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Latinas Are Sharing Their Most Ridiculous Dating Horror Stories And Someone Hold My Drink, I’m Choking

Dating is a minefield. You have to maneuver around all kinds of potential disasters in the hopes of finding that one special person. For every soulmate out there, there are dozens of bombs ready to explode in your face. While dating apps are meant to make the process a little bit easier, they don’t always work that way. From users being dishonest about who they are to unwelcome pictures sliding into your DM’s a lot can go wrong. Basically, whether you use an app or go old school, dating is hard.

Still, when we asked for our readers to share their experiences with dating, we were surprised by some of the outrageous horror stories that they had to tell. In fact, reading these might just make you delete Bumble right off of your smartphone and take a break from looking for love.

1. Just say no to self-hating Latinos.

Instagram / @sue_k4808

I meet this dude who was working at my bank, he asked me out and while we were out he told me he didn’t like bad bunny because he was too flamboyant (already knew fuck this guy) and follows it up by [saying] he normally only dates white chicks but I intrigued him that’s why he asked me out …. he’s Latino so much self loathing smh.” @carrachichi

2. At least you got to go to Disney.

Instagram / @disneyparksblog

“Met a guy he looked really cute in his pics and his voice on the phone Was omg!!! I think I was at least 20-21 when this happened. He worked at Disneyland so he said he’d get me and a friend in for free. Well, when we met Oh wow…he was a short guy nothing like his pics. Poor guy, he was so embarrassed that he had lied….i tried to talk to him but he was always on his phone and he had a girls pic on his phone wallpaper claimed it was his sister 😂😂 awkward. Oh well, we ditched him and roamed Disney for free.” @aryannuh

3. Politics and dating never mix.

Instagram / @castingculturewars

“I went out with a white guy who called me ignorant for being [a] Democrat. I threw my drink on him and left.” @lowhlowh_lodge

4. Yikes!

Instagram / @shop.glassy

“Met up with some guy from tinder at an arcade bar. Once we met, he asked for money and to order him an Uber so he could go pick up. I left to the bathroom, deleted the app, and went home.” @effin_melly

5. Those are fighting words.

Instagram / @myworstdatepodcast

“I went on a dinner date with a guy and he asked me what inspired me, and I said my epilepsy condition has inspired me to be a better mom & an advocate to spread awareness to my rare brain condition. Anyways, the night went on and he offered to “drive me home” since my condition didn’t allow me to drive, so I offered gas. Once we got in the car he looks at me point-blank in the face and said “you’d be the perfect woman if you didn’t have your health condition, but if you’re still down we can fuck” then I punched his tooth out & broke his window and said he can fuck himself 🤷🏻‍♀️” @mrschabelifrancis_

6. You dodged a bullet with this one.

Instagram / @snehj

“Went on a couple of dates with this cute wrestler and one night invited him over for dinner (code for 🍆💦). When he shows up he has band-aids on his face, I asked him what they were for and he said he got ringworm from wrestling mats🤮🤢🥴 When I refused to make out with him etc he left and proceeded to text me calling me a b*tch 🤔😳 Needless to say, never saw him again.” @bizzz_wilzzzz

7. Who does that!?

Instagram / @dating.is.hard

“Met a guy who was into fitness and was a fitness model online. When we got to the restaurant he opened the door and said I didn’t say thank you to him. I brushed it off thinking he was joking. While ordering he kept substituting everything on his meal which was annoying because he was taking forever. When I ordered he asked if I was really going to get that because it was fattening. 😑 When we were leaving the restaurant he again stated that I didn’t say thank you when he opened the door for me. Clearly annoyed, I told him that I had barely crossed the threshold before he even let me do it. I wasn’t feeling him at all and told him if he could take me home because I had things to do. While on the ride back, I asked if he had ever dated any fitness models. He replied that he did but they were very superficial and too into their looks so that’s why he now dated girls that looked like me now. 😤 I wanted to punch him! 😡Clearly done with him I just sat there and couldn’t wait to go home. After some silence, he stated that he was going to take his leftovers for lunch tomorrow and I agreed. He then clearly said, “YOUR leftovers? I bought dinner. That food is mine.” I couldn’t believe him! When we got to my house he leaned in and proceeded to take my leftovers from my lap and put them in his back seat. Who does that!?!?! 🤬🤬🤬” @nattie922

8. Some things are unforgivable. This is one of them.

Instagram / @berrylee.onlineshop

“Was asked out on a date by some guy that was in a band. When he picked me up we started talking and I was looking out the window and when I turned to look at him he had his Vienna sausage out and wanted me to touch it . I said no and he stopped the car and made me walk . 😡. Then had the balls to call me up a few weeks later to ask me out again. Like he thought I would forget.” @twistedmixedchica

9. Dating while Latina is brutal.

Instagram / @wearemitu

I went out with a guy who was VERY concerned if I was undocumented. He was ESPECIALLY concerned if I was from Venezuela since the U.S didn’t have great ties with them. I went out with this other guy who the entire date bashed his family, single parents, and wanted me to know that children in single-parent households would never succeed. I informed him I was a child of a single-parent household and I was pretty successful, in my eyes and my friends and families eyes. Dating as a Latina in 2019…”   @verher89

 
 
 

Readers Share Adorable Stories of How Their Parents and Abuelos Met

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Readers Share Adorable Stories of How Their Parents and Abuelos Met

@JulianFdo /Twitter

In the era of hookup culture and online swiping, it’s comforting to look back on the days when dating was a straight-forward affair: boy meets girl, boy likes girl, boy marries girl. End of story. But, times have changed and finding your other half can feel more impossible than every Luckily, we can always look to older generations to give us hope. Their romantic stories of days past are always inspiring.

