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How Are You Single vs Taken According To Your Zodiac Sign

Ever feel like your friends get a personality transplant when they get into a relationship? Sorry, amigo, but the same thing happens to you, too. Being single, you can do what you want, when you want. Though you don’t completely alter who you are as a person when you’re all loved-up, there are some things that need to be changed when you want to fit into another person’s life. After all, every relationship is about compromise, right?

Read on to find out what the stars say about the differences between your single and taken selves!

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Instagram: @fabiolagambardella

Single: Aries, you’re one independent, dynamic soul. You radiate passion even when you’re not in a relationship. You can very easily attract friends, and potential romantic prospects. You get fired up about anything and everything: climate change, fashion, what you had for breakfast … the list goes on. Just be careful, since your attitude can sometimes be a little too over the top.

Instagram: @curly_little_lena_

Taken: You need your relationships to not feel like relationships. Your way of flirting with your partner in crime is by being mean to them – verbal sparring and teasing is your thing. As far as you’re concerned, burdens, duties, and routine signal the death of a relationship.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

Instagram: @segmento_country

Single: Unfortunately, Taurus, being single isn’t really for you. Even when you’re alone, you don’t like feeling lonely. To compensate, you surround yourself with friends, and hunt for new adventures. Sometimes, though, you have a habit of spreading yourself too thin.

Instagram: @__jazzyfit

Taken: You’re hella romantic, Taurus! Your relationships involve a lot of home cooked meals, massages, candles, and some sexy lingerie. You know there’s no point being in love unless you can show your sensual self. You’re the type to give your all in a relationship, which means that you can become a bit obsessive at times.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Instagram: @_artwins_

Single: A single Gemini is one hell of a social butterfly. You have so much time to do whatever you want, so why not spend it talking the ear off of somebody else? To be honest, because you are so independent, it can be a relief for you to not be weighed down by a relationship.

Instagram: @beckygworldwide

Taken: You definitely wear the pants in a relationship. This is mostly because you juggle lots of projects at once, so your partner has to be okay with letting you be in charge of your social calendar. So long as they remember that intellectual discussions are your kind of turn-on, you’ll be fine.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Instagram: @wuchunyi0214

Single: With your ability to adapt, Cancer, you’re surprisingly good at being single. You make a fantastic, reliable friend. In fact, you’re the type of person who makes friends for life. But, be careful when you party, Cancer! That’s when you’ll dwell on all of your insecurities about being single.

Instagram: @beckyg.baby

Taken: Cancer, you are simultaneously the best, and the worst, person to be in a relationship with. You’re loyal and sensitive, which is fabulous when you commit. But, sometimes, this can turn into a real overly-emotional attitude! Your neediness may be the thing that kills your relationships.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Instagram: @picturesnpixels

Single: Single time is fiesta time for a Leo. Your outgoing and independent personality is party animal material. If you’re single, then you’re more likely to invest time into the drama of all of your friendships. And if there’s no drama happening, then clearly it’s your job to create some.

Instagram: @centrartcityurban

Taken: Are you even in a relationship unless it’s Facebook official, and you have your own hashtag? Leo, you are no wallflower in a relationship. You need to be with someone who understands that the limelight is still yours, even though there’s two of you.

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Instagram: @sven.fiedler.art

Single: Virgo, did someone mention workaholic? Being single means throwing yourself headfirst into your work life, and getting things done. And you’re good at it, too. So much so, that you might get a little stressed from the workload. We mentioned work, right? Right.

Instagram: @centrartcityurban

Taken: Your relationships turn your projects from work-related to relationship-related, Virgo. Even if everything is going swimmingly, you’re still prone to worrying about the tiny little details of your relationship. Because maybe that green sweater they wore last night was sending some subliminal message to you. If only you could figure it out …

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Instagram: @trellis_weddingware

Single: Libra, you know that being single is about getting in touch with your zen side. You’re the type to invest in a new all-green diet, an aquatic yoga routine, and take up language lessons. Being single is about being positive, discovering a new you, and having a proper work-life balance. Or, so you’ve been told.

Instagram: @etna_backtobasics

Taken: You’re guilty of being a bit of a flirt when you’re in a relationship. And, not just flirting with your partner, but with everyone. After all, no-one takes you seriously if you’re already in a relationship, right?

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Instagram: @hashtaginstandreas

Single: You can be an introvert even at the best of times, Scorpio. When you’re single, you prefer to be alone. This can be a good time for you to get in touch with your dreams and ambition, and really excel with your job.

