Less than a month after Demi Lovato released her single “Sober,” revealing that she relapsed after 6 years in sobriety from alcohol and cocaine, Lovato overdosed and has been hospitalized since. The singer is known for speaking and singing her truth, and her raw vulnerability about her darkest days. She has become a beacon of hope for so many of her fans during their worst moments.
Lovatics have rallied to send their hero hope and light with the hashtag #HowDemiHasHelpedMe and you’re going to need tissues.
Some credit their own sobriety to her story.
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In the true principles of AA, Lovato shared her experience, strength and hope in everything she does, which inevitably spreads like contagious wildfire. Prepare yourself for the ???? ???? ???? .
Others shared open letters to Lovato.
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“I am constantly showering Demi with my support but have never taken time to actually express just how much she has grown to mean to me in the past year.”
In Lovato fashion, fans opened up about their personal struggles.
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So many of the struggles were much different from what Lovato has overcame, and yet her message rings true to anyone looking to empower themselves. In this perfectionist world, I thank Dios que nuestros hijos have a role model who says failure is fine.
And the Lovato effect is reaching everyone.
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The proof is in the hashtag. Believe in yourself and you model that for others. Genius.
Her courage and openness in her career has transcended issues and coping mechanisms.
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The love is real. Dozens of fans posted about their tattoos that pay tribute to the singer and her message, which really is a reminder in self care.
The Lovato ???? is an iconic emblem from her signature.
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She always signs her name with a heart instead of a dot over the “i.” Fun fact: Demi was born Demetria Devonne Lovato.
“Stay Strong” is the title of her documentary featuring her road to sobriety.
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The singer abruptly cancelled her tour with the Jonas Brothers, risking her career to get treatment in rehab. Lovato also reflects on what it was like to reintegrate into the music industry, and that recovery is a life long journey.
Lovato’s song “Warrior” has been a major influence in Lovatics’ lives.
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Lovato has simply said that the lyrics speak for themselves when she sings, “There’s a part of me I can’t get back / A little girl grew up too fast / All it took was once, I’ll never be the same / Now I’m taking back my life today.”
Women and men everywhere can find empowerment in this song that is written all over the bodies of Lovatics.
Lovato has been open about her eating disorders (ED), and helped fans face their own truth.
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It doesn’t take much for young Americans to have distorted views of their bodies, especially when the entertainment industry values thin, white, blonde bodies.
Lovato has spoken out saying that she’s owning her Latinidad, and finds her “curves” sexy. We all deserve to take up space.
One fan shared Lovato’s Instagram love that got her through a rough patch…
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I mean, I would frame that if I was her. Lovato loves her fans as hard as they love her, which is why she deserves all the love being sent her way.
In the same post, @lovatoart shared what compelled Demi to comment on her post:
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Lovato attests to being bullied growing up and has been an outspoken activist to fight an end to bullying since. She aims to empower young people to find value in themselves rather than what anyone else thinks.
Many fans shared about how Lovato helped them through attempted suicides.
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“She’s my idol and role model, not because she’s perfect but because she’s real.” ❤️❤️❤️
Lovato sets the kind of radical honesty, self love and culture of acceptance we all want to live in.
So Lovatics have recommitted to the singer during her time of distress.
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Lovato’s overdose and hospitalization has been very public. In her song “Sober,” she apologizes to her fans but they have her back, forever.
It’s pretty clear that fans hope #HowDemiHasHelpedMe will help her.
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While we’re sure that the celebrity wants to protect her privacy to a certain degree, her vulnerability in her songs has garnered die-hard fans. She’s laid her heart out for the world to see, and anyone who isn’t compassionate to her must have a lot of their own sh*t to work out. #GotMeRiledUp
Lovatics are backing up their support with specifics:
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They really know how to write a persuasive essay tweet. ????
Like this one teenager who decided against suicide after meeting her.
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If Lovato can get through a childhood of abuse, bullying, and mental health issues and become Demi Lovato, then we can become ourselves, too.
Lovato has inspired more skyscrapers than ever before to “rise from the ground”
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“You can take everything I have / You can break everything I am / Like I’m made of glass / Like I’m made of paper / Go on and try to tear me down / I will be rising from the ground / Like a skyscraper, like a skyscraper.”
Listen to her voice and have all the chills.
Kids were literally pushed to the ground and got back up because of her.
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Pick yourself up enough times and it gets easier every time. Listen to ‘Skyscraper’ enough time and you feel all the more powerful for it.
The poems are flowing into Lovato’s Twitter feed.
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So many of them are poems that fans wrote years before that helped them get through a hard times that are resurfacing now. They’re proof that Lovato has actually helped people choose life long enough to offer a hand to the singer when she needs one.
