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Video: A Young Woman Being Verbally Attacked And Called Fat By A Church Leader Is Going Viral On Twitter

The sense of entitlement that many people hold and believe they can use to shame and police women’s bodies is ceaseless. From airlines kicking women of color off of planes for what they wear to school teachers shaming their students for wearing clothing that might affect boys, it seems women cannot get a break in even the most unassuming spheres of their lives.

Even when it comes to safe spaces like places of worship.

Recently, one woman took to Twitter to share a video she’d captured of another woman who had followed her into a bathroom to tell her she was too fat to wear shorts to a church event.

The video captured by a Twitter user who goes by the name of Jenna, depicts her discomfort and humiliation as a woman berates her in their church bathroom for wearing shorts.

“This [woman] followed me into the bathroom and attacked me calling me ‘fat’ and that I couldn’t wear jean shorts because I was too fat,” Jenna wrote in a post about the incident which also shared the video.

In the video, the woman can be heard telling Jenna that she is “chubby” and needs to wear clothing that covers her legs. “So you’re sitting here calling me fat?” Jenna asks the woman while filming. “Oh, you don’t think you are?” the woman responds

Through tears, Jenna tells the woman “I [redacted] love who I am. Get the [redacted] out of my face.” 

Jenna also shared photos of herself in the outfit she had been wearing when she was verbally attacked.

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Jenna later explained that the woman also approached her at a time when she was already affected by something upseting.

Jenna, who also explained that she deals with depression and anxiety, said that if the woman had approached her two years before when she was younger she might have committed an act of self-harm.

Fortunately, what started out as a horrific moment caught in the bathroom, launched a parade of plus-sized people sharing love and pictures of themselves loving their bodies on Twitter.

Women on Twitter reached out to Jenna with pictures of themselves wearing shorts and it was the sweetest thing.

Now THIS is just the kind of bathroom behavior we need from women.

Seriously more of this.

Thankfully, Jenna’s church did not let the woman go unpunished for targeting her.

Hopefully, this church leader takes this as a learning lesson. We have the right to free speech in this country and we should use that privilege to say things that are profound, enlightening and uplifting. Punto.

This Body Positivity Activist Is Jessica Torres And You Need To Listen To What She Says

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This Body Positivity Activist Is Jessica Torres And You Need To Listen To What She Says

Maybe we all deserve hundreds more Jessica Torres to remind us that this world and its fashion isn’t just for las flacas. Jessica Torres is a plus-size model and body positive activist who isn’t going to be shamed for hiding her nalgas or accentuating the “right” curves. We have all the curves which means they’re all right.

Jessica Torres is keeping it real and combatting fat shaming by just straight up loving her self and her body. She’s calling out magazines every time they reshape a woman’s mind to cover their belly or show it off. She’s posting images of the “most unflattering outfit for [her] body type” to prove a point to the fashion industry. Fashion for plus-size women shouldn’t be about how to best cover and mask their bodies. It should be about fashion. If Jessica Torres isn’t the most fashionable chingona from the Bronx, we don’t know who is. I said it.

Her journey towards crop tops wasn’t out of self-love, but rather a love for fashion.

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She started her plus-size style blog to show off her outfits and inspire other plus-size women to live “fashionable fat lives,” she writes for HipLatina. Her blog was meant to be a stepping stone to get a job in fashion. 

Torres essentially became a body positive advocate by accident.

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“Any plus-size body that grows a following on social media and takes full body pictures is instantly labeled a self-acceptance warrior,” she said. She was just wearing bright colors and modeling off the clothes that inspire her, and a social media following just naturally happened.

Still, she didn’t love her body.

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But she did notice that she was holding herself back from embracing a diverse range of fashion because of her “body type.” Magazines love to dress women like they’re fruit: pear shapes, apple shapes, etc. Instead of dressing women for fashion, the clothes are meant to hide certain parts of their bodies.

Once she realized she was holding her fashion style back because of the “hate” she had for her body, she knew she needed to change.

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Like so many of us, she didn’t walk outside in a crop top and a skirt for the first time feeling confident and gleaming with body positivity. But you fake it till you make it, and now, Jessica Torres identifies as a self-acceptance advocate.

For every outfit she was afraid to wear, she had the courage to open up about it on social media.

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She started sharing stories of being fat-shamed at the doctor and saw the comment threads as a communal space of support and inspiration for other ladies living while fat. When she was afraid to wear a two-piece for the first time, she wrote about that, too, and found other women who gained the courage to do the same in solidarity.

As her following grows, she’s also experienced fat-shaming within the body-positivity community.

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Her body was always being compared to Ashley Graham’s or Iskra Lawrence. When Torres went up a single size in pants, she noticed how society still only accepts certain curves that are deemed beautiful. Meanwhile, others promote obesity. 

Torres is staying present to the hypocrisies and to her self.

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Caption: “Throwing it back to that time I was butt nekkid and wet and Kelly told me to sit on her lap.”

Being a social media influencer hasn’t made her any less real.

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Torres has partnered with Mod Cloth, Dove, and JcPenney to promote body positivity. She’s sharing her insider tips for strapless bras with the thickest, most comfy straps. She’s also still a person who tells publicists she farted. 😂

She’s not playing like her life is all together.

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While this would be very disappointing for all our mamis to read, it is deeply comforting to us all who have been traumatized by Saturday limpias. Where’s the link, Jessica?

