Since Massachusetts prosecutors dropped criminal charges against Kevin Spacey for allegedly groping an 18-year-old busboy in Nantucket, Spacey has been doing some international travel. He performed a spoken-word poem in Rome about a boxer making a comeback, a blatant metaphor for what we imagine he hopes for his own acting career.
Then, Sunday night, band Tuna de Derecho de Sevilla shared several videos to their Instagram page of Spacey performing “La Bamba” with the band in the streets of Sevilla.
Apparently, Spacey was at a restaurant at La Plaza Nueva with friends when a member of the band approached him for a photo.
It was 2 a.m., which, for Spaniards, is about the end of dinnertime and the beginning of a fun night. Band members told People that they went to the bar to sing for a pre-wedding party when they spotted Spacey. Band member Miguel Segura Cabellero told People,“I walked over to him and explained why we were there and asked if we could take a quick photo with him. He said ‘Yes, of course.’ To begin with, everybody was looking at him, but after a while everything became normal.”
At some point during the introduction, Spacey got up and started singing with the band.
He picked up an instrument and starting strumming along to the tunes of The Beatles’ “Twist and Shout” and “La Bamba.” A crowd started to form, and fans started to dance alongside Spacey as he strummed along, twisted and shouted, and enjoyed the spotlight for a few moments. The band reported that Spacey was at the bar with a few of his friends.
It seems like Spacey is having a grand ole time on his vacation from #MeToo.
La Tuna Derecho de Sevilla posted several videos to their Instagram Sunday night, captioning the videos with “Buena noche que pasamos en compañía de Kevin Spacey ????????????” In other words, ‘it’s a good night when spent in the company of Kevin Spacey.’ Chillingly, that has not been the case for Spacey’s victims.
But Spacey’s alleged bad behavior isn’t confined to American borders.
London’s Metropolitan Police have questioned Spacey over six individual allegations of sexual assault starting as far back as 1996. Spacey worked in London as the artistic director of London’s Old Vic Theatre for over ten years. In an internal investigation, the theater found “20 personal testimonies of alleged inappropriate behavior” by the actor.
Spaniards are reportedly seeing Kevin Spacey clubbing in Madrid, and enjoying a true vacation from the bad press and recent criminal charges that were brought and dropped against him earlier this year.
CNN reports that District Attorney Michael O’Keefe said the case was dropped “due to the unavailability of the complaining witness.”
Heather Unruh, a former Boston TV news anchor, alleged in November 2017 that Spacey groped her 18-year-old son at the bar he was working in Nantucket in 2016. A year later, charges were filed. In January 2019, Spacey pleaded not guilty. The victim told police that he was texting and sending Snpachat messages when Spacey reaching inside his pants and groped his genitals for a solid three minutes. The victim was a busboy at the bar and had approached Spacey for a photo together. He told police that he lied to Spacey and told him he was a 23-year-old college student when he was in fact 18-years-old. The two drank heavily together and then Spacey assaulted him. When Spacey went to use the bathroom, the victim fled.
The day the allegations broke, Spacey took to social media to share a video that he alleges was “in character” as Frank Underwood from “House of Cards.”
“Of course, some believed everything and have just been waiting with bated breath to hear me confess it all,” Spacey said in the video, allegedly in character as Frank Underwood. “They’re just dying to have me declare that everything said is true and that I got what I deserved. Wouldn’t that be easy if it was all so simple? Only you and I both know it’s never that simple, not in politics and not in life. I can promise you this: If I didn’t pay the price for the things we both know I did do, I’m certainly not going to pay the price for the things I didn’t do.”
Fans of the New England Patriots offensive lineman Justin Herron know by now that he’s got a thing for being in the right place at the right time. After all, his career relies on it.
Still, most likely didn’t know that the 25-year-old football player has a hero’s spirit as well.
This week, the lineman was honored by an Arizona police department for his role in saving a 71-year-old woman from being sexually assaulted.
On March 21 a 71-year-old woman was taking her daily stroll in Kiwanis Park in Tempe, Arizona when a 30-year-old man attacked her. The man, now identified as s Kevin Caballero, threw the woman to the ground in the park and attempted to remove her pants.
Herron and a Phoenix resident, identified as Murry Rogers, were present during the assault attempt and intervened.
“It was a crazy experience,” Herron stated during a news conference on Wednesday, according to NBC affiliate KPNX. “It was something that I never dreamed that I thought I would see. You see it in movies and TV all the time but you never think it’s gonna happen in real life until it does. In that moment, I was in shock. It was 11, it was in the middle of the day, not one cloud in the sky, and in a very open field, and the fact that it happened there at that time was very shocking.”
At the time of the incident, Herron was working out by the lake and Rogers was getting ready for a birthday party in the park for his 15-year-old daughter.
