Here Are The Remarks Meghan Markle Made About Preferring To Be Heard Than Loved That Have Sparked Debate
According to the Duchess of Sussex, Meghan Markle it is better to be heard and not loved.
There’s no denying that Meghan Markle, a woman of color, who quickly rose and fell in the face of British public opinion since her early days of courtship with Prince Harry has been harsh. The new Royal family member faced a brief stint of adoration amongst the public before they quickly turned on her, lighting her up for criticisms related to her race and family. Still, amidst the scrutiny, Markle is proving that it’s better to keep your chin up than let your shoulders sag.
In a new interview published by the British news outlet the Telegraph, the former “Suits” actress expressed that she will not seek special treatment or expect an outpour of love from the world that is watching her.
According to The Telegraph, the Duchess simply wants to be heard, particularly when it comes to her newfound platform which she hopes to use to advance the causes with which she is most concerned
The Telegraph’s Bryony Gordon spoke to Markle during a recent visit and reported that she is living in a world where she lives “in the solution, not the problem.”
“She told me that she didn’t want people to love her—she just wanted them to be able to hear her,” Gordon reported in her article for The Telegraph.
According to her essay, Gordon attended the opening of the second branch of Luminary Bakery, a UK-based charity and training center which offers disadvantaged women professional baking lessons and skills, alongside Markle. There the two women spoke about Markle’s role in the Royal family and the former actress also gave a speech to attendees.
Speaking at the event, Godron says Markle adressed the women in the audience saying that “One of the things I have realized since being here is that people have an expectation when I’m coming somewhere, so I’m like, let’s just be really relaxed, keep everyone nice and chilled, because at the end of the day we’re all just women… We all have a story to tell, and I feel honoured that I am getting to hear yours.”
Lately, Markle’s experience as a newly minted member of the Royal family has gained even more attention born out of her own openness and honesty with reporters.
In an ITV documentary called “Harry & Meghan: An African Journey,” which aired in the United States on Oct. 23, Markle admitted to struggling under the intense public scrutiny of her role as a new wife and mother.
Speaking to the film’s host Tom Bradby, Markle claimed that while she had been warned by British friends to not pursue a serious relationship with Harry because of the British tabloids, Markle did not think it would be quiet as bad as they had claimed.
But it wasn’t until Bradby asked Markle how she was holding up amidst the new changes in her life that began to tear up and she was granted more sympathy.
“Thank you for asking because not many people have asked if I’m okay, but it’s a very real thing to be going through behind the scenes,” Markle replied through stifled tears during the interview. “I really tried to adopt this British sensibility of a ‘stiff upper lip.’ I really tried, but I think that what that does internally is probably really damaging. I never thought that this would be easy, but I thought it would be fair. And that’s the part that’s really hard to reconcile.”
In the same documentary, Markle’s husband Prince Harry admitted that public scrutiny of his wife brought back the trauma of his late mother, Princess Diana’s, 1997 death.
In response to Markle’s heartbreaking interview, fans of the duchess offered their support with the hashtag #WeLoveYouMeghan.
The interview quickly sparked a discussion about Tabloid culture and the unfair treatment of women.
Others pointed out how the good that Markle has done so far in her short term as a duchess has been remarkably overlooked.
“Duchess Meghan has done so much good for the UK economy, tourism, charities, etc. that has benefited the country in less than 2 years. So it’s about time those in the government support her against the racism, lies, & misogyny she’s faced from the British press. #WeLoveYouMeghan,” Twitter user ERikk_the_Dane replied.
In support of Markle, the twitter account Meghanpedia commented that “#DuchessMeghan has American values of redemption and second chances. Where you can overcome obstacles & rise above your circumstances. She is bringing her optimism; hope & CAN DO ATTITUDE; helping to build confidence in women who need a hand held.”
There’s no denying that Markle’s work has, so far, generated quite a bit of good.
Before her very public relationship with her current husband, the 38-year-old former actress worked as a counselor for the international charity One Young World and spoke out against gender inequality and modern-day slavery. As a duchess, Markle has inserted herself into the royal family’s various foundations and worked with the Hubb Community Kitchen, which was founded by the survivors of the Grenfell Tower fire. In support, she helped to publish a cookbook for funding called Together: Our Community Cookbook, which became her first charity project as Duchess of Sussex.
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