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Here’s This Week’s Horoscope On All Things Love And Work

If it isn’t obvious that Venus retrograde is doing its work, just look at the famous (or should I say infamous) couplings that didn’t last! Ahem, Ariana Grande and Pete Davison! Oh, and Chloe Bennet and *cough cough* Logan Paul. If you weren’t in a strong relationship, now’s the time they fade away like a bad YouTube video, so hold on butts until November 16th when this retrograde continues to show us what love is worth fighting for and which one isn’t making the cut. Plus, a full moon the 24th this week will bring money news for most of you. Use it wisely or save up, especially this close to the holidays.

Aries

The full moon on the 24th is going to bring you some positive money news, my lil ram, and it’s going to make your confidence boost for sure! Whether it’s a growth shared finances between you and a loved one or bettering your own monetary contribution, this week is good for building your financial confidence and allow you to work through your money dilemma. If you’ve got a big purchase you’ve been waiting on taking care of, or a goal to pay off those student loans, be wise and act now.

Taurus

Oh, Taurus. We said Venus retrograde might mean the reemergence of an old flame, but the problem is you might be in a relationship. We know you’re a loyal bull who plays for keeps, so it’s not like you’re going to leave your partner for this person. If you want it to work out, you need to give them the final say on whether or not they can be in your life. Which basically means no 🙂 The bad thing is that knowing about this past partner ain’t gonna float with your current one. We know you’re honest and loyal, but maybe this pattern from your partner has been too much on repeat from other past situations and your known patience is wearing thin. Talk it over and be the reasonable Taurean you’re known for.

Gemini

Remember that back-stabbing we talked about last week, Gemini? I know you’re still reeling over it, or at least how your love situation is putting you in a toxic and manipulative spot. It’s time to recover from that crap once and for all because it is literally making you sick. Protect your mental health this week and focus on yourself. Stay in and take the rest that you need. Maybe this even means finally meeting with a therapist. This time is all about healing yourself so you can come back stronger than ever.

Cancer

Get out of your head regarding your perfect love fantasy this week, Cancer. Your rom-com-like expectations and fluffy ideals about your picturesque your love life are actually putting yourself at a disadvantage! Lay off the dime novels or being too picky about what type of partner deserves to be with you and it’ll actually invite in a wonderful new human into your life. Sometimes it’s best to not have to worry about being proactive with dating. Trust the universe to also do its job!

Leo

It’s all about positive growth and awaiting the future, my confident Leo. Expect your professional realm to take off in a way that wonderfully benefits you and your partner. Maybe you were waiting on more savings or a better career position to come through before making future big plans together, and, fortunately, everything’s falling in order harmoniously enough to make it happen for you two. Taking things one step at a time can and will pay off very well.

Virgo

Stable Virgo, you’re exactly the type to remain unscathed during a retrograde. In fact, you experience the positives! That’s because when you remain as calm and patient as you normally are, the reflection needed during a retrograde just comes…naturally. Maybe that’s why you’re lucky enough to see the good in Venus retrograde this week when an old love reemerges, but now they’ve got their sh*t together. The feelings are mutual and you might find yourself completely ready to jump back in for good this time.

Libra

Expect the full moon to affect not necessarily just your finances, Libra, but the income of those around you that will still impact you in some form. Expect this to have a positive outcome, such as your partner receiving benefits or retirement package, or getting that approval on a home mortgage. Whatever it is, it will require some readjustments, but hopefully beneficial to you!

Scorpio

This week’s full moon on the 24th is igniting something in your love sector, my sassy lil scorpion, but since Venus is still in retrograde, we’re not sure what sort of flames will blow. Whether that’s good or bad is completely up in the air. You’re no stranger to intensity, Scorpio, so be prepared to either completely overflow with love and admiration for a certain someone or want to burn the whole damn thing to the ground and act like it never happened.