“I’m a football player, I’m kind of big,” Herron who is Herron, who is 6-foot-5 and 305 pounds, stated during the news conference. “I try not to be too aggressive with people knowing I could potentially hurt somebody. I do have a loud voice. I yelled, told him to get off of her, and then yanked him off and I told him to sit down and I told him to wait until the cops come.”
For their actions, Herron and Rogers were presented with Outstanding Service Awards by the Tempe Police Department.
“These two individuals stepped forward and really, truly saved her life,” Tempe police chief Jeff Glover stated during the ceremony.
According to the Today Show, “Herron has been in Arizona for offseason training ahead of his second season with the Patriots. The team’s sixth-round pick in the 2020 NFL Draft out of Wake Forest University said he was just reacting when he saw the woman being attacked.”
“And in the moment, I wish I could tell you what I was thinking, but I just knew that someone needed help,” Herron said. “… All I could do was just rush myself over there and make sure and help the victim, and make sure that I comfort her and be the best person I can be.”
Herron and Rogers were able to meet with the woman who has yet to be identified.
“Over the past several days, I have thought about her and pictured her face, so it was really nice moment, and I’m really glad I got to meet her,” Rogers said during the ceremony.
“My parents always talked to me about it, if there’s someone in need, make sure you can help them and be the best you can be,” Herron added. “I don’t want this to happen again, I don’t want to have to save someone else’s life again, but I’m glad I was able to save someone’s life on Saturday.”
Toxic masculinity might not always be so easy to report. Sometimes, because of how outlandish, how underhanded it is, we often struggle to report it as women. After all, fears of being too outspoken, or “dramatic,” or sensitive loom large.
Recently women on reddit decided to speak out about the things men do that scare them that men might not often realize.
The responses to the Reddit post were pretty eye-opening and relatable.
“Getting really intense about our relationship/ friendship really early on. A lot of guys turn women into this kind of fantasy thing that’s supposed to make them whole/ help them change or whatever. Sir I am the main character in my own life, not just a supporting one in yours. When you put that pressure on me right away abs without reciprocation, I know that I don’t actually matter, you’ve been taught that women serve you.”- clarkthecatismyguy
“I have gone on a lot of dates in the last few years and every single time the reason for me having doubts and calling things off has been this exact thing. I always feel like the side character in the conversation, while simultaneously carrying the conversation (not always but a lot of the time). A lot of effort with very little pay off. They’ll never ask questions, just waiting for me to react to their ‘wild’ stories and them trying to ‘educate’ me on things they like because I’m so unenlightened. Then after the date, instantly saying they’re very interested in me when they know literally nothing about me, due to not asking a single question about my own interests or life. It’s like… what planet are you on? What do you think you even like about me? You don’t know me.”- OtherSideOfTheTune
“Messages you on a dating app commenting on having found your profile and that they are in the same location as you, they can see you but you can’t see them. I had a guy do this on a fully packed train I was on to go to work. I’m not an anxious person but it felt really uncomfortable.”- elgrn1
“English isn’t my first language so I can’t really generalize this but asking if I need a ride and keep pestering me when I decline.
I used to walk home from school when this old man literally parked his car in front of me while I was crossing a small parking lot and asked if I needed a ride. I lied and said the house at the end of the block was my house. He did it a bunch more times until I had to change my walking route. It was a longer way but I felt safe again.”- Scarlet_B9
“I had to walk the long way to and from school because there were a series of assaults on schoolgirls. It’s so unfair; rapists rape and we’re the ones who have to adjust our behaviour.”- allhailtheboi
“A man chased me out of a bar and into the street one night to get my number. I’d like to say that’s the worst part of the story, but it’s not. He wasn’t chasing me to get my number for himself–he was doing it for his friend. They were both in their early 30s.
Literally none of that is okay. Don’t chase people. It’s not cute. I blame romcoms for people failing to see how uncomfortable this makes women.”- RoeRoeRoeYourVote
“I took the light rail from school to home and this one guy decided he was going to sit next to me on a decently empty light rail. I was just minding my own business. He started asking pretty personal questions. I ended up learning he was in a relationship!! (So was I at the time). He literally missed his stop to get off at the same stop as me and wanted to walk me home. I wasn’t comfortable with that for obvious reasons so I told him he can go that way to take the light rail back to his stop because I gotta go this other way, and he wouldn’t leave until I gave him some sort of contact info.
