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Latinas Are Sharing Their Most Ridiculous Dating Horror Stories And Someone Hold My Drink, I’m Choking

Dating is a minefield. You have to maneuver around all kinds of potential disasters in the hopes of finding that one special person. For every soulmate out there, there are dozens of bombs ready to explode in your face. While dating apps are meant to make the process a little bit easier, they don’t always work that way. From users being dishonest about who they are to unwelcome pictures sliding into your DM’s a lot can go wrong. Basically, whether you use an app or go old school, dating is hard.

Still, when we asked for our readers to share their experiences with dating, we were surprised by some of the outrageous horror stories that they had to tell. In fact, reading these might just make you delete Bumble right off of your smartphone and take a break from looking for love.

1. Just say no to self-hating Latinos.

Instagram / @sue_k4808

I meet this dude who was working at my bank, he asked me out and while we were out he told me he didn’t like bad bunny because he was too flamboyant (already knew fuck this guy) and follows it up by [saying] he normally only dates white chicks but I intrigued him that’s why he asked me out …. he’s Latino so much self loathing smh.” @carrachichi

2. At least you got to go to Disney.

Instagram / @disneyparksblog

“Met a guy he looked really cute in his pics and his voice on the phone Was omg!!! I think I was at least 20-21 when this happened. He worked at Disneyland so he said he’d get me and a friend in for free. Well, when we met Oh wow…he was a short guy nothing like his pics. Poor guy, he was so embarrassed that he had lied….i tried to talk to him but he was always on his phone and he had a girls pic on his phone wallpaper claimed it was his sister ???????? awkward. Oh well, we ditched him and roamed Disney for free.” @aryannuh

3. Politics and dating never mix.

Instagram / @castingculturewars

“I went out with a white guy who called me ignorant for being [a] Democrat. I threw my drink on him and left.” @lowhlowh_lodge

4. Yikes!

Instagram / @shop.glassy

“Met up with some guy from tinder at an arcade bar. Once we met, he asked for money and to order him an Uber so he could go pick up. I left to the bathroom, deleted the app, and went home.” @effin_melly

5. Those are fighting words.

Instagram / @myworstdatepodcast

“I went on a dinner date with a guy and he asked me what inspired me, and I said my epilepsy condition has inspired me to be a better mom & an advocate to spread awareness to my rare brain condition. Anyways, the night went on and he offered to “drive me home” since my condition didn’t allow me to drive, so I offered gas. Once we got in the car he looks at me point-blank in the face and said “you’d be the perfect woman if you didn’t have your health condition, but if you’re still down we can fuck” then I punched his tooth out & broke his window and said he can fuck himself ????????‍♀️” @mrschabelifrancis_

6. You dodged a bullet with this one.

Instagram / @snehj

“Went on a couple of dates with this cute wrestler and one night invited him over for dinner (code for ????????). When he shows up he has band-aids on his face, I asked him what they were for and he said he got ringworm from wrestling mats???????????? When I refused to make out with him etc he left and proceeded to text me calling me a b*tch ???????? Needless to say, never saw him again.” @bizzz_wilzzzz

7. Who does that!?

Instagram / @dating.is.hard

“Met a guy who was into fitness and was a fitness model online. When we got to the restaurant he opened the door and said I didn’t say thank you to him. I brushed it off thinking he was joking. While ordering he kept substituting everything on his meal which was annoying because he was taking forever. When I ordered he asked if I was really going to get that because it was fattening. ???? When we were leaving the restaurant he again stated that I didn’t say thank you when he opened the door for me. Clearly annoyed, I told him that I had barely crossed the threshold before he even let me do it. I wasn’t feeling him at all and told him if he could take me home because I had things to do. While on the ride back, I asked if he had ever dated any fitness models. He replied that he did but they were very superficial and too into their looks so that’s why he now dated girls that looked like me now. ???? I wanted to punch him! ????Clearly done with him I just sat there and couldn’t wait to go home. After some silence, he stated that he was going to take his leftovers for lunch tomorrow and I agreed. He then clearly said, “YOUR leftovers? I bought dinner. That food is mine.” I couldn’t believe him! When we got to my house he leaned in and proceeded to take my leftovers from my lap and put them in his back seat. Who does that!?!?! ????????????” @nattie922

8. Some things are unforgivable. This is one of them.

Instagram / @berrylee.onlineshop

“Was asked out on a date by some guy that was in a band. When he picked me up we started talking and I was looking out the window and when I turned to look at him he had his Vienna sausage out and wanted me to touch it . I said no and he stopped the car and made me walk . ????. Then had the balls to call me up a few weeks later to ask me out again. Like he thought I would forget.” @twistedmixedchica

9. Dating while Latina is brutal.

Instagram / @wearemitu

I went out with a guy who was VERY concerned if I was undocumented. He was ESPECIALLY concerned if I was from Venezuela since the U.S didn’t have great ties with them. I went out with this other guy who the entire date bashed his family, single parents, and wanted me to know that children in single-parent households would never succeed. I informed him I was a child of a single-parent household and I was pretty successful, in my eyes and my friends and families eyes. Dating as a Latina in 2019…”   @verher89

 
 
 

Latinas Shared Their Best Bits Of Marriage Advice And The Comment Section Got REAL

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Latinas Shared Their Best Bits Of Marriage Advice And The Comment Section Got REAL

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Recently, a FIERCE reader posed a pretty poignant question on Twitter: “If you could give me advice on marriage, what would it be?”