Sagittarius 

You’re at a loss when it comes to sorting out a lot in your life right, sweet Sag, and your love life will be no exception. Before you rule out any and all human beings (believe me, we know how that feels), take this week as a prime opportunity to take a break. Practice all of that self-care and more. Take a day trip. Make your bath explode with bath bombs. If you want stability in your love life, you first have to love yourself, so take the time to fall back in love with that person this week. 😉

Capricorn

Daaamn, Cap! A full moon in your romance sector this week will lead you to believe you’ve found the love of your life. Literally, we’re talking love at first sight. However, the twist is that this lunation is happening next to Uranus. Have you met this true love while currently in a relationship? And are you more than willing to leave that relationship for this mystery soulmate? This week will be a passionate yet unstable one for you to say the least. Wowee!

Aquarius

Just not finding yourself on the same page with people, Aquarius? Especially your partner? You might feel unsupported by those you love like they’re not appreciating your goals, and this makes you insecure to follow through on them. A domestic situation could arise this week, so be on the lookout for anything going wrong regarding your residence, like a plumbing or electrical issue. Whatever surprise happens, you’ll find others not handling it well. Roll with the punches and you can get through this week by staying true to yourself.

Pisces

You might find it hard to compromise with people this week, sweet Pisces. While it’s easy to clash and get into arguments, remember to recenter yourself and remember what it is you enjoy about the people you’re around. It’s typical of a Pisces to harp on the negative and feel down on oneself, but if you focus on the joys of these humans you spend your time with, you’ll find yourself much better off and able to meet in the middle.

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‘My Mom Insisted My Hips Changed’ Latinas Talk About Their Moms Finding Out They Had Sex For The First Time

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‘My Mom Insisted My Hips Changed’ Latinas Talk About Their Moms Finding Out They Had Sex For The First Time

There comes a time in a young woman’s life when she has to venture out into the world and experience everything out there that the world has to offer. And yes, “everything” includes sex. And while sex is a totally natural and expected step in a young woman’s coming-of-age journey, the Latinx community often holds notoriously conservative views about when it’s “okay” for a young woman to have sex for the first time.

This conservative attitude towards woman and sex is nowhere more prominent than it is in the minds of Latinx mothers. Many Latinx moms, especially from older generations, have been trained to believe that a young woman’s worth is tied to her virginity and that it’s a sin to have sex out of wedlock. This attitude makes it hard for girls to talk to their parents about sex, which means a large portion of the Latina population is uneducated about STIs, unwanted pregnancy, contraception, and how being sexually active can impact your emotions. Because of the shame surrounding extramarital sex in the Latinx community, many young women hide the fact that they’ve been having sex from their mothers in order to avoid conflict or avoid being shamed.

That’s why Fierce by mitú took to our Instagram page to ask our followers how their madres reacted when they found out their daughters were no longer virgins. We also wanted to know if our followers decided to keep their virginity statuses to themselves.

Check out the answers below!

1. This mom’s nosiness gave her more than she bargained for

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“My mom found out I was having sex when I was 23 years old and she found my birth control (cringe!). This is a pretty common story I share with a lot of my friends but the way my mom found out was pretty mortifying. My novio, who I have been dating since I was 14 and who she has known for as many years, was over at the house. Because my mom has always been very nosey and a helicopter mom I would give him my birth control for safe keeping (For so many reasons Don’t DO THIS!!) Anyway. The birth control fell out of his bag and my mom flipped out. Any other scenario, had I hid it in a closet or sock drawer she would have found out sooner but I probably could have convinced her it was just for acne.” – Veronica, Chicago

2. This mama read between the lines and stayed silent

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“I kind of had to fess up to my mom because I was moving in with my boyfriend. She’d been asking me since we started dating if I was using protection over and over again and I was too embarrassed to even say that we were having sex. I finally just told her that I was moving in with him and I think she got the deal.” Kathryn, Los Angeles

