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Here’s This Week’s Horoscope On All Things Love And Work

If it isn’t obvious that Venus retrograde is doing its work, just look at the famous (or should I say infamous) couplings that didn’t last! Ahem, Ariana Grande and Pete Davison! Oh, and Chloe Bennet and *cough cough* Logan Paul. If you weren’t in a strong relationship, now’s the time they fade away like a bad YouTube video, so hold on butts until November 16th when this retrograde continues to show us what love is worth fighting for and which one isn’t making the cut. Plus, a full moon the 24th this week will bring money news for most of you. Use it wisely or save up, especially this close to the holidays.

Aries

The full moon on the 24th is going to bring you some positive money news, my lil ram, and it’s going to make your confidence boost for sure! Whether it’s a growth shared finances between you and a loved one or bettering your own monetary contribution, this week is good for building your financial confidence and allow you to work through your money dilemma. If you’ve got a big purchase you’ve been waiting on taking care of, or a goal to pay off those student loans, be wise and act now.

Taurus

Oh, Taurus. We said Venus retrograde might mean the reemergence of an old flame, but the problem is you might be in a relationship. We know you’re a loyal bull who plays for keeps, so it’s not like you’re going to leave your partner for this person. If you want it to work out, you need to give them the final say on whether or not they can be in your life. Which basically means no 🙂 The bad thing is that knowing about this past partner ain’t gonna float with your current one. We know you’re honest and loyal, but maybe this pattern from your partner has been too much on repeat from other past situations and your known patience is wearing thin. Talk it over and be the reasonable Taurean you’re known for.

Gemini

Remember that back-stabbing we talked about last week, Gemini? I know you’re still reeling over it, or at least how your love situation is putting you in a toxic and manipulative spot. It’s time to recover from that crap once and for all because it is literally making you sick. Protect your mental health this week and focus on yourself. Stay in and take the rest that you need. Maybe this even means finally meeting with a therapist. This time is all about healing yourself so you can come back stronger than ever.

Cancer

Get out of your head regarding your perfect love fantasy this week, Cancer. Your rom-com-like expectations and fluffy ideals about your picturesque your love life are actually putting yourself at a disadvantage! Lay off the dime novels or being too picky about what type of partner deserves to be with you and it’ll actually invite in a wonderful new human into your life. Sometimes it’s best to not have to worry about being proactive with dating. Trust the universe to also do its job!

Leo

It’s all about positive growth and awaiting the future, my confident Leo. Expect your professional realm to take off in a way that wonderfully benefits you and your partner. Maybe you were waiting on more savings or a better career position to come through before making future big plans together, and, fortunately, everything’s falling in order harmoniously enough to make it happen for you two. Taking things one step at a time can and will pay off very well.

Virgo

Stable Virgo, you’re exactly the type to remain unscathed during a retrograde. In fact, you experience the positives! That’s because when you remain as calm and patient as you normally are, the reflection needed during a retrograde just comes…naturally. Maybe that’s why you’re lucky enough to see the good in Venus retrograde this week when an old love reemerges, but now they’ve got their sh*t together. The feelings are mutual and you might find yourself completely ready to jump back in for good this time.

Libra

Expect the full moon to affect not necessarily just your finances, Libra, but the income of those around you that will still impact you in some form. Expect this to have a positive outcome, such as your partner receiving benefits or retirement package, or getting that approval on a home mortgage. Whatever it is, it will require some readjustments, but hopefully beneficial to you!

Scorpio

This week’s full moon on the 24th is igniting something in your love sector, my sassy lil scorpion, but since Venus is still in retrograde, we’re not sure what sort of flames will blow. Whether that’s good or bad is completely up in the air. You’re no stranger to intensity, Scorpio, so be prepared to either completely overflow with love and admiration for a certain someone or want to burn the whole damn thing to the ground and act like it never happened.

Sagittarius 

You’re at a loss when it comes to sorting out a lot in your life right, sweet Sag, and your love life will be no exception. Before you rule out any and all human beings (believe me, we know how that feels), take this week as a prime opportunity to take a break. Practice all of that self-care and more. Take a day trip. Make your bath explode with bath bombs. If you want stability in your love life, you first have to love yourself, so take the time to fall back in love with that person this week. 😉

Capricorn

Daaamn, Cap! A full moon in your romance sector this week will lead you to believe you’ve found the love of your life. Literally, we’re talking love at first sight. However, the twist is that this lunation is happening next to Uranus. Have you met this true love while currently in a relationship? And are you more than willing to leave that relationship for this mystery soulmate? This week will be a passionate yet unstable one for you to say the least. Wowee!

