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From Taurus To Cancer, These Are The Most Compatible Signs With Virgo

Who are we kidding: one of the major reasons all of us check our horoscope is to find out what the future has in store for us when it comes to love and lust. After all, you know that if you’re really meant to be together, then it’ll be written in the stars. 

So Virgo, in honor of your birthday, we’ve put together a quick guide to point you in the direction of your soulmate.

Virgo with an Aries (March 21 – April 19) creates an explosively fiery passion.

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Part of what attracts you to Aries is the fact that they do everything with so much passion. You can’t help but be attracted to the fire in their soul. But Virgo, you can only function on their level for so long until you burn out. For you, a relationship with Aries takes work.

Compatibility: Low

Virgo with a Taurus (April 20 – May 20) is a matchmaker’s pick!

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Taurus are known for being super grounded and down to earth, and that’s exactly the kind of person you need in your life, Virgo. Your drive for perfectionism means that your Taurus can put things into perspective for you – they’re the yin to your yang, so to speak.

Compatibility: High

Virgo with a Gemini (May 21 – June 20) sees opposites attract.

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If one of your brutally honest friends had to describe you, Virgo, they’d say you’re a bit of a square. And, they wouldn’t exactly be wrong. That’s why Gemini can get on your nerves a bit … they’ve always got their heads up in the clouds when you’re trying to be realistic!

Compatibility: Low

Virgo with a Cancer (June 21 – July 22) means both love and lust.

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While on the surface it would seem like Cancer is a bit too emotional for you, Virgo, it turns out that they’re exactly the sort of person you need in your life – and they need you, too. Your pragmatism in the face of their emotional swings is what keeps them sane. And they remind you to stay in touch with your softer side. So you know what this means? You guys have fabulous, fulfilling sex. Noice.

Compatibility: High

Virgo with a Leo (July 23 – August 22) is one hell of a rollercoaster!

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Leo can definitely test your patience, Virgo. You’re a quiet achiever, whereas Leo likes to get all of the attention, wherever they can get it. Leo’s got a massive ego that needs stroking … and you’re more critical. As you can imagine, it’s pretty much the perfect environment for lots of silly bickering. Then again, every couple has those moments, right?

Compatibility: Medium

Virgo with a Virgo (August 23 – September 22) asks the question: can you ever have too much of a good thing?

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You’d think that being with someone who functions on the same vibe as you would be a match made in heaven. But, that’s only true to a certain extent. Given that the two of you are perfectionists and workaholics, you’d make a great power couple … that has almost zero romantic and sexual chemistry. If you want it to work, you’ve gotta work at it, Virgo.

Compatibility: Medium

Virgo with a Libra (September 23 – October 22) meshes realism with idealism.

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When people think Libra, they think social butterfly. When people think Virgo, they think shy. Virgo, you’re a realist, whereas Libras are an idealist. They say that opposites attract, but in your case, you’d probably find that the differences between you and Libra would eventually drag you away from each other. The both of you would really have to put in an effort to find your way back.

Compatibility: Low

Virgo with a Scorpio (October 23 – November 21) sees things heat up in the bedroom.

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While Scorpio and Virgo can build a really secure and safe relationship, you kids can come unstuck when it comes to your attitudes towards the bedroom. Scorpio tends to be all about the real carnal side of the beast with two backs, whereas Virgo is more about connecting emotionally through sex.

Compatibility: Medium

Virgo with a Sagittarius (November 23 – December 21) mixes fun and stability.

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It’s nice when you meet someone who’s as adaptable as you are. But in the case of Sagittarius, Virgo, you might find that they’re a little too spontaneous for your liking. That being said, they might get you to loosen up a little, which is never a bad thing in your case!

Compatibility: Medium

Virgo with a Capricorn (December 22 – January 20) is a match made in heaven!

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Capricorn’s brand of perfectionism fits pretty well with your brand of perfectionism, Virgo. The difference is that you strive for better because you want to do good, whereas Capricorn wants to be good – at everything they do. And that makes you good together!

Compatibility: High

Virgo with an Aquarius (January 21 – February 18) is a hella smart match.

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Because both you and Aquarius are intellectual sorts, you’d find that you’d have what Alanis Morissette called, “intellectual intercourse.” But since the pair of you have such different approaches to life, you’d probably find it a lot easier to work on a friendship together, rather than a real steamy, romantic relationship.

Compatibility: Medium

Virgo with a Pisces (February 19 – March 20) means sweetness in spades.