Jessica Torres is the boss of all of us, and that’s how we like it.

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Tell me more about how I can all parts of myself, not just the ones that make me look like an hourglass. Who chose hourglasses as the epitome of sexiness anyway? All we know is that self-hate is a time thief and we’re done robbing ourselves of love, time and fashion, thanks to Jessica Torres.

READ: This Latina Tries On A Thong For The First Time And The Results Are Relatable

A Doctor Was Removed From A Plane For Wearing A Romper And Only Allowed Back On When She Covered Up In A Blanket

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A Doctor Was Removed From A Plane For Wearing A Romper And Only Allowed Back On When She Covered Up In A Blanket

Dr. Latisha “Tisha” Rowe, a family medicine specialist, was removed from an American Airlines plane because her outfit was viewed as “inappropriate” by flight staff. Dr. Rowe was directed off the plane, as she and her eight-year-old son were about to take their seats.

On the jetway, Dr. Rowe was confronted by a different flight attendant, who asked Rowe if she had a jacket, suggesting that she would be allowed on the plane if she were to cover up.

Dr. Rowe stated that she is both conscientious about what she wears and aware of double-standards in dress when it comes to women and people of color, but she was still surprised when approached by a flight attendant about her outfit: a romper. Dr. Rowe, who noted that there were other women wearing similar outfits on the plane from Jamaica to Miami, believes that her curves and the color of her skin may have been the real problem after a flight attendant told her that flight crew had flagged her outfit.

Taking care not to upset her son, Dr. Rowe attempted to deescalate the situation, during a series of insistent exchanges with the flight attendant, who she said was “embarrassed and fighting back tears.”

The flight attendant told Dr. Rowe that she would not be allowed back on the plane if she didn’t change her clothes or cover up.

Dr. Rowe and her son were only allowed back on the plane when the doctor covered herself with a blanket as she boarded the plane which she did, feeling “humiliated.” She was instructed to stay covered during the duration of the flight.

“If I were a white woman, you would have not asked me to get off the plane,” Rowe told the flight attendant during their series of exchanges.

Recent research study findings concerning black women and their bodies could shed some light on Dr. Rowe’s recent experience with American Airlines.

  • The Pacific Standard article “Research Suggests Black Women are More Likely to Be Objectified And Dehumanized” which summarizes recent study findings learned asserts that the findings support the perceptions of black women who believe that they are looked at differently than others.
  • Using eye-tracking technology, one study gathered these findings by tracking how long study participants gazed on black women’s breasts and groin areas.
  • The study found that black women are objectified more often and seen as less human.

After arriving at her destination in Miami, Dr. Rowe took to Twitter to share a photo of herself wearing the romper that ostensibly got her removed from the plane. In her tweet, she implies that she was asked to cover herself with the blanket because the romper shorts which did not cover her legs or shoulders caused her to be sexualized:

“Here is what I was wearing when @AmericanAir asked me to deplane for a talk. At which point I was asked to ‘cover up’ When defending my outfit I was threatened with not getting back on the flight unless I walked down the aisle wrapped in a blanket. #notsofriendlyskies” 

Other doctors on twitter were quick to reply to the post.

The following day Twitter user Traci Marie commented on Dr. Rowe’s post stating that she had recently flow wearing much less than Rowe, saying “My frame is smaller, my skin is fair & that’s not a coincidence.”

Others were quick to agree that the decision to boot Dr. Rowe from the plane had to be related to her race.

@RighteousVnger asked,  “@AmericanAir why did I IMMEDIATELY know upon reading the headline that the woman in the romper was black? #notsofriendlyskies shame on you and you lost a client (that you never had) for life.”

Twitter user Sunit Sanghrajka also supported Rowe and condemned American Airlines, saying that it was the airline that was inappropriate and not Dr. Rowe: “This is so inappropriate. American Airlines are now the “Fashion Police” #notsofriendlyskies. This is discrimination!

Erin Turnigan said, “You would think a company that is “#ClearedForLove” would be cleared for allowing women to wear whatever they please on their flights,” implying that the airlines showed no love to Dr. Rowe at all.

American Airlines spokeswoman Shannon Gilson, said in a public statement, that the airline has attempted to reach out to and apologize to Dr. Rowe and her son Chase.

Perhaps fearing further public backlash, in the statement, Gilson stated that the company has refunded Rowe for her travel. In 2017, the NAACP issued a travel warning about the airline that stated in part ” booking and boarding flights with American Airlines could subject them disrespectful, discriminatory or unsafe conditions.” This ban was not lifted until 2018 sometime after Dr. David Dao was assaulted by flight crew and dragged bloodied from the plane after refusing to give up his seat when he and a few other passengers were randomly selected to be removed from the flight to make room for additional flight staff.

Regarding this most recent incident Shannon Gilson made the following statement:

“We were concerned about Dr. Rowe’s comments, and reached out to her and our team at the Kingston airport to gather more information about what occurred,” Gilson added. “We want to personally apologize to Dr. Rowe and her son for their experience, and have fully refunded their travel. We are proud to serve customers of all backgrounds and are committed to providing a positive, safe travel experience for everyone who flies with us.”

Given its track record, it is unclear whether refunding Dr. Rowe’s flight costs is an attempt from American Airlines to manage their reputation and avoid a lawsuit.  Still, Dr. Rowe, who has sought legal counsel in this matter, has said, through her lawyer that she will give the airline an opportunity to “make it right.”

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