Aquarius

Just not finding yourself on the same page with people, Aquarius? Especially your partner? You might feel unsupported by those you love like they’re not appreciating your goals, and this makes you insecure to follow through on them. A domestic situation could arise this week, so be on the lookout for anything going wrong regarding your residence, like a plumbing or electrical issue. Whatever surprise happens, you’ll find others not handling it well. Roll with the punches and you can get through this week by staying true to yourself.

Pisces

You might find it hard to compromise with people this week, sweet Pisces. While it’s easy to clash and get into arguments, remember to recenter yourself and remember what it is you enjoy about the people you’re around. It’s typical of a Pisces to harp on the negative and feel down on oneself, but if you focus on the joys of these humans you spend your time with, you’ll find yourself much better off and able to meet in the middle.

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Are You A Victim Of Abuse? Use This Checklist To Help You Determine The Truth

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Are You A Victim Of Abuse? Use This Checklist To Help You Determine The Truth

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If you feel that you are experiencing an abusive relationship, please seek help. Call The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233 for assistance. Please take care if you feel that your internet or mobile phone device use is being monitored.

There are three ways that abuse can be identified. By the way your partner treats you physically, by the way they treat you emotionally, and by how you feel about the relationship. This checklist of twenty signs of abuse is one tool that you can use to see if you, or someone you know, is a victim of abuse. And remember, more resources for dealing with abuse can be found by calling The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233.

1. They have grabbed you and refused to let go.

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This falls into the category of physical abuse. No-one should grab you to make you feel threatened and unsafe. No-one.

2. They have pulled your hair.

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This is another form of physical abuse. Sure, a bit of hair pulling in the act of passion is fine. But when it happens as part of an argument, or when your partner is deliberately trying to hurt you or make you feel threatened, that is abuse.

3. They have thrown things at you and/or destroyed your belongings.

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One way your significant other may try to control you is through your belongings. Throwing things at you and destroying your belongings is designed to hurt you physically and emotionally. Threatening to do so also falls under this category of behavior, too.

4. They have left you with bruises, black eyes, bleeding, and/or broken bones.

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While abuse doesn’t necessarily have to leave marks on your body, a sure sign of physical abuse in your relationship is when your partner does leave marks. Research shows that once it happens the first time, a “threshold” of sorts has been crossed, and an abuser is more likely to hurt their partner again.

5. They have threatened to hurt or kill you.

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It may not seem like abuse, since there are no physical marks left from a threat to hurt or kill you. However, these threats are still part of the arsenal of tools that abusers use. How? Because these threats are designed to control your behavior, and make you feel powerless. Abuse in a relationship is about the abuser gaining and maintaining power, and death threats are a way of emotionally controlling you.

6. They have threatened to take your children away or harm them.

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Even if you have children together, children shouldn’t be used as a bargaining chip in your relationship. Even more importantly, your children’s safety is non-negotiable: no partner of yours should threaten it. By the way, this doesn’t just apply to children. Pets can also be used to manipulate and control you in a relationship.

7. They have forced you to have sex.

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Sex is not a “duty” to be fulfilled in a loving, equal relationship. Nor should your partner guilt trip or manipulate you into participating in sex acts after you have refused sex. Consent needs to be freely given! It doesn’t matter how long the two of you have been together. Otherwise, it’s classed as sexual assault.

8. They try to control you and treat you like a child.

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Abusive relationships are about control and power. Part of treating you like a child is making you feel like you don’t have any control in the relationship, or even your life, so that you continue to stay and endure the abuse.

9. They make you feel like you need permission to make decisions or go somewhere.

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This applies when you feel like you have to text at every moment to update your partner about where you are. And when you can’t spend time with friends or family without getting permission from your partner. This is because abusers commonly try to isolate their partner from other, platonic relationships with other people.

10. They try to take complete control of the finances and how you spend money.

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Controlling how money is earned and spent is known as financial abuse. People suffering from this type of abuse are commonly denied access to money by partners for doing simple tasks like grocery shopping. Or, sometimes the abuser decides whether and when their partner is allowed to work.

11. They cannot admit to being wrong.

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Part of being in a respectful and loving relationship is being able to say sorry and to admit fault. An abusive partner refuses to apologise, because doing so would threaten their position of power in their relationship.

12. They accuse you of things that you know are not true.

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This is about control, and manipulating you. After all, if you’re spending your time trying to prove your innocence, then you’re not going to spend your time planning to leave the relationship, are you?

13. They do not take responsibility for their behavior.

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The reality is, it’s not too much to ask someone to take responsibility for their behavior – even more so when it’s someone you’re in a relationship with. However, your partner doesn’t take responsibility for their behavior because doing so would threaten their position of power in the relationship.