Instagram: @11.17s

Taken: Scorpio, relationships are about the sex for you. If you’re getting along, then it’s time for a good bonk. You’ve just had a fight? Better resort to make-up sex. Or angry sex. The point is, you can’t keep your hands off your partner.

Read: Which Dog Breed Matches Your Zodiac Sign?

Sagittarius (November 23 – December 21)

Instagram: @heydeezee

Single: With your easygoing nature, Sagittarius, you take being single in your stride. You’re not worried about being alone, and neither are you scared about being surrounded by people. To be honest, the only thing you really worry about is whether you’re having a good time.

Instagram: @clushbabe

Taken: One of the biggest benefits you get from being in a relationship is having someone who’ll make sure you arrive at events on time. Seriously! You’re forever running late, Sagittarius.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 20)

Instagram: @jaffar__sathick

Single: The single life for you, Capricorn, means devoting your time to others. You’re super helpful, and you always do your best to make a sad friend feel better. But, since you’re one stoic person, you don’t expect others to return the favor.

Instagram: @square_peg_images

Taken: Funnily enough, you treat your romantic relationships the same way as what you treat your friendships! You prefer to take things slowly, Capricorn, so it may be a while before a new partner gets to know the real you. But, slow and steady wins the race, so maybe you’ve got a winning formula on your hands.

Aquarius (January 21 – February 18)

Instagram: @bethcassini

Single: With your fierce sense of independence, Aquarius, you don’t really care if you’re single or taken. Being the sign of groups and friends, you prefer to focus on making friends that fill up your cup. For you, the most important question of all is whether you’re feeling creatively and intellectually fulfilled.

Instagram: @msalexsky

Taken: If you’re in a relationship, then your loved one better know sooner rather than later that you’re much like a household cat. You need your alone time, and plenty of it. But, you also expect to be showered with affection when you want it. Yup, you can be a tricky one to love, Aquarius.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Instagram: @mike_bawue_photography

Single: You’re one social star sign, Pisces, since you find being around other people helps keep your life simpler, and more balanced. You’re definitely in your comfort zone when you’re surrounded by other people, so being single for you can be challenging.

Instagram: @kimyfitness

Taken: Pisces, you’re at your best when you’re in a relationship. You’re a generous, soulful and romantic person. Plus, you’re very supportive of your partners. Make sure you’re with someone who truly appreciates you, Pisces, because your giving nature makes it easy for people to take advantage of your goodness.

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From No-Sleep Lifestyles To ‘Fifty Shades Of Grey,’ People Talk About The Toxic Things We Tend To Glamorize

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From No-Sleep Lifestyles To ‘Fifty Shades Of Grey,’ People Talk About The Toxic Things We Tend To Glamorize

“Being able to function with minimal levels of sleep. I know I used to do that, it feels so much better to get a full night of rest though.”- iimuffinsaur

“This is my mom. I’m a very heavy sleeper. I don’t function without at least 8 – 9 hours a night. She often makes snarky comments about how she was awake at 3:30 am and working while I slept until 5. God forbid I stay in bed until 6 on a Sunday! Then I’m no better than a bum!”- Smart-Connection6154

“When I was in middle school I had stayed up all night like with friends or something and thought the feeling the next day was pretty cool and funny. did it in high school a few times here and there especially in the summer and again I was so cool. Stayed up all night a few times throughout college, either partying, hang out with friends, or studying. I would still function the next day so obviously it was no big deal just sometimes be sleep deprived. I knew what sleep deprivation felt like, I knew what exhaustion felt like. It wasn’t that bad.

Fast forward to early 30s and I’m a new mom. On more than one occasion I can recall sitting on the bathroom floor with my knees drawn up to my chest, sobbing, I can hear my daughter crying in her crib middle of the afternoon, I can feel my organs wanting to shut down and my whole body desperately trying to turn off. Mentally I was absolutely terrified that I was never again going to get to sleep. That’s no exaggeration. I was terrified out of my mind. I really did truly believed that I was dying. It had been months of nights where I was woken up every 45 minutes, only to be up for at least an hour. I was truly considering myself lucky if I got 3 hours of very broken sleep. Even before my daughter came, the third trimester I was up four or five times a night because I have an overactive bladder that was made worse by pregnancy.

