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A Reddit User Asked Men In Longterm Relationships What It Is They Miss About The Honeymoon Phase And Here’s What They Had To Say

In a recent post to Reddit, one user posed the question to men “what little things do you miss from your SO from the honeymoon phase?” The Redditor behind the question explained that she had noticed that she’d become so comfortable with her boyfriend that she found themselves kissing less than they had been in the first few months of the start of their relationship. Ultimately the question highlights a pretty big issue: sometimes when it comes to relationships we get so comfortable, we end up being neglectful. If you’re in a long term relationship with your S/O check out these responses to help keep the flame alive.

Spontaneous kisses 

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“I realized I wasn’t spontaneously kissing my boyfriend as much as I did in the first few months of our relationship and now I am trying to ensure that brief (or long) surprise make out sessions don’t fade from our interactions. Stuff like that.

What little things did your SO do in the beginning of the relationship that stopped once you became comfortable (and that you miss)?”

Jabs that were playful and not so personal

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“The flirty texts from him is what I miss the most. I pointed it out and said he doesn’t seem as smitten with me and he said its just that, now that he’s ‘caught’ me, I have to deal with his snarky side more. I don’t mind his snark because I fire it right back but sometimes its like… can’t we have both?” —Warriorette12

Those long-ass cuddle sessions.

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“Cuddling. She couldn’t get enough of it, we would waste days cuddled up together in bed. Nowadays, 6 years in, she mostly likes to spread out on her own and basically build a rats nest of pillows and blankets with which she also places her candy stash and will read or watch t.v on her phone. I try to snuggle but if I try it’s treated like an annoyance or I’m bothering her.” – NWcoffeeaddict

The excitement of it all

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“Not much but I miss the thumping in my heart whenever I was near her. I still love her the same if not more but I miss the excitement of it all, especially since it’s both our first relationship.”– elizacandle  

Texts that weren’t about groceries 

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“Married for going on 5 years. I really miss the super flirty texts. We still text each other flirty but not near as intense and sexual. Also, I wish we had as much sex as in the beginning. We still have sex like at least once a week but damn, I miss the daily hardcore banging.” – kentuckyloglady

That R-E-S-P-E-C-T

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“When she appreciated the things I do and respected my intelligence and opinion.”- Good_Dad_Mike

Date nights

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“Going out pretty much everyday (dates and stuff) nowadays due to work and studying we barely have time to watch a movie tho, still i wouldn’t change all the time i had with her in the past.” – vertuchi02

Making out and nothing else

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Making out. We used to make out for hours. I miss that.”Kits_and_Kats

Wanting to hold hands

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“We used to hold hands more, just because we could. And he would often just lift the back of my hand up and kiss it like it was a precious thing to hold it. I know its old fashioned a bit but i loved that little gesture. Now we seldom hold hands and i miss it” – RetailandPuppies

The rapid-fire texts

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  The instant text reply. Sweet talk. Quality time together.” momo-skee

The anticipation and spontaneity of it all

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“There is less anticipation and butterflies during sex, but I’m way more comfortable than I have ever been before. That’s the trade off, you don’t have the thrill as much but you don’t have the anxiety either. And you know eachother so well that you know how to please eachother to the greatest extent. Plus you can explore all your fantasies without hesitation because you trust and love eachother. Just because you lose that initial thrill does not make it any less satisfying. Honestly, everything else from the “honeymoon” phase has carried on. The flirting, the spontaneous making out, the long talks, the cuddling, the dates, and everything else, will carry on as long as you decide to carry it on. There is absolutely no reason that you have to let it die, it takes conscious effort sometimes from both parties, but it is your choice, it is not simply a consequence of long term dating.” -Reddit user

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Latinas Talk About Love At First Sight

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Latinas Talk About Love At First Sight

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In an infamous scene in the 1992 book Like Water for Chocolate, the novel’s main characters Tita and Pedro swear their undying love for each other within minutes of first meeting. Just like that, they experienced love at first sight. Stories all throughout history have detailed the romantic personal experience of an instant and ultimately long-lasting romantic attraction for a stranger upon first sight. But how practical— or even true is that really?

We turned to our FIERCE readers to see just how prevalent this phenomenon is.

In a post to our Instagram page we asked Latinas for their love at first love stories.

And scavenged around Reddit for good measure. Check out what we discovered below!

“Yes. I had briefly met him before but it was the first time I ever really noticed him. We had a whirlwind romance and then he left to take a job in Europe. We kept in touch for a few years but never saw each other again. He is the gold standard I judge men by.” –
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“YES with my dog the second I saw him I knew he was the one!! I’ve had him for 17years now and we are happily ever after.”- virgok1

“Yes but I’m just not brave enough to tell them they’re beautiful tho, most incredible smile I’ve ever seen the most captivating set of eyes I’ve ever looked into. But well love from afar right?” –ta_ta1009

“Yes. And it was delicious, I’ll never forget those Tacos dorados. My one and only.”- funkycold___medina

“Yes! I never knew love could fill your heart like that so instantly and so completely! It was the first time I ever saw my niece! Best feeling in the world!”- yesi_lo

“Not in love but in strong lust.” – magnetic67

“Yes! And we just got married during the pandemic (very interesting way how we got married).”-21djenne

“Just when I first laid eyes 👀 on the paletero in my neighborhood. Jokes aside I love that man, he’s so sweet.”- dreathunder

