwimmer says. “But I was well aware of the lack of diversity and I campaigned for years to have Ross date women of color. One of the first girlfriends I had on the show was an Asian American woman, and later I dated African American women. That was a very conscious push on my part.

All Of The Most Inspired Wedding Photos Of 2019 That You Should Use As Inspiration For Yours In 2020

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All Of The Most Inspired Wedding Photos Of 2019 That You Should Use As Inspiration For Yours In 2020

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Every two months the Fearless Awards recognize the best wedding photos in the world. The winning images are selected by a panel of expert curators from Fearless Photographers, a digital platform that connects couples with wedding photographers. The pictures have been making the rounds on the internet as the year draws closer to an end. We read that around 2 photos from every 100 are selected, and these ones we rounded up are emotional, heartwarming and downright funny. Which do you like best?

Lucha Libre Style

Kathruyn Krueger

Nothing like including the things you love on such a special day. This groom made sure that his love of Lucha Libre was known, and gave all of the members of his entourage, their own Luchador mask. Gotta love the originality.

A Mariachi Wedding

Gera Gallardo

Here’s the clear example of how a traditional wedding does not have to be conventional. This couple stuck to their roots and decided to give the event a very Mexican dress code with these Mariachi outfits —brb, just gonna look for a groom real quick so I can dress him up as a charro.

An emotional moment

Alberto Parejo

There can’t be a wedding without tears —of joy that is. This photo is so heartwarming it has tears welling up in my eyes.

Making the most of a destination wedding

Alex Beckett

I mean, if you have a place like Santorini as the backdrop for your wedding, no picture can really be a bad one. But tAlex Beckett, the photographer of this gem, used a beautiful play of light and shadow to create the magnified-effect of the married couple against a classic Greek house; dreamy.

Another epic destination wedding shot

Ana Maria Dumbrava

Again, if the wedding is being held at an amazing geographical location, the pictures are just going to be pure gold. This one here, with the happy couple, playfully sliding down the dunes is absolute goals —but also, there’s got to be a lot of sand in those clothes.

Confetti Madness

Joe Scrivens

Everything about this photo gives us chills. The energy, the colors, the vibrancy; it’s like we can feel the love through our screen. Can you?

An unconventional couple

Fiona Walsh

Some people have dessert tables at their weddings, others have board games, some offer boat rides or wild cocktails. Not this couple, they had a whole fair ride at their wedding. And the shot of them both riding at full speed is really a beauty.

A chill wedding by the lake

Juan Carballo Castro

More often than not, brides have the fame of being crazy, controlling, perfectionist maniacs. Not this one. Her entourage had already removed their gowns and jumped into the lake. We can only suspect that she’s about to do the same —and the mood of peace and fun that this photo is transmitting, really is making us question our fictitious wedding plans.

Female love

jake hannah

Ok so I’m crying now. Have you ever seen a photo that captures the essence of female love, companionship, empowerment and sorority more beautifully than this one by Jake Hannah? Okay, maybe you have, but this one is truly moving.

Otherworldly wedding vibes

David Hofman

This photo was actually taken in Brazil, but because of the visual effect, you could swear it was somewhere icy like Iceland or Canada. The couple seem to be walking on water, bathed in sunlight, and if that’t not an ideal metaphor for a happy marriage, then we don’t know what is.

Daddy’s Girl

Lucas Bezila

Crying again. Few things beat a deep father-daughter moment. Crazy to think that this man was about to give this woman, who once was his very own little girl, away. I’m weeping.

Post-wedding swim

Lanny Mann

Another laid back couple. Look at all that joy. A beautiful sunset, a happy moment, all smiles and warmth —we can almost feel the tropical weather just looking at it.

A mother’s love

Casian Podar

This is the visual definition of ‘tears of joy’. This abuelita holds on to her little girl; happily squeezing her, excited because finally, on this nieta’s case, she’ll never have to ask “¿Y el novio?” again.

Celebrate your culture

Jacki Bruniquel

We loved to see other cultures represented in the list of top wedding photos of the year. Not all brides wear white, some wear every color in the rainbow and this bright photo is really lighting up our day.

The couple’s best friend

Marius Dragan

Doggo parents will understand. One cannot simply get married and leave their best friend behind —and this good boy is clearly not ready to let go.

A very NYC wedding

Sascha Reinkin

This one is for the diehard New Yorkers. The ones that love their city so much, they couldn’t picture joining their lives to another, in a city that’s not their own. Absolutely love.