When my second came along, I would have anxiety attacks about the impending sleep deprivation that I knew was going to be coming. My kids are older now, they sleep through the night no problem, if they have to get up and go to the bathroom they go themselves and if they do wake me up it’s maybe once a month. And yet I still start to panic if I can’t fall asleep at night or if I wake up during the night and can’t go back to sleep in a timely fashion. I’m so afraid of ever experiencing that level of sleep deprivation again.

Sleep deprivation is no joke.”- girlwhoweighted

“And boasting that you work 60 hours a week and never take any holidays or sick leave.”- _harro_

“If you work super duper hard and dedicate your entire life to your career you become rich! Everybody knows that! All the rich company owners told us that’s how it’s done so it must be true. They are rich after all.”- DarthTheRaider

“My job says if u call out more than 3 times you get an occurrence (basically a mark for disciplinary action). This also applies to being late. There are also a number of ways at work to get a mark as well. 4 occurrences is a warning, 5 is written warning, and 6 is termination. Meaning if you’re just having a very bad year and need to call out more than normal, you’re out of a job. I literally come into work sick because I’m terrified I’ll have some kind of windfall and need to call out in a no choice situation.

These also affect your ability to get promoted which I am trying to do. And even then it’s no guarantee. I’ve called out once in the last 12 months because I’m trying to get a new job that I’m easily qualified for but competing against fatigue worshippers who haven’t called out in years. There were a couple of times I was literally puking in the bathroom I was so sick but didn’t want to call out or go home (going home early is an occurrence).

You may say find a new job, but there are no jobs right now that pay this well. Don’t get me wrong, the pay is great for where I live and I actually like (eh maybe more tolerate easily?) the job. It’s just their culture I can’t stand.”- MasterPip 

“I’m in academia and remember in grad school being so intimidated by postdocs who kept insisting they had so much to do they worked all weekends, couldn’t take vacations, stressed all the time, etc. And this was in Europe so not a crazy work obsession like in the USA!

Made me feel so nervous that I wasn’t cut out for it because I was only doing regular hours, and now that I’m a postdoc myself I can now say those people were just insane. Maybe if you’re in a field where you need to be in the lab for research to happen it’s different, but in mine I’d say you either have terrible working habits or say yes to a ton of stuff you shouldn’t if you’re working 60+ hours every week.”- Andromeda321

“the whole idea of being a ”hustler” and never staying off the grind is extremelly toxic. everyone keeps promoting that you should always work and be productive but that just won’t work. everyone needs a balance in their lives and putting your 95% of effort into working will just drain every bit of inspiration or fun from you.”- taeslid

“I belonged to an internet group with a member who did this ALL THE TIME. No matter the topic of discussion, from working out to watching the Oscars on TV, she would always be inform the rest of us that she had no time for such things because of her job.

She worked as a communications specialist at a small town hospital.”- haloarh

“I think the most jarring part of this paradigm is that the people humble-bragging about how hard they worked and how successful they are never take the time to address the value of:

  • simple good luck (good health, good circumstances, right place right time)
  • waiting

The message is always “look at how good I’ve got it, and all because I worked so hard [implicitly harder than you because I have this and you do not therefore you must not be doing the hard work that I do]”. Obviously there is a value to working smarter not harder and capitalising on opportunities but it overlooks the basic principle that so much must have gone right for them that is beyond their control for which they now take credit.

The waiting point is a big one for me as well. People who espouse this “hard work, constant graft” attitude fail to acknowledge that sometimes in life there is a value derived from the passage of time. Sure some people get lucky and make millions at a young age or become grotesquely famous due to some twist of public interest but for most people there is a real life value in the experience gained through living your life and just turning up. You don’t need to constantly thrash yourself into moving 100mph, you don’t need to beat yourself down for taking some time to catch your breath and actually enjoy life. Sometimes you just have to keep turning the wheel for a bit, maybe it’s a few years in a job that is really good for your career or a few years just putting money in the piggybank so you can buy your first house.

We live in a world that has commercialised success stories, the narrative that you can go from “nothing” to “something” in a relatively short time using the power of your supreme genius and superhuman work ethic is saleable, on social media (celebs on instagram), in magazines, on TV etc etc. Obviously some people do hit a booster and go very fast very quickly but for just about 99.9% of us that’s a fallacy. Sometimes all you need to do is keep working at a healthy, sustained pace and focus on enjoying your time on this planet because there are no bonus points for working yourself into a state of misery.”- aightshiplords

“Severe codependent “romance”. Twilight is a good example of an extreme case of this.