“Yup met mine when I was 17 yrs old and knew I would marry them. Here we are 18 years later and still together.” –elizabeth_pearl

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“We were both 18 going on 19. He was a second year science student, I was a fresh faced firstie at a brand new University. I was also 95% sure I was lesbian. I saw this goofy ginger at the outdoor movie theatre, he had Styrofoam strapped to his head and declared himself Julius Ceasar, and gave me the biggest and most genuine smile. When he asked my name, it was a genuine want not just a question you ask to fill time. My heart squeezed a bit, and we kept eye contact for a bit too long before we both turned back to the screen. The next day we ended up sitting across from eachother in the cafeteria, and as soon as I saw him sitting there with a grin on his gorgeous face I knew I could love him. We were attached at the hip for at least 8 hours every day for a month, it was like a need to be around eachother, a magnetic pull and attraction. We started dating after a few weeks. We both fell in love quickly. I never believed in love at first sight, but we fit together perfectly in every way and every day, even now as we’re 20 with a lot of growth and ‘relationship strainers’ under our belts there hasn’t been a day that’s gone by where I don’t think of him and fall further in love. We’ve fought a bit, met eachothers families, he’s held my hand in the hospital and I’ve held his. We’ve had the kids talk, marriage talk, finances talk, and we’re moving in together this summer. It’s also pretty great that we have the same taste in women. I have never been happier, and he tells me the same.”-HelloSchrodi

“We met at work, when we both locked eyes we were drawn to each other. After a week of flirting with each other and staring into her beautiful blue eyes, she actually asked ME out. We dated for 8 years and got engaged; being madly in love is perfection. She walked down the aisle about 13 months after she accepted my proposal. She gave birth to her first child 10 months later, and had her second 2 years after that. She’s very happy in her life. Kind of wished she married me instead of the dickhead she met a month after leaving me.” –UrMomLikesMine

“It was a whirlwind. Can’t really explain it. Distance and heavy workloads on both our parts (we couldn’t see each other at all one year) made us end it. Still best friends, still in a sort of a platonic bond. We’ve both seen other people since then (I’ve just had a bad experience), but I don’t think I’ve ever felt that kind of… ease around someone until months have passed. When she moves here in a few years, who knows? She never will, but if she asked me to wait. I’d say yes in a heasrtbeat.” –ionised

“Yes… now married 10 years.” – juju_bees_mommy

“Well for me it wasn’t at first sight. But for him it was. Within the first week he knew I would be the one he was going to marry and spend his life with. My feelings grew quickly also and we knew we had met our soul mate very quickly. We are doing great. He’s saving up for an engagement ring, both support eachother in our respective fields (me in tattoo artistry and him in filmmaking). Once our financial situation is in order we plan to move to Seattle. I have never been so in love and I don’t regret it for a second.”- BigHeroDicks

elizabeth_pearlYup met mine when I was 17 yrs old and knew I would marry them. Here we are 18 years later and still together ❤️❤️❤️ @fiercebymitu

elizabeth_pearlYup met mine when I was 17 yrs old and knew I would marry them. Here we are 18 years later and still together ❤️❤️❤️ @fiercebymitu

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Latinas Share Why They Wanted To Teach Their Children Their Native Language

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Latinas Share Why They Wanted To Teach Their Children Their Native Language

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In a world with so much rising intersectionality and access to language tools, many still feel that passing along the traditions of their languages is necessary. Studies have shown for decades that children who grow up in an environment where they’re exposed to different languages have a pathway ahead of them that is full of promise. Particularly when it comes to education and career opportunities.

But why else do some parents find it essential to teach their children their family’s native languages?

Recently, we asked Latinas why learning their native language is important to them.

Check out the answer below!

“So they can be a voice for others in their community .” –_saryna_


“Besides the fact that bilingual kids use more of their brains. I’d like to teach my baby my native language so they can feel closer to our roots and be able to communicate/connect with our community not just in the US, but in Latin America too.” –shidume

“So that when the opportunity arises they can pursue their endeavors with nothing holding them back!” –candymtz13


“It not only helps them be multilingual, but also reminded them of their ancestry. Their roots. It builds a certain connection that cannot be broken.”-yeimi_herc


“So they can communicate with their grandparents, so they have double the opportunities growing up so they know their roots. So many reasons.”
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“Know where you came from, being bilingual for more job opportunities later, being able to communicate with family members.”- panabori25

“I don’t have children but I think a language is tied to the culture. For me Spanish is a direct representation of how romantic and dramatic and over the top in the most beautiful way latin culture is. Also I’m Dominican and we just blend and make up words which really represents how crazy my family is.” –karenmarie15


“If I don’t and they lose ties to their people meaning my family who only speaks Spanish and Italian than I myself am harming them. As a preschool teacher I always tell parents English will happen eventually that’s the universal language but teach them their home home language the one that grandma/pa and the rest of the family speaks. They lose their identity. Sure they make up their own eventually but they must never forget where they come from.” –ta_ta1009


“So he doesn’t lose the connection to his grandmother and great grandfather who only speak spanish. So if he ever hears someone struggling to communicate he can help and feel a sense of pride in his roots/culture. 🇸🇻 plus 🤞🤞 I want him to pick up a 3rd language too!” –cardcrafted

“To give them more opportunities in life. I feel that some stories can only be told with authenticity when they’re in their native language. If you have the opportunity to do so, please do.” –titanyashigh

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