3. This mom insisted she could tell by just LOOKING at her daughter

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“I told my mom years after, but she swears she knew the night I came home that it happened. I’m like c’mon, Mom. No way did you know. But, you know how they are–they know EVERYTHING.” – Laney, San Bernadino

4. The old “hyper-emotional” reaction

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“My mom cried so so hard and then instantly got mad at me and gave me the silent treatment. She also claimed she “knew” that I wasn’t anymore anyhow ’cause I “started talking back”. But, I was 21 at that point!” – Yvette

5. The mom who doesn’t know…but c’mon: she knows

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“To [my mom] I’m still [a virgin] ’till I’m married….Nahhh I think she probably suspects I’m not by now”. – Connie, Southern California

6. The mom who lives in blissful ignorance

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“I’m 30 years old and still haven’t told my mom. At this point she’s gotta suspect I’m not [a virgin]. But at least I waited until I was 19!” Anna, Chicago

7. The Suffocating Silence

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“Literally my current situation, lol. I want to tell her but, I’m afraid of her reaction. I don’t think she’ll be mad, but I really would hate for her to cry about it. Send help!” Darlene, Riverside

8. The “Live Your Life” Type of Mom

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“I keep it to myself, but I’m pretty sure she knows me better. 😉 ” – Belle, Puerto Rico

9. The “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” Policy

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“She never asked and I never told her… but for what it’s worth, I waited till I was at least 18.” Tania, Los Angeles

10. The Mom Who Tries and Fails to Guilt Trip

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“She said: ‘Why didnt [you] wait ’till marriage like [I] told over and over again?’. So, I said: “Who said I’ll ever get married?” Lizet, Bakersfield, CA

11. This mom who started crying when she walked in on the act

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“I had skipped school to lose my virginity to my high school boyfriend. We had planned it out so that I would play sick and he would skip school and do it when my parents were out of the house. They boy work long hours so we figured we had some time. The actual act went well, but literally just as we finished we heard my front door open. No snuggling. We both jumped up to hide. I’ve always thought it took maybe 30 steps to get from my front door to my room, my mom took five. My boyfriend ducked out of the bathroom and somehow my mom got to the front of the house to confront him. I mean he had no shirt on and was pulling him his pants. She knew. She knew so much she cried.”  Ana, Austin, TX

Latina Financial Planner Brittney Castro Helps Women With Their Money Moves

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Latina Financial Planner Brittney Castro Helps Women With Their Money Moves

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For a long time, finance was considered a boys’ club that only allowed old, grey-haired men in. But for women who largely head households and outlive men, monetary savvy is a necessity we can no longer afford to pass over. In Los Angeles, financial planner Brittney Castro, CFP®, is ensuring that women of all walks of life have the money wits they need and deserve.

At Financially Wise, Inc., the boutique financial planning firm Castro founded in 2013, the biracial Mexican-American offers holistic and comprehensive financial and investment planning for individuals, couples and businesses, with a special aim for women to get their money right. 

“A big thing for me, in the beginning, was to make [financial advice] more accessible, not just for high-network clients. Everyone needs a financial plan to pay for life and goals,” Castro, who says she speaks with clients as if they were friends, in a “fun, personal, compassionate, relatable and nonjudgmental way,” told FIERCE.

In addition to her fee-only financial planning, the 35-year-old CEO also provides online money courses, financial wellness workshops, speaking engagements and brand partnerships. 

Unlike many others in her field, Castro wasn’t raised by entrepreneurial parents, so she understands firsthand how intimidating finances can be. In fact, she entered the industry because she wanted to help communities like her own, everyday people with finance fears, all while being her own boss and making a lofty income herself.

Starting in the corporate world, she loved the change she was making in people’s lives: educating them, helping build confidence in themselves and their pursuits as well as co-creating futures where clients weren’t just secure but thriving.

Still, the long workdays and benevolent sexism of the industry took its toll on the young career woman.

“I stuck out like a sore thumb, which used to bother me a lot,” she said. “There have been so many times in my career when I was talked down to or judged.”