Also, manipulative, possessive, and controlling behavior in a romantic partner.”- tygs42

“Yeah, what the fuck was that “break into her room at night and watch her sleep” crap?

bUt ItS TwOo LoVE!

Bullshit! it’s stalking and it’s creepy.
Him being over a hundred years old doesn’t make it any better either.”- Ruadhan2300

“Also Fifty Shades. You don’t want a Mr Grey, Karen. Women who get a Mr Grey end up in the morgue or in the women’s refuge after fleeing for their lives.”- house_autumn

“Damaged bad boys do not take breakups very well in fiction. See: Anakin Skywalker, Edward Cullen, Christian Grey, etc.”- SamaritanPrime

“Kind of along these lines, when a guy is an asshole to everyone except his girlfriend, it doesn’t mean that she’s special to him. It means he knows how to not be an asshole just enough to convince someone that he isn’t an asshole.”- SmartAlec105

“I remember my mother trying that. It backfired spectacularly when she realized I was enjoying the peace and quiet, so she just beat the shit out of me again.”- PotentialRegister8

“Ah, that was my mom…refusing to speak to me for days sometimes and I usually didn’t know why. At the time it was so stressful and I would spend that time crying and walking on eggshells trying not to upset her further. Now I’m like, uh this was going on from the time I can remember, which was 4 years old and she was an adult…who does that?!”- ummugh

“Twilight. It’s not really a healthy relationship.”- BandicootCrustybuns

“A couple I went to school with used to proudly compare their relationship to Joker and Harley Quinn.

I blame the Suicide Squad movie. It didn’t show off the absolute tragedy of Harley’s relationship with Joker and I’d say it glamourised it more than anything.”- loneOstrich

“The book/movie that really stands out for me is the 50 Shades series. He’s only sexy/romantic because he’s rich. If he were poor and got rid of her car without asking, tossed all of her clothes, tracked her phone, covered her in bruises/hickeys because he didn’t like how she behaves… He was a total shitbag…. Yet so many women thought that their relationship was amazing.”- DelicateIslandFlower

“I was raised by a single father and started to realize that when I didn’t obey out of fear or had my own arguments and opinions he kind of respected me and listened to me more. That caused me to have a very natural behaviour around men regarding my opinions.

I state them, I disagree and I am not afraid to be unlikable because of it. In the end it’s just an opinion and healthy discussions should endure this.

Also, people tend to listen to you if you are respectful, waiting for your turn to talk and state your opinion well spoken and calm, there’s no need to get hysterical or emotional because someone else disagrees with you. I feel oftentimes this might be a problem in discussions and in order to avoid that, women (no generalisation just because the question is aimed at women) often agree because they fear personal conflict.”- tingletangletits

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Reddit Users Are Sharing Advice On How To Get Over Your Fear Of Being Hurt By A New Partner

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Reddit Users Are Sharing Advice On How To Get Over Your Fear Of Being Hurt By A New Partner

Heartache often proves to be a heck of a mountain to get over.

Isolating, physically and emotionally draining, and ultimately desperate, the feeling of having your heart split into can be a traumatizing one that can bleed into future relationships. No matter how healthy or new, the relationships we get into after heartbreaks can be difficult to navigate, and often times feel like a minefield of potential problems.

Users on Reddit know this truth and are doing their best to help us all get over our dating fears.

Check out some helpful insights below!

“By healthily distancing myself and having more to focus on in my life than a current relationship. I find that I have more trouble with these feelings when I’m lacking outside hobbies and friends. It’s easy to constantly worry about a new relationship when it’s the center of your world, and giving yourself space outside the relationship can also really help if you’re prone to being codependent on partners/spouses.”- SwirlyButterfly

“After certain number of heartbreaks, you start to realize you’ve always survived and you’ll survive if it happens again. Having a full life apart from the relationship is a big part of that.”- 1VulgarWoman

“When I started going on out the weekends with friends, it helped soooo much. I noticed when I was getting depressed I wasn’t going out at all. Giving myself the space allowed the relationship to flow perfectly.”- itristain

“By going slow. When my now fiance asked me out I was five months removed from being raped by two guys at a house party and was still really shaken up about it. I didn’t trust men, I didn’t crave sex or intimacy, I was anxious and hurt. But against my gut I agreed to go on the date and was delighted to find he was sweet and respected my wishes. After we’d been seeing each other for about three months I told him that I’d been assaulted and he was always there for emotional support. We’re getting married in August, our sex life is great and I’m infatuated with him. It just took time.”- Mineralista406

“I know that moving forward after a bad relationship I will never ignore red flags and chose partners with morals and goals similar to mine. Do not ignore red flags because you’re lonely. It’s not worth it.”- Melyjane312

“It’s hard because it took me a long time and a lot of conversations to feel secure and that i was finally with someone who wasn’t going to hurt me. And he said all of those right things with no doubts, no red flags etc. However sure enough one day- heart broken. So I don’t know how i will ever do it again.”- icecream112233

“Depends if you are with them, or want one right away.

