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Here Are 22 Wedding Themes That Might Inspire Your Own Special Day

Let’s be honest, we all love a good bodorrio. We enjoy every aspect of it, from receiving the invitation to guessing what we will feast on to waiting to see who we will be sitting with. And, now that we are being brutalmente francos, let’s say it: we also love estar de criticones. Yes, even if it is our mejor amigocha or a beloved primo, we derive certain guilty pleasure in finding little kitschy details in the decoration or a tuxedo that doesn’t quite hide the groom’s panza chelera. We know that a wedding involves months of planning and most likely a lot of drama, and at the end the bride and groom, grooms or brides have the final say in how they want to celebrate and be introduced as a marriage for the first time. But let’s relax and indulge in our criticón attitude for a little while. Todo es en buena onda, we promise.

Here are some of the most out there themed weddings in the Latino world and beyond!

These Latino Fiona and Shrek who nos tienen verdes de envidia

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The classic DreamWorks movie received a royal treatment by this couple. It is romantic beyond words and honestly they look so happy being themselves, just like the movie’s fairy tale couple. At the end of the day Shrek is all about love being more important than looks, and we are all for that body possitivity message.

This couple who served a cake that is truly to die for

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We don’t know about you, guys, but we would not dare to give this baby La Mordida!

These brides who love Wes Anderson’s Moonrise Kingdom way too much

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Wes Anderson’s coming off age story is as cute and as hipster as it gets. It is about finding young love where you least expect it. The new wives are bien tiernas y hermosas. Felicidades. 

Juego de tronos might be over, but it inspires romance around the world

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The HBO hit show might be over, but the GOT obsession will continue for years and perhaps decades to come. The site where the reception was held called this event The Red Wedding… has anyone checked in on the guests?

Seriously, stop it with the Westeros obsession

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The expression on that abue’s face says it all. She must be thinking “What the hell is all this?”. Even so, we admire her willingness to play the part!

This bride who had a not so subtle message for her video game-addicted beau

We are guessing that the PlayStation will disappear como por arte de magia. The only buttons she has to press are hers. Que pase el desgraciado!

Hasta que la muerte los separe was never spoken more truly

We love us a Mexican themed wedding, but this Día de Muertos partaaay went a bit too far. They might have creeped out some of the guests! This couple is so cute that we might just put their photo on our own altares de muertos.

Hey honey, let’s build a Minecraft world just for the two of us

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The computer game Minecraft is all about creating new worlds, right? So it sort of makes sense to start your life together in a Minecraft-themed party. OK, we tried to make up a reason for all this weirdness, we just hope they find time to take full advantage of their honeymoon and that they have some screen-free time.

Hey, do you think Marilyn Manson has the authority to marry us? 

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Goth weddings son la onda, but we are sure that more than one older relative just felt like a fish out of water. We can only imagine all the primos dancing to Norwegian trash metal! Headbanging!

We would love to attend this goth wedding, though!

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The thing about Gothic aesthetic is they can really pay attention to detail. That lace and leather cake looks sinfully delicious. Shall we get our velvet suit ready?

Pikachu is in da house!

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There are millions of fans of the Pokemon universe the world over, and in Japan you can already get a very yellow and very cute Pikachu-themed wedding. We are sure that these events are full of gyms and rare monsters for Pokemon Go! players.

Bajo el mar la vida es más sabrosa, love flourishes under the sea

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OMG. This looks as extravagant as it looks sort of cool. We are sure that was one wet “you can now kiss the bride” moment.

This dude who took his NFL fandom a bit too far

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The Superbowl of all weddings! To be honest, this seems to be a bit show-offy for our taste. We hope that this dude actually spends weekends with his new bride and doesn’t vegetate in front of the TV watching sweaty men tackle each other.

Life is like a board game, or so they say

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This cake topper reveals the couple’s love for the board game The Settler of Catan. You know what they say… en la guerra y en el amor todo se vale.

Something Wicked this way comes!

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We love the out-there attitude of these grooms. They look fantastic in their Emerald City attires and we just want to wish them a long yellow brick road to happiness.

One ring to rule them all! 

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LOTR weddings arrived in the early 2000s to stay and they are going nowhere. Just look at this massive anillo on the pastel de bodas. My precioussssss…

These grooms who revealed Buzz and Woody  are so in love

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These two handsome fellas are totally smashing as the protagonists of Toy Story. We hope their life together is as dreamy as the Pixar universe!

Is marriage the Dark Side of the Force?

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Weddings themed after La guerra de las galaxias are nothing new, but this couple decided to focus on the dark side and make their special day an homage to Lord Vader. Ay, nanita!