Readers of FIERCE by mitu shared their cute stories of how their parents and abuelos met. Check out some of our favorite ones below!

1. The old bait-and-switch

@ChrisRAlonso/Twitter

“My abuelos met eachother while they were living in Cuba. Abuelo pretended to be 5 years older than her to get her attention but was actually 2 years younger. He asked her out for ice-cream on their first date.”

2. The Cinderella Story

@JulianFdo/Twitter

“My Dad was rich & Mom poor, he chose her and was disowned by his family and lost his inheritance. They lived happily ever after working their asses off once they came to the United States. Love my parents”. -@mrs.jaypeeonenine

3. Love Letters Gone Wrong

@kathleenlights1/Twitter

“My dad was playing basketball at my moms high school. He saw my mom and asked her if he could write her. 1953. Mom told dad to write his address on the locker that he was using for the basketball game ( girls lockers). He did. On Monday morning the principal of moms school called to complain to the principal of my dads high school and was angry his basketball team had written all over the lockers. My dad and his team were punished and had to go back to my moms school to clean up the lockers. I still have the first letter my dad sent my mom. Mom passed away 10 years ago. I’m 64 and will never forget their love story”. – @dollycardenas50

4. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach

@cokythelad/Twitter

“My mom and dad both immigrated here from Argentina when they were kids. My dad was 9 and my mom was 2. My dad ended up going to high school with my mom’s little brother and they got super drunk one night together when they were 16. They were scared to go back to their houses (the wrath of a Latin mother!!) so they tried to sleep in a park. It got too cold, so they went back to my uncle’s place and decided to wake my mom up by throwing rocks at her window. At 3am, my mom let her hermanito and my dad crawl through her window. My dad and uncle set up camp in my uncle’s room to sleep everything off, but they were starving. My uncle sent my dad to knock on my mom’s door and ask if she could make pancakes (bc they’re legendary). She thought he was so cute, that she made them pancakes at 3am. They’ve been together ever since (they’re 52 now).” -@bryduca

5. A Tale of Two Heights

@joeytovar_ /Twitter

“My grandparents went to school together. He asked her to be his partner for a dance performance once. Grandpa says he would have asked her sooner but didn’t see her. He’s 6ft she’s 4’10.” -@danhely

6. Love at first sight

@lcarreradesign/Twitter

“My abuelos met each other on a bus in Chicago while Guelo was studying to be a priest. He was a light skinned, fiery haired Mexican man with a friendly smile. Guela’s golden brown Puerto Rican glow was accented by her elegant black ringlets and graceful summer dress. He was smitten the moment he saw her! They conversed about spirituality, faith, and love for something greater than self.Less than one year later, Guelo traded one sacrament for another so that we, our family, could be born.” -@e.m.castro

7. Flirting By Throwing Rocks?

@keithmburke/Twitter

“My abuela would fill up her cantaro with water & whenever she walked by, my abuelo would through small rocks. She hated him for making her dump the water & he loved how beautiful she looked angry”. -@mija_por_favor

8. Life-long dance partners

@babybellabb/Twitter

“My abuelos ran into each other multiple times in one day. They had gotten onto the same bus two different times. Later that night when my abuelo saw my abuela at a dance he decided seeing her a third time that day was a sign and asked her to dance. And they were dancing partners the rest of her life”. -@thetiffanyandco

9. The Bashful Beginning

@leticiasaurus /Twitter

“My dad was friends with my mom’s brothers but he never met her despite always being around. One day, my mom was cleaning the floor outside her house & saw my dad walking from a distance towards the house. She dropped the broom & ran inside. The rest, is history”. -@lifeasingrid

10. The Whirlwind Romance

@ohmy_itsyza/Twitter

“My grandma and grandpa met while being migrant workers. Grandma was 15 and he was 18. My grandma’s sisters were trying to get with my grandpa but grandma wasn’t having it. Their time at that location was almost over and they were going to be separated so after two weeks of knowing each other, they decided to marry. They were married 62 years before my grandma passed.” – @amorettenoel

11. A Military Marriage

@prietitaV/Twitter

“My grandfather was in the marines and was stationed in the Dominican Rep. training the Dominican Air Force. At a party he meet my abuelita and fell in love. He had to asked his superiors for permission to see her, then my great grandfather to court her. They both passed away one right after each other after being 50 years together” -@claudia_teresa1