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There’s no denying it, there’s definitely an attraction between you two. You’re both devoted, thoughtful and detail-oriented souls – but where Pisces is a dreamer, you’re much more realistic. If you’re both able to navigate your differences, then there’s no stopping you! Chances are, though, you’d find that your relationship will always be an ongoing project.

Compatibility: Medium

Does this explain a lot about your current relationship? Or, maybe more about what went wrong in your last romance? Let us know your thoughts on our Facebook page by clicking the icon at the top of the page!

Are You A Victim Of Abuse? Use This Checklist To Help You Determine The Truth

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Are You A Victim Of Abuse? Use This Checklist To Help You Determine The Truth

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If you feel that you are experiencing an abusive relationship, please seek help. Call The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233 for assistance. Please take care if you feel that your internet or mobile phone device use is being monitored.

There are three ways that abuse can be identified. By the way your partner treats you physically, by the way they treat you emotionally, and by how you feel about the relationship. This checklist of twenty signs of abuse is one tool that you can use to see if you, or someone you know, is a victim of abuse. And remember, more resources for dealing with abuse can be found by calling The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233.

1. They have grabbed you and refused to let go.

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This falls into the category of physical abuse. No-one should grab you to make you feel threatened and unsafe. No-one.

2. They have pulled your hair.

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This is another form of physical abuse. Sure, a bit of hair pulling in the act of passion is fine. But when it happens as part of an argument, or when your partner is deliberately trying to hurt you or make you feel threatened, that is abuse.

3. They have thrown things at you and/or destroyed your belongings.

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One way your significant other may try to control you is through your belongings. Throwing things at you and destroying your belongings is designed to hurt you physically and emotionally. Threatening to do so also falls under this category of behavior, too.

4. They have left you with bruises, black eyes, bleeding, and/or broken bones.

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While abuse doesn’t necessarily have to leave marks on your body, a sure sign of physical abuse in your relationship is when your partner does leave marks. Research shows that once it happens the first time, a “threshold” of sorts has been crossed, and an abuser is more likely to hurt their partner again.

5. They have threatened to hurt or kill you.

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It may not seem like abuse, since there are no physical marks left from a threat to hurt or kill you. However, these threats are still part of the arsenal of tools that abusers use. How? Because these threats are designed to control your behavior, and make you feel powerless. Abuse in a relationship is about the abuser gaining and maintaining power, and death threats are a way of emotionally controlling you.

6. They have threatened to take your children away or harm them.

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Even if you have children together, children shouldn’t be used as a bargaining chip in your relationship. Even more importantly, your children’s safety is non-negotiable: no partner of yours should threaten it. By the way, this doesn’t just apply to children. Pets can also be used to manipulate and control you in a relationship.

7. They have forced you to have sex.

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Sex is not a “duty” to be fulfilled in a loving, equal relationship. Nor should your partner guilt trip or manipulate you into participating in sex acts after you have refused sex. Consent needs to be freely given! It doesn’t matter how long the two of you have been together. Otherwise, it’s classed as sexual assault.

8. They try to control you and treat you like a child.

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Abusive relationships are about control and power. Part of treating you like a child is making you feel like you don’t have any control in the relationship, or even your life, so that you continue to stay and endure the abuse.

9. They make you feel like you need permission to make decisions or go somewhere.

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This applies when you feel like you have to text at every moment to update your partner about where you are. And when you can’t spend time with friends or family without getting permission from your partner. This is because abusers commonly try to isolate their partner from other, platonic relationships with other people.

10. They try to take complete control of the finances and how you spend money.

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Controlling how money is earned and spent is known as financial abuse. People suffering from this type of abuse are commonly denied access to money by partners for doing simple tasks like grocery shopping. Or, sometimes the abuser decides whether and when their partner is allowed to work.

11. They cannot admit to being wrong.

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Part of being in a respectful and loving relationship is being able to say sorry and to admit fault. An abusive partner refuses to apologise, because doing so would threaten their position of power in their relationship.

12. They accuse you of things that you know are not true.

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This is about control, and manipulating you. After all, if you’re spending your time trying to prove your innocence, then you’re not going to spend your time planning to leave the relationship, are you?

13. They do not take responsibility for their behavior.

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The reality is, it’s not too much to ask someone to take responsibility for their behavior – even more so when it’s someone you’re in a relationship with. However, your partner doesn’t take responsibility for their behavior because doing so would threaten their position of power in the relationship.