A lightsaber wedding lends itself to all kinds of albures

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We hope that these two apply their Jedi skills to face all the challenges that married life brings. This photo shoot es un poco exagerado, but as the proverb goes, each to its own.

Who is the despicable one? Maybe these minions will tell!

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Seriously, is this a wedding or a kid’s birthday party? With all due respect, this is just too… much.

Harry Potter is the LOTR for the millennial generation 

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Owls, magic, rival schools… not a theme that we would think of as wedding-friendly. We know, however, that many couples have gotten together for being potterheads, so maybe this is a celebration of their wizardly love.

Please tell us those Ferrero Rocher snitches won’t fly away

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Can you imagine being famished and a bit tipsy and see those chocolates just fly away… daring you to catch them? Lo peor del mundo mundial. 

Are You A Victim Of Abuse? Use This Checklist To Help You Determine The Truth

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Are You A Victim Of Abuse? Use This Checklist To Help You Determine The Truth

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If you feel that you are experiencing an abusive relationship, please seek help. Call The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233 for assistance. Please take care if you feel that your internet or mobile phone device use is being monitored.

There are three ways that abuse can be identified. By the way your partner treats you physically, by the way they treat you emotionally, and by how you feel about the relationship. This checklist of twenty signs of abuse is one tool that you can use to see if you, or someone you know, is a victim of abuse. And remember, more resources for dealing with abuse can be found by calling The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233.

1. They have grabbed you and refused to let go.

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This falls into the category of physical abuse. No-one should grab you to make you feel threatened and unsafe. No-one.

2. They have pulled your hair.

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This is another form of physical abuse. Sure, a bit of hair pulling in the act of passion is fine. But when it happens as part of an argument, or when your partner is deliberately trying to hurt you or make you feel threatened, that is abuse.

3. They have thrown things at you and/or destroyed your belongings.

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One way your significant other may try to control you is through your belongings. Throwing things at you and destroying your belongings is designed to hurt you physically and emotionally. Threatening to do so also falls under this category of behavior, too.

4. They have left you with bruises, black eyes, bleeding, and/or broken bones.

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While abuse doesn’t necessarily have to leave marks on your body, a sure sign of physical abuse in your relationship is when your partner does leave marks. Research shows that once it happens the first time, a “threshold” of sorts has been crossed, and an abuser is more likely to hurt their partner again.

5. They have threatened to hurt or kill you.

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It may not seem like abuse, since there are no physical marks left from a threat to hurt or kill you. However, these threats are still part of the arsenal of tools that abusers use. How? Because these threats are designed to control your behavior, and make you feel powerless. Abuse in a relationship is about the abuser gaining and maintaining power, and death threats are a way of emotionally controlling you.

6. They have threatened to take your children away or harm them.

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Even if you have children together, children shouldn’t be used as a bargaining chip in your relationship. Even more importantly, your children’s safety is non-negotiable: no partner of yours should threaten it. By the way, this doesn’t just apply to children. Pets can also be used to manipulate and control you in a relationship.

7. They have forced you to have sex.

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Sex is not a “duty” to be fulfilled in a loving, equal relationship. Nor should your partner guilt trip or manipulate you into participating in sex acts after you have refused sex. Consent needs to be freely given! It doesn’t matter how long the two of you have been together. Otherwise, it’s classed as sexual assault.

8. They try to control you and treat you like a child.

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Abusive relationships are about control and power. Part of treating you like a child is making you feel like you don’t have any control in the relationship, or even your life, so that you continue to stay and endure the abuse.

9. They make you feel like you need permission to make decisions or go somewhere.

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This applies when you feel like you have to text at every moment to update your partner about where you are. And when you can’t spend time with friends or family without getting permission from your partner. This is because abusers commonly try to isolate their partner from other, platonic relationships with other people.

10. They try to take complete control of the finances and how you spend money.

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Controlling how money is earned and spent is known as financial abuse. People suffering from this type of abuse are commonly denied access to money by partners for doing simple tasks like grocery shopping. Or, sometimes the abuser decides whether and when their partner is allowed to work.

11. They cannot admit to being wrong.

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Part of being in a respectful and loving relationship is being able to say sorry and to admit fault. An abusive partner refuses to apologise, because doing so would threaten their position of power in their relationship.

12. They accuse you of things that you know are not true.

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This is about control, and manipulating you. After all, if you’re spending your time trying to prove your innocence, then you’re not going to spend your time planning to leave the relationship, are you?

13. They do not take responsibility for their behavior.

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The reality is, it’s not too much to ask someone to take responsibility for their behavior – even more so when it’s someone you’re in a relationship with. However, your partner doesn’t take responsibility for their behavior because doing so would threaten their position of power in the relationship.