After five years working for a large company, Castro decided to quit and enter independent financial planning, where she’d have more control over her hours and less interaction with condescending bros. 

At the time, blogs were in bloom and social media was on the come-up, and Castro, knowing the troubles of being a woman in money, saw a niche that wasn’t being targeted: women. She started writing and speaking publicly about gender and capital, quickly seeing the benefits of the identities she was previously made to feel insecure about.

“I now think it’s an advantage that I’m a woman, Latina, young and in finance,” said Castro, whose insight on the topic can be found in outlets like Entrepreneur, CNN, CNBC, The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Glamour, Elle, Marie Claire and more. “People need me. This is America. I’m the new face, the new generation, so now I see it as a strength.”

Her biggest goal is to demystify finance so that it’s approachable for everyday people who fear all things dinero, and that typically comprises women, especially women of color. This demographic, Castro says, often feels unseen and unheard, and she doesn’t want to perpetuate those feelings and experiences in her office. Knowing the fears, insecurities and emotions that come with money talk, she creates a space where women feel safe to open up.

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“It’s never just money — it’s our lives, our fears, our wants. So it’s important for me to give women another place to come to where they can feel heard and get the help they want and deserve,” she said.

Once she and her client work through the sentimental blockages, she then breaks down why it’s totally essential for women, especially, to be financially literate and in control of their coins: We live longer than men. Nine of 10 women will be in charge of their finances at some point in their lives. We still earn less than men. We lose income when taking care of children and elders. And the list, she says, goes on.

“There are a lot of challenges, which makes learning about money more necessary,” Castro contends. “While current women’s movements are helping, by making it easier for us or creating more awareness around issues we experience, we, as individuals, still need to decide to dive in and make decisions on our finances.”

For those who are interested but don’t know where to begin or feel like they don’t have the time or cash flow to get started, Castro urges to be abandon self-doubt and just embark on the journey.

To start, Castro offers a few beginner steps.

Know your budget.

This includes all the money coming in and going out of your bank accounts.

Consider how your current budget is working. This will help you spot if you are running short and allow you to identify areas where you might be wasting money that you could actually be saving. “Maybe you need to make more or cut back, but you have to find a way to save money. We all do. But you have to start with your budget,” she said.

Set up automatic systems that will save you money.

There are a few ways to do this. Paychecks that are made via direct deposit, for instance, can automatically go into different accounts, including savings, 401(k)s, investments, employee stock purchase plans and health savings. Automating recurring bills as well as putting credit cards on autopay could also help.

“It’s almost impossible to save money if you have no automatic system that is taking money out of your account. It’s torture to do it any other way. If you see it, you will spend it. Just to be safe, set up an automatic savings plan,” she says.

Learn how to invest.

Learn the language, don’t take risks that will lose you money and expect it to be a lifelong, ever-changing journey.

Whether through a class or a book, educate yourself on investment, in the stock market and in real estate.

“I’ve been doing this for 13 years, and I still learn something new all the time,” she said. “Things change. Technology changes. Products change. There are investments that are right for you and then something comes that’s better, so you have to be willing to make a change.”

Be gentle, yet assertive with your financial goals.

Castro emphasizes that it takes courage, willpower and commitment to follow through on your strategy, which isn’t always easy to maintain.

To help, Castro recommends finding a trusted partner who can help you stay accountable and on track. “Stay motivated and hang in there,” she says. “You’re never alone. We all have the same money goals and challenges, so it’s nice to find somebody you trust that can go through this financial journey with you.”

Once we start paying closer attention to our money and making healthier financial decisions, Castro affirms that we will begin seeing benefits in other aspects of our lives. Think about it: when we aren’t stressing about money, we can think more clearly and spend more of our time enjoying life and those around us. It’s a win all around, and it’s one that is in our hands.

“People fear finances, but it’s actually so empowering when you have it in order,” she says.

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