12. A Meeting of Cultures

@TheHernandezLab/Twitter

“Mi abuela, Soledad, or Chole, was a very attractive and creative woman. Soon after high school she was dancing in a women’s Mexican folklorico troup at the 1933 Chicago World’s Fair. Mi abuelo Modesto, was selling Cuban cigars as a traveling salesman. They met at the Fair, fell in love and eventually had my mom, Rosalia.” -@fridadina

13. An arranged marriage with a happy ending…

@brina_la_nica/Twitter

“In my dad’s side of the family my grandma had to marry my grandpa because a chismosa saw her talking to him outside the grocery story, so my great-grandparents arranged the marriage to restore their honor. In my moms side of the family my grandma had to marry my grandpa to pay off a debt of his family take care of hers after my grandmas parents passed away when she was young. They loved each other and lived happily ever after.#arrangedmarriages” -@iris_herndz

14. An Irresistible Passion

@daiciamestas

“My parents met at a dance in Durango, Colorado. Durango is a college town perfectly located in the middle of my parent’s hometowns. My mother was promised to someone else through engagement, but my father won her heart before leaving for the Navy.” -@daiciamestas

Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor Married A Gay Couple And It Was The Sweetest Thing

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Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor Married A Gay Couple And It Was The Sweetest Thing

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Catherine Pino and Ingrid Duran are not your typical Washington, D.C. bureaucrats. Not only are these powerful women two of the only Latinx women to own their own consulting firm, but they are definitely some of the only women to do so while being married to each other. Pino and Duran founded D&P Creative Strategies in 2004, long before the wave of acceptance of LGBTQ  swept the American consciousness. “We created our company in 2004 because we both really wanted to strengthen and advance the relationship between the LGBTQ and the Latino communities because at the time it was very different than it is today,” Duran said in an interview with Affinity magazine. “It was important for us to build a strong bridge between the two and change the narrative.”

Duran and Pino’s mission is one that doesn’t get enough attention within the Latinx community.

But according to Duran and Pino, they have methods to tackle that. Their consulting firm specifically aims to “[increase] the role of corporate, legislative and philanthropic efforts in addressing the concerns of Latinos, women, and gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender (GLBT) communities”. When they founded their firm, they made waves for deciding to take the D.C. political world head-on as an out lesbian couple. “If businesses don’t want to work with us because we’re gay, then we don’t want to work with them,” said Duran to LGBTQ Nation.

But back in 2004, although Duran and Pino were out-and-proud, they were not legally allowed to authenticate their bond in the United States because, at the time, same-sex marriage was illegal. But in 2015, that all changed. Their friend Justice Sonia Sotomayor invited them to hear the landmark Obergefell v. Hodges case at the Supreme Court–the decision that ruled that marriage was a fundamental right of all Americans–including for gay couples. Four months later, they reunited with Justice Sotomayor. This time, however, the honorable judge was officiating their wedding.

Although they appear so comfortable with their identities now, navigating their identities as lesbian Latinas has not always an easy journey for Duran and Pino.

@LatinosLead / Twitter

When they were younger, their families’ struggled to come to terms with their daughters living a “non-traditional” lifestyle. Pino’s family, in particular, had trouble coming to terms with her sexuality. Raised in a conservative Catholic family, the idea of having a lesbian daughter was “unheard of,” according to Pino. 

As for Duran, while she thought her family would be understanding by virtue of them being progressive Chicano activists, their reaction was not as open-minded as she had hoped. Her mother believed that she had “done something wrong” in raising Duran and “struggled with what will people think”. “It was a journey for my mom to come around,” said Duran. “But when she did, she came full circle”. 

Perhaps their families’ ultimate changes-of-heart gave these women the confidence to believe the Latinx community was capable of change as well. These women are nothing but optimists about the future of America and the possibility of change. Speaking about the current administration’s policy towards Latinos, Pino doesn’t seem to be worried in the least. “Now is not the time to take the foot off the gas,” she said to LGBTQ nation. “I firmly believe in my heart that this too shall pass…We just both very much feel that we need to do as much as we can where we can and just keep working hard on these issues.”And working on the issues, they have. 

In 2015, the couple partnered with The Freedom to Marry initiative to create the campaign “Familia es Familia”. 

The campaign was “a national public education campaign” targeted towards the Latino community with the goal of normalizing the idea of marriage equality. According to the women, it is some of the work they are most proud of. As for what’s next, D&P Creative Strategies appears to be actively involved in campaigns promoting Digital Literacy, net neutrality, Latinx media representation, and supporting Latinx businesses. In this day and age of political grandstanding and empty promises, it’s inspiring to see Catherine Pino and Ingrid Duran walking the walk. 

Pino and Duran also use their platform to educate the Latinx community about issues that are close to their hearts. They created the production company “Brown Beauty Productions” as a means to “invite Latinos in the United States to tell their innovative and inspiring stories”. They have produced numerous documentaries for HBO regarding POC and LGBT issues like “The Latino List” “The Out List” and “The Trans List”. All of these happen to be projects providing information, insight, and a human angle to stories that aren’t always told in mainstream media. In other words, these ladies are working at changing the culture from every angle. They are an inspirational example to every queer Latinx person out there that the sky is the limit.