14. They use “The Silent Treatment” to get their way.

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Chances are you may have experienced “The Silent Treatment” before, in elementary school. And that’s where that behavior should stay. An equal, loving relationship is not built on one person using silence to manipulate the other person into conceding a point.

15. They make subtle threats or negative remarks about you.

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Of course, there’s always room for some friendly sledging in a loving, respectful relationship. But, it turns into abuse when your partner does this on a regular basis to frighten, or control you. It’s possible they may even pass it off as a “joke”, or say that you’re “overreacting”. But again, if you’re in a loving relationship, then your partner should respect the fact that you’re hurt by a “joke”. They should not continue to make these types of comments.

16. You feel scared about how your significant other will act.

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Repeat after us: you should have no reason to fear your partner in a loving, respectful relationship. You should have no reason to fear your partner in a loving, respectful relationship.

17. You feel that you can help your partner to change their behavior.

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But, only if you have changed something about yourself first.

18. You watch your behavior carefully so that you do not start a conflict in your relationship.

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An abuser does not abuse all of the time. They maintain a cycle of abuse in the relationship. Things go from being tense, where you feel like you have to watch your own actions, to an incident which involves verbal, emotional, financial and physical abuse. Then, your partner attempts reconciliation or denies the abuse occurred, and the relationship goes into a calm stage. However, tensions will begin to build before long, starting the cycle once again.

19. You stay with your partner because you are afraid of what they would do if you broke up.

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In other words, you feel trapped in your relationship because of your partner’s current, or potential, behavior. This can range from hurting you, your kids, your pets, your friends, and your family. Or, destroying your belongings, compromising access to your finances, or hurting themselves.

20. They don’t pass “The No Test”

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“The No Test” is pretty simple. Observe what happens the next time you tell your partner “no”. This could be in response to being asked out on a date, or maybe doing them a simple favor. Disappointment is a normal response to being told “no.”  However, pure outrage, violence, and/or emotional manipulation is not a reasonable response, and may indicate an abusive relationship.

If you feel that you are experiencing an abusive relationship, please seek help. Call The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233 for assistance. Please take care if you feel that your internet or mobile phone device use is being monitored.

Women Share What It’s Really Like Growing Up With A Single Mom

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Women Share What It’s Really Like Growing Up With A Single Mom

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If you’ve had the unique, and very very special, experience of being raised by a single mother, you know that it comes with all kinds of lessons. Amidst the struggles of single parenthood, you learn at a young age what true strength and perseverance mean. And above all, you learn from la jefa de jefas what it means to not only run a household but be a leader.

Recently we asked Latinas on Instagram to share what they valued most from their years being under a single-parent roof run by their mother. The responses proved to be touching, reflective and all at once unique.

The woman who helped raise eachother.

“My mom was a single mom, but my grandma raised me and my Nina influenced me. My grandma was a single mom too, so it came naturally for her to raise me herself. She’s the strongest woman I know💕 she always made sure I had food to eat and clothes on my back, she took me everywhere she could. Our weekends were filled with “browsing” and we’d be out from sunup to sundown no más en la calle 😁 she would start conversations with everyone anywhere. She was able to be a grandma to my baby and the only person I could fully rely on 100% to help me raise my own. There will never be words to say how much that meant to me. She’s turning 94 this year and still my heroe.” – moneekers

The mom who never let her children be home alone.

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“One thing I learned to appreciate as I became an adult is that my mom never let my sister and I be home alone; she made us play every sport offered at school so that she could be out of work and waiting in the parking lot when we got out of practice.” –just_phdcounselored

The woman raised by Wonder Woman herself.

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“My mother is Wonder Woman in the flesh and it is an honor to be her child my mother is the most amazing pain in my ass but absolutely best person in my life. I love her so much and value her for all her sacrifices and that she still stands by my side and my sisters through thick and thin. Proud to say I am my mother’s daughter. Single moms are warriors.” – ladycinnamon_90

The mama who had something to say.

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“I was a single mom to my oldest who is now 28. For the most part of her life. I have been single to my youngest now 14 for the last 11 years. I’ve had decent relationships with their fathers. I never stopped to think about how, as a single mother I helped to shape their world. I see myself in the comments on here as a single mama. Single moms just it it done!” –mimarria

The mom who found a way to give everything when she didn’t have a lot herself.

“My mom raised me and my 2 siblings since we were under the age of 5. She always made sure we had everything, even when we didn’t have a lot. Her hard work and dedication have made me the resilient woman I am today.” – gaby_armenta23