For me, distance, u dont need someone else to be complete, put those standards high. If you want a loving gentle yet strong and dependable partner, manifest him.”- Koroklass

“I think it might be helpful to adopt a mindset where you realize people aren’t really going to change for you (unless you have a really special bond or something and you’re in a really deeply committed relationship where your partner is willing to compromise etc.) and that whatever they do is a reflection of who they are as a person and not who you are. Yeah you can communicate and if they choose to listen then great, If not well there’s almost always a choice on whether to stay or not. Sometimes it’s not that people want to hurt you it’s just that they simply don’t know better or they have some character “flaw” that speaks more about them. Or that due to timing or the nature of things it can’t work right now, or some people aren’t built for relationships, and that relationships can be vastly different with different people. No one is perfect and we can only do our best. And like what other people are saying, shift that focus onto yourself and work on being a good person living a happy and healthy life doing things that you love will help!”- imightforgetthis11

“Aww man… it took over a year. I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year and some months. I used to have bad anxiety. I never been in a healthy relationship. This feeling was sooo new to me. I felt so uneasy and still wouldn’t and couldn’t trust him. I prayed ALOT. And It was proven that I could trust him and just relax but I still couldn’t. I tried 3 therapist that didn’t help. I just wasted money. What helped me was reading books and going out with my friends. I am currently reading 4 books and reading them has helped my issues. It’s therapy for me. I read books about relationships and men and women. I learned more about myself. I got a relationship/life coach by researching the book and found that there are people who will coach you. She told me I get anxiety because I’m going against my feminine ways. I was trying to control my bf for no reason, nag him and etc. I stopped doing that and became relaxed. I focused on becoming a better person. I read books on being feminine in a relationship and I tried it. I started being more happy and just letting go. I stopped worrying and it feels great. I don’t think he will hurt me. I don’t have those thoughts anymore. I don’t think he’ll cheat either. He adores me so much and I get reminded of that every single day. I just sat back and did nothing and focused on ME. You have to fix yourself before you get into a relationship or else marriage will unravel it all and it could go bad. When I prayed I already had confirmation. I downloaded scripture apps and got more into prayer. If you’re religious then trusting God will help you trust yourself

I also learned that thinking negative has ALOT to do with it. I learned to only think positive and I’m normally happy the whole entire day. I just changed my life around. My coach also said when I change, my partner changes. He was always loving to me, but now he seems to have falling deeper.”- itristain

“Books have also been a huge help in my healing journey and figuring out how not only my partners, but I was hurting and sabotaging my relationships.”-Sea-Delay

“I am and always have been laid back, loving and trusting in my relationships. But they have always ended in the the guy treating me bad eventually (I have broken up with them pretty quick after such treatment). But now I always have a feeling they will betray me no matter how loving our relationship is, like they are always just pretending to be loving and will eventually be horrible to me and it makes me feel really sad.”- callmedeniro

“Time and taking things slowly in the beginning. Took me a while to get there but I worked through those feelings and got there eventually.”- kinkyspidersex

“My fiance came home from work and instead of helping my friend move that was standing right outside, he told me he actually didn’t love and dint want to be in this life with me anymore. So that was rough. I dont think… I have gotten over that fear? I still think about how my current, long term partner of almost 3 years might do that. And there’s not much I can do about it? It wasn’t my fault the first time, shit just happens, he might fall out of love with me this time too. I just remember those fears are mine,and not rational, and thats not fair to put on my current partner to make me feel better about.”- seeemilydostuf

“It all came down to the right man. He could have other women but he wants me. He doesn’t have to be with someone to be happy but he chooses to be with me. He never tells me something he doesn’t think is true. In light of all that I just can’t really imagine him hurting me or lying to me about how he feels… he’s just had so many opportunities to do something else and he hasn’t.”- phasestep

“Day by day, by being vulnerable with my new partner and most of the time he doesn’t let me down.”- StrongEye1738

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