14. They use “The Silent Treatment” to get their way.

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Chances are you may have experienced “The Silent Treatment” before, in elementary school. And that’s where that behavior should stay. An equal, loving relationship is not built on one person using silence to manipulate the other person into conceding a point.

15. They make subtle threats or negative remarks about you.

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Of course, there’s always room for some friendly sledging in a loving, respectful relationship. But, it turns into abuse when your partner does this on a regular basis to frighten, or control you. It’s possible they may even pass it off as a “joke”, or say that you’re “overreacting”. But again, if you’re in a loving relationship, then your partner should respect the fact that you’re hurt by a “joke”. They should not continue to make these types of comments.

16. You feel scared about how your significant other will act.

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Repeat after us: you should have no reason to fear your partner in a loving, respectful relationship. You should have no reason to fear your partner in a loving, respectful relationship.

17. You feel that you can help your partner to change their behavior.

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But, only if you have changed something about yourself first.

18. You watch your behavior carefully so that you do not start a conflict in your relationship.

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An abuser does not abuse all of the time. They maintain a cycle of abuse in the relationship. Things go from being tense, where you feel like you have to watch your own actions, to an incident which involves verbal, emotional, financial and physical abuse. Then, your partner attempts reconciliation or denies the abuse occurred, and the relationship goes into a calm stage. However, tensions will begin to build before long, starting the cycle once again.

19. You stay with your partner because you are afraid of what they would do if you broke up.

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In other words, you feel trapped in your relationship because of your partner’s current, or potential, behavior. This can range from hurting you, your kids, your pets, your friends, and your family. Or, destroying your belongings, compromising access to your finances, or hurting themselves.

20. They don’t pass “The No Test”

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“The No Test” is pretty simple. Observe what happens the next time you tell your partner “no”. This could be in response to being asked out on a date, or maybe doing them a simple favor. Disappointment is a normal response to being told “no.”  However, pure outrage, violence, and/or emotional manipulation is not a reasonable response, and may indicate an abusive relationship.

If you feel that you are experiencing an abusive relationship, please seek help. Call The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233 for assistance. Please take care if you feel that your internet or mobile phone device use is being monitored.

Women Share What It’s Really Like Growing Up With A Single Mom

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Women Share What It’s Really Like Growing Up With A Single Mom

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If you’ve had the unique, and very very special, experience of being raised by a single mother, you know that it comes with all kinds of lessons. Amidst the struggles of single parenthood, you learn at a young age what true strength and perseverance mean. And above all, you learn from la jefa de jefas what it means to not only run a household but be a leader.

Recently we asked Latinas on Instagram to share what they valued most from their years being under a single-parent roof run by their mother. The responses proved to be touching, reflective and all at once unique.

The woman who helped raise eachother.

“My mom was a single mom, but my grandma raised me and my Nina influenced me. My grandma was a single mom too, so it came naturally for her to raise me herself. She’s the strongest woman I know💕 she always made sure I had food to eat and clothes on my back, she took me everywhere she could. Our weekends were filled with “browsing” and we’d be out from sunup to sundown no más en la calle 😁 she would start conversations with everyone anywhere. She was able to be a grandma to my baby and the only person I could fully rely on 100% to help me raise my own. There will never be words to say how much that meant to me. She’s turning 94 this year and still my heroe.” – moneekers

The mom who never let her children be home alone.

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“One thing I learned to appreciate as I became an adult is that my mom never let my sister and I be home alone; she made us play every sport offered at school so that she could be out of work and waiting in the parking lot when we got out of practice.” –just_phdcounselored

The woman raised by Wonder Woman herself.

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“My mother is Wonder Woman in the flesh and it is an honor to be her child my mother is the most amazing pain in my ass but absolutely best person in my life. I love her so much and value her for all her sacrifices and that she still stands by my side and my sisters through thick and thin. Proud to say I am my mother’s daughter. Single moms are warriors.” – ladycinnamon_90

The mama who had something to say.

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“I was a single mom to my oldest who is now 28. For the most part of her life. I have been single to my youngest now 14 for the last 11 years. I’ve had decent relationships with their fathers. I never stopped to think about how, as a single mother I helped to shape their world. I see myself in the comments on here as a single mama. Single moms just it it done!” –mimarria

The mom who found a way to give everything when she didn’t have a lot herself.

“My mom raised me and my 2 siblings since we were under the age of 5. She always made sure we had everything, even when we didn’t have a lot. Her hard work and dedication have made me the resilient woman I am today.” – gaby_armenta23