When it comes to you and your boyfriend, you guys are tight. But there is always room for being a closer couple and, often, that comes with open communication and developing greater intimacy. Part of that intimacy is always learning new things about each other and, in particular, learning things that nobody else knows about you. That’s where these questions come in.

If you want to build your bond with your sweetie pie, then you should ask him these 20 sexy questions. From learning what his favorite part of your body is to learn his most daring fantasy, these questions are sure to help you get closer together… And they might even make for some hot-and-heavy nights, too.

1. What’s your favorite part of my body?

This is a good first question to start with because it’s likely that he has already thought about this plenty (or at least we hope so!). It can really open up the communication channels and add something sexy to the conversation. Perhaps, next, you can ask for him to massage that part of your body? And see where the massage leads…

2. How often do you touch yourself in a week? What’s on your mind during solo time?

This is the kind of question that might make the conversation really awkward at first but you can start out by admitting that you, too, have your own solo sessions. Talk about what he likes to think about (or if he watches anything) when he masturbates and, perhaps, how you can help next time.

3. Has anyone ever caught you naked before?

This is a fun and sexy question that you can both answer, but definitely first start with him. It will likely lead to a fun or embarrassing story that now, years later, he likely is laughing about. Maybe, perhaps, you can talk about his general nakedness after.

4. Have you ever “sexted” someone?

Hopefully, at this point in your relationship, you have already sexted with your sweetie. If you haven’t, then what are you waiting for? Either way, it would be fun to hear about his previous “sexting” experience and what he learned. Perhaps he can even demonstrate, for you, how he likes it.

5. What turns you on almost instantly? 

This is definitely a fun question to know about your partner. You probably already know a lot of the things that turn him on on a regular basis, but what about the things that he really, truly can’t resist? You’ll definitely want to know what has an instant effect on his libido for the next time you, ahem, want to use that information.

6. What celebrity do you think would be the best in bed?

It’s always fun to talk about your celebrity crushes with your bae, but this question is a bit more specific. It’s definitely something that you can discuss together but it would first be really interesting to hear your boyfriend’s thoughts that don’t necessarily include who the “hottest” celeb is but who would actually be the best in bed, which are two very different things.

7. Do you like it when girls wear lingerie?

According to our culture, guys LOVE girls in lingerie. But that’s not necessarily true if you’ve ever had a conversation with a straight male friend. Beyond that, your bae might like a different type of lingerie. Having this conversation can definitely open up some new, sexy channels for you to explore in the future.

8. Have you ever bragged to your friends about me?

This can be a sweet question that leads to some fun exchanges. It’s always a confidence-booster to hear about your boyfriend bragging about you and, especially, if you ask him what are the kind of things he bragged about. It’s a great conversation starter for the things you appreciate about each other.

9. Have you ever had a sexy dream about me?

One of the best parts about talking about your sexy dreams with your sweetie is that you can recreate those dreams in real-life. A lot of fantasies can open up and desires are expressed when you talk to your boyfriend about the sexy dreams he’s had about you… And don’t be afraid to share yours with him, too.

10. How long do you think you could go without sex?

This is an interesting question that can spark some anxiety at first but can actually reveal more about your honey than you might initially think. You can go into how long each you has actually gone without sex and if you felt any repercussions because of it. Plus, don’t forget to ask this question in general but also with “in a relationship” attached, too.

11. Do you like getting lap dances?

Not every guy likes getting lap dances or going to strip clubs, even if our culture sometimes makes it seem like that’s the first thing they do whenever on a business trip and away from their wives or girlfriends. But your sweetie might, so it’s good to know. Plus, by asking if he likes lap dances, you have the chance to give him one yourself for the next special occasion.

12. Where is the strangest place you’ve ever had sex?

This is definitely a conversation that must be had in every relationship. Not only is it something that sparks fun and creativity but it’s also good to know where your partner has been in the past. You don’t have to reveal too many details if it makes you uncomfortable but it’s also fun to laugh over the strange things we’ve done in our past.

13. If I allowed you to do anything to me, what would you do?

Now THIS is a question that you probably want to ask during a particularly intimate moment. The thing about a question like this is that it can open up a lot of avenues of conversation and make things really good or really awkward. The main thing you’ll want to remember when asking this, though, is to not judge your partner for what they say and simply let them express themselves.

14. What’s your favorite part of sex?

Sure, everyone might say that the orgasm is their favorite part but that’s not necessarily true. A lot of people love the lead-up, some like the kissing and others still like something else entirely. The best way to find out what your partner likes is by asking, of course, so ask away.

15. How old were you when you lost your virginity?

People often talk about a woman’s virginity, so why not turn that conversation around by asking your boyfriend when he lost his? He might have a sweet story from having sex for the first time with his high school girlfriend or a lewd story that involves his time in college. Either way, listen without judgment… and maybe laugh along, if appropriate.

16. Would you ever watch porn with a girl?

A lot of men hate admitting that they watch porn and, even worse, would never watch porn with their partners. That’s okay but it can also be quite an intimate act to watch porn with your boyfriend. So, in order to nudge him along, ask about his porn habits and whether this is something he would actually consider doing someday.

17. Have you ever kissed me in public just to make someone jealous?

This is another fun question similar to him bragging about you but this one has more to do with PDA and jealousy. It might be fun to hear about the times that he has tried to or wanted to make others jealous, too, and who specifically those others were. An ex-girlfriend? A frenemy? A buddy he competes with?

18. How do you feel about toys in the bedroom?

Although many women these days are comfortable with toys in the bedroom, it’s definitely still a somewhat taboo subject in couples. Why? Because men often don’t need toys in their solo time (unlike women) so they don’t know how to deal with it. Ask about how he feels about toys and begin the conversation of whether there are any you could experiment with together.

19. What’s the dirtiest thing you have ever done?

Similar to the question about the strangest place he’s had sex but not quite like that. The dirtiest thing he has ever done might be a very different answer and definitely one that you want to hear. Don’t be afraid to share your own answer to this question too, and that might lead to another part of a fun conversation.

20. What is a fantasy you’ve never shared with anyone?

You’ll want to ask this final question when you are having an intimate moment, preferably in bed. It can be difficult to share something like this with your partner for both men and women, so make sure that you are in a safe and comfortable place when you ask about his ultimate fantasy. And then, just listen…

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