14. They use “The Silent Treatment” to get their way.

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Chances are you may have experienced “The Silent Treatment” before, in elementary school. And that’s where that behavior should stay. An equal, loving relationship is not built on one person using silence to manipulate the other person into conceding a point.

15. They make subtle threats or negative remarks about you.

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Of course, there’s always room for some friendly sledging in a loving, respectful relationship. But, it turns into abuse when your partner does this on a regular basis to frighten, or control you. It’s possible they may even pass it off as a “joke”, or say that you’re “overreacting”. But again, if you’re in a loving relationship, then your partner should respect the fact that you’re hurt by a “joke”. They should not continue to make these types of comments.

16. You feel scared about how your significant other will act.

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Repeat after us: you should have no reason to fear your partner in a loving, respectful relationship. You should have no reason to fear your partner in a loving, respectful relationship.

17. You feel that you can help your partner to change their behavior.

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But, only if you have changed something about yourself first.

18. You watch your behavior carefully so that you do not start a conflict in your relationship.

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An abuser does not abuse all of the time. They maintain a cycle of abuse in the relationship. Things go from being tense, where you feel like you have to watch your own actions, to an incident which involves verbal, emotional, financial and physical abuse. Then, your partner attempts reconciliation or denies the abuse occurred, and the relationship goes into a calm stage. However, tensions will begin to build before long, starting the cycle once again.

19. You stay with your partner because you are afraid of what they would do if you broke up.

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In other words, you feel trapped in your relationship because of your partner’s current, or potential, behavior. This can range from hurting you, your kids, your pets, your friends, and your family. Or, destroying your belongings, compromising access to your finances, or hurting themselves.

20. They don’t pass “The No Test”

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“The No Test” is pretty simple. Observe what happens the next time you tell your partner “no”. This could be in response to being asked out on a date, or maybe doing them a simple favor. Disappointment is a normal response to being told “no.”  However, pure outrage, violence, and/or emotional manipulation is not a reasonable response, and may indicate an abusive relationship.

If you feel that you are experiencing an abusive relationship, please seek help. Call The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233 for assistance. Please take care if you feel that your internet or mobile phone device use is being monitored.

Women Share What It’s Really Like Growing Up With A Single Mom

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Women Share What It’s Really Like Growing Up With A Single Mom

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If you’ve had the unique, and very very special, experience of being raised by a single mother, you know that it comes with all kinds of lessons. Amidst the struggles of single parenthood, you learn at a young age what true strength and perseverance mean. And above all, you learn from la jefa de jefas what it means to not only run a household but be a leader.

Recently we asked Latinas on Instagram to share what they valued most from their years being under a single-parent roof run by their mother. The responses proved to be touching, reflective and all at once unique.

The woman who helped raise eachother.

“My mom was a single mom, but my grandma raised me and my Nina influenced me. My grandma was a single mom too, so it came naturally for her to raise me herself. She’s the strongest woman I know💕 she always made sure I had food to eat and clothes on my back, she took me everywhere she could. Our weekends were filled with “browsing” and we’d be out from sunup to sundown no más en la calle 😁 she would start conversations with everyone anywhere. She was able to be a grandma to my baby and the only person I could fully rely on 100% to help me raise my own. There will never be words to say how much that meant to me. She’s turning 94 this year and still my heroe.” – moneekers

The mom who never let her children be home alone.

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“One thing I learned to appreciate as I became an adult is that my mom never let my sister and I be home alone; she made us play every sport offered at school so that she could be out of work and waiting in the parking lot when we got out of practice.” –just_phdcounselored

The woman raised by Wonder Woman herself.

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“My mother is Wonder Woman in the flesh and it is an honor to be her child my mother is the most amazing pain in my ass but absolutely best person in my life. I love her so much and value her for all her sacrifices and that she still stands by my side and my sisters through thick and thin. Proud to say I am my mother’s daughter. Single moms are warriors.” – ladycinnamon_90

The mama who had something to say.

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“I was a single mom to my oldest who is now 28. For the most part of her life. I have been single to my youngest now 14 for the last 11 years. I’ve had decent relationships with their fathers. I never stopped to think about how, as a single mother I helped to shape their world. I see myself in the comments on here as a single mama. Single moms just it it done!” –mimarria

The mom who found a way to give everything when she didn’t have a lot herself.

“My mom raised me and my 2 siblings since we were under the age of 5. She always made sure we had everything, even when we didn’t have a lot. Her hard work and dedication have made me the resilient woman I am today.” – gaby_armenta23