Married folks and mujeres that were once married offered up their best bits of advice! Check them out below!

View marriage as a bonus not the piece to a missing puzzle.

My advice: don’t do it!! JUST KIDDING. my mom says, view marriage as an additional bonus to your life not as a completion . You’re an amazing complete woman on your own.” –pelucaazul

Beware the red flags.

“As someone going through a divorce: make a list of all the red flags (small and big) and play each one out and truly determine if any are problematic. The small red flags now always come back up later. Some can be worked on, some can be communicated through , but some are a sign of unsettled trauma/machismo/addictions/narcissism etc.”- _ashlyndarling

Keep up the dating game.

“Never stop dating each other!”-mariaelena34

If you’re getting advice about your life, get it from the right people.

“Its between you two!!! . Dont try to fit your relationship into stereotypical molds… what works for you may not be what other ppl say! Also, dont bad talk your boo even if you’re mad and frustrated. What you feed, grows. And always remember to flirt with your husband lik y’all still dating. And, if you turn to someone for advice, make sure they understand healthy marriages. Soooooo many ppl in the world giving advice but dont have a healthy successful marrige…. be open wi th your boo, be honest, nd hve fun! Best wishes&blessings – AH.”-autumnhype

Don’t compare yourself. It’s not a tit for tat game.

“Never compare yourself to other marriages or your parent’s marriage. Your marriage is whatever you want it to be and cultivate together, this is completely up to you and your spouse. This is the most freeing thing I have ever heard and made me appreciate my marriage more!”-cathrinemolstad

Don’t put up with behaviors or treatments within marriage that your instincts are telling you are wrong.

“Married 20 years and my best advice is to trust your instincts. In my marriage what has worked is respecting my partner and expecting that same level of respect, that reciprocity goes for kindness, compassion, patience, and forgiveness too. But, ultimately, this is big, don’t marry someone if your instincts are telling you it’s wrong, don’t put up with behaviors or treatments within marriage that your instincts are telling you are wrong, and don’t stay if those same instincts are telling you it’s wrong. You know you, what you want, need, can and can’t handle. That’s the voice to defer to – not your friends, society, or family. The union should bring you and the other person great personal growth. I realize that all sounds like a high bar and it is. People get and stay married, settling for far less than they should, because there is (or they perceive) external pressures to do so. Resist this. Marriage is not for everyone and not every partner is a commit your life partner. Finally, though, it’s 2020. Marriage isn’t irreversible. If it’s not working, that’s okay and don’t take it as a failure, but an awareness of your worth and growth.”-sheexistshere

Grow with each other.

“Grow with each other. Ive been with mine for 8 years (married 2). We started dating at 16 and 19, and man have times changed. If we didn’t make mistakes, keep each other accountable, help each other figure out what we each wanted to do, we won’t be together after all this time.” –danielaherreranyc

Communication is key

“Always communicate even if it sounds like something silly and always find time for each other no matter how busy your day can be.”-lauraelnasser

We Asked Latinas Why They Are Waiting Or Waited To Have Sex Before Marriage

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We Asked Latinas Why They Are Waiting Or Waited To Have Sex Before Marriage

Ah celibacy. Whether it’s chalked up to religious beliefs or the age-old adage of “buying the cow when you can get the milk for free” everyone has opinions about staying away from sex before marriage. Interested in what Latinas think, we posed the question of why women are actually waiting an boy did we get a whole heck of a lot answers!

Christianity

“I’m about to turn 30 years old and I’m waiting due to my Christian beliefs.” –sweetascandy1990

Taking past relationships as a lesson learned.

“My spirituality. First I would like to say that I’m not a virgin I have a child. But after splitting with her dad I realize that sex is bigger than what I thought it was. That’s why I decided to be celibate and wait until marriage.” – thebeautyplugbymaria

Growing up in a household where this is scripture.

“I want to save myself for the person I am going to marry. 🙂 I don’t want to have been with multiple people before I get married. I want the person I will spend the rest of my life with to be my first and only…. i don’t know. I think that’s just my personal preference. I have grown up in a religious household and I feel just fine without the sex in my relationship. I just think that I wouldn’t want to sleep with a guy who has already been with a bunch of other women so I wouldn’t want to do the same to the person I end up marrying. It’s just my preference. I see nothing wrong with anybody else sex life but I personally practice abstinence and am happy with my decision!”-karls104

Yearning for a special bond and weeding out the wrong guys.

“It was a religious decision at first, but once I got older it morphed into a more personal decision. I wanted that special bond with the one person I would love and who would love me for the rest of my life. I didn’t want a bunch of memories with random men who didn’t value me for anything more than my body. And I knew I wanted my life partner to also be more than sex. I want someone dependable, and someone I can laugh with first and foremost. Of course you can find that even if you aren’t celibate while dating. But I think being a “celibate dater” helps put personality as the #1 priority to focus on. When a relationship is sexual before marriage you’re focused on more than just 1) can I laugh with them forever 2) are they dependable? 3) do they cross any of my non-negotiables?”- alfonsina_mj

The holy trinity.

“Catholic guilt”- brendapa89