This is only one of many instances I dealt with men going out of their way to make me feel uncomfortable on the street or on public transport, it’s extremely awkward and quite scary while it’s happening since you don’t know who these people are and how they will react if you don’t smile, nod and act friendly until they’re gone and leave you alone.”- katsaurus
“I want to add strangers offering rides. Has happened to me so many times. A guy once watched me walk past his car at a cross walk and when his light turned green he had followed me, like had to do a U turn to get to where I was to offer me a ride. I’m obviously not going to get in a car with a stranger so they’re either stupid or dangerous.”- SailorSpoon11
“I had a mild creeper problem with a guy I worked with. Too vague for me to go to HR about but serious enough that I got a new position in a different lab.
The final day of the job I was leaving, dude showed up while I was testing at our new site, which wasn’t staffed yet and where we didn’t spend much time. 3 story building, nobody else would be there until the next day. He worked night shift and it was maybe 11am. The only way he could have known where I was was if he’d been watching me or if my shift partner had told him, I never found out which.
There was only one door to the lab and he was blocking it. I thought he was there to kill me. He’s 6’4″ and I’m just under 5’3″.
He congratulated me on my new job and then left a “goodbye gift”. It was the gift he got from me from the office secret Santa, nine months earlier, which he had not unwrapped, and had then wrapped again, to look like a different gift.
Then he left and I used the lab phone to call first my husband and then an off duty coworker I trusted and told them exactly what happened in case I didn’t make it home, then called the south site security guard to escort me to my car. I still didn’t call HR because the guy knew where I lived. I went to my new job and he didn’t talk to me again and I was never on site alone again.
I had a lot of nightmares about it and I still panic if someone blocks a door.”- techlabtech
“While talking online and I say “I don’t know about meeting up” and their response is “You are more likely to be raped by someone you actually know in person”
“I’ve been approached several times in public by random men who say they want to be friends with me. One leaned in really close to have a conversation and asked me where I was from and where I live. Another grabbed my hands and remarked on how soft my skin is. Another one literally locked arms with me and dragged me to a coffee shop to “get to know me” and then later told me to come with him to a more private place for a view of the city. I weakly joke about it sometimes but in the moment it really does make me nervous. I don’t know if I just look really unimposing (I’m an Asian woman but I’m taller than average?) but I’m not sure why it happens. Regardless, please don’t just grab random women, even out of friendliness, and respect personal space.”- kerbula
“Asian woman here too. This happened to me a lot in NYC. A few times I got so sick of it I’d scream at them in the middle of the street and make a scene. They usually skitter away immediately. I hate to do that, but it’s just infuriating.”- foodsexreddit
“It’s so creepy. Most recent time that happened I was just taking a walk by myself to unwind from confinement and this dude just catches up with me and says he want to be my friend, just asking a bunch of personal questions and wanting to know exactly where I live. Eventually I told him I’m married and he said “oh I just want to be friends”. I was originally gonna go the same way he was going but ended up taking a different path.”- naughtydismutase
“I’m a bartender, and it’s amazing how tactless people can be as they get drunker. They just want to keep me by them by asking me question after question, so I have to cross the line into being rude if I want to put a stop to it. Sometimes, people come up with actually some pretty silly things to ask me, and it can be fun to engage them. But I absolutely HATE:
is this your only job? Where else do you work?
do you live close to here?
oh you’re closing huh? When do you usually get out of here?
when do you work next? Do you normally work on this day of the week?
what are you doing after this?
I don’t think ppl always realize how they sound when they ask me these questions but I’ve honestly been asked them so much its ridiculous. And honestly, threatening undertones aside, they’re the most utterly boring questions you could ask someone. The worst of the worst of small talk. How some men manage to be both unnerving and bore me to tears at the same time is utterly fascinating.”- FudgeJudy4booty
“Or following me to do it. I’ve had several guys stop me in the street and explain they saw me 5 blocks back and have followed me all that way to talk to me. I guess they think it’s a compliment they were that committed to come after me. For me it’s terrifying and unhinged.”- Own-Bridge4210
“The maintenance guy at a condo I now rent out still thinks I’m a rude bitch for not wanting to talk to him first time we met, which was me alone walking a puppy at a park across the street from the condos. Never properly introduced himself or anything, just starts asking me if I’m new and which unit I moved into.
Alarm bells were flying off in my head at this guy who was clearly over 20yrs my senior asking where exactly I live and then he got extremely butthurt over me ignoring him and walking away.”- Ixi7311
“Any time someone tries really hard to convince me he’s a “nice guy”. Every guy I’ve met that desperately brings it up every chance he gets isn’t usually very nice. It always makes me wonder what are they trying to hide? Like why do I have to think you’re nice? Prove it with your actions, don’t tell me repeatedly.”- ElectricPinkMango
“I had a taxi driver hit on me, question me about my love life and ask for my number. I was literally locked in a moving vehicle with the guy, how are you supposed to feel safe saying no?! Luckily, I think he was just a nice clueless guy so I felt safe enough to negotiate and take his number instead of giving mine out.”- ineedapostrophes