Here’s to hoping Demi feels bolstered in her hospital bed reading these tweets.
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I mean, we’re basically parroting all the advice Demi has given to her fans and trying to be the Demi to Demi that she’s been to us. ???? Tu sabes? ❤️
We especially hope Demi sees this one:
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We all make mistakes and they don’t define us unless we let them. We pick ourselves up, and remind ourselves to have compassion for where we’re at–it’s exactly where we’re supposed to be to reach our fullest expression of ourselves.
We’re praying for your recovery, Demi! Besitos y bendiciones ????
We don’t always think of mental illness like anxiety and depression as an exterior problem. Because it is so internal, we often think the signs of mental illness are easy to miss and as a result, should be covered up. Still, so many of us have experienced mental illness to the point of being incapable of dragging ourselves out of bed or heading out for plans with friends.
Women of Reddit are sharing how mental health has affected their work and professional lives.
Check them out below!
“I tend to self-isolate when I’m in a deeper depression. I don’t accept invitations to do things with friends. I’m chronically single, so there is no SO for it to affect.
Mostly throughout all my depressions, I’ve still been able to make it to work. That would be all I could do in a day. Get up, go to work. Come home and sleep. Most of the time I could keep up the facade at work of being a chatty outgoing person. When I’d have my bad days, I’d just let my coworkers know I wasn’t feeling well so I probably would be really quiet those days. They’d assume it was a cold or headache, but really it was my depression weighing me down. I would occasionally take mental health days off work, but those were only when I knew I wasn’t scheduled for much and it wouldn’t negatively affect my coworkers much. I’d never do it on a busy day or if I was scheduled in something that it would be difficult to replace me in.
At my current job, I don’t have to interact with others as much. I am in an office environment now (I worked in a lab before), but sit at my desk/cube with headphones on listening to podcasts while I do my work all day. I’ve had some bad depression days, but I still come into work and just count the hours down until I can go back home and crawl into bed. Bed in my happy place.”- MadtownMaven
“ I have tons of vacation time and it feels like weirdly I take “too many” mental health days however I guess former jobs made it hard for me to “call in sick” just because ‘depressed’.
I’ve lost friends over my isolation ways. And a partner. Yay.”- duckduck_goose
“That was exactly how I felt right before I decided I needed help. It got to the point where I couldn’t leave and just called the house to beg someone to bring me a drink or food. hugs That being said, sometimes you just got to do what makes you happiest. And if that is your bed, you probably picked a good cozy spot.”- ktwat
“I’m an aspie. In my first two relationships, I was taken advantage of, taken for granted and left out of my social activities due to the fact that my interaction with others was often seen as “steely” or “intimidating” (unintentionally though). I found it difficult to get my feelings across or that my partners had very little time for me in terms of discussing interactional problems or even just simple things like my past. I was cheated on in both of those relationships, probably regularly, because any social training I have didn’t include how to interact with a romantic partner. I think I’m getting the grips of it now though and in my third long-term relationship. It helps that I am completely head-over-heels in love with the guy but also, he treats me with respect, points out when i do something wrong or say something inappropriate and I feel like I’ve learned a lot more over the past year in my relationship with him that I have in the past 30 years from therapists or other people. I’ve stopped all forms of medication now, and stick to a fairly strict routine which keeps me ‘in check.’”- Gamerdomme
“You know how when someone has PTSD in a movie they start drinking a shit ton and possibly sleeping around and denying anything is wrong with them? Yeah, that was me, all day. I wasn’t really in denial that I was fucked up, but I maintained it would just go away on its own and I could “work through it”. Ha.
I actually didn’t experience too many issues in friendships, I think I was pretty self-aware of when I was dumping my problems on people, and I have a lot of friends, so when one person was getting overloaded I could go to someone else. I’m also a good listener myself, so when I was dumping on people I made it clear I would return the favor any time, which most took me up on at some point. Focusing on other people was a great break from my own problems. I was convinced telling my parents about my issues would make them “real”, though, and I was convinced I was letting them down by having problems, so I lied my face off to them.”- SpermJackalope
“When I was depressed I made the mistake of relying on my friends and partners as therapists rather than friends and partners, and some of those relationships imploded as a result. I feel really, really bad about it now, but at the time I wasn’t in the head space to think about what I was doing. It got better when I got an actual therapist.
I pulled away from a lot of people too. I didn’t want my parents to worry, so I never told them it was so bad I was suicidal. Talking to them was exhausting because I was at university and wanted them to believe the experience they were paying for was the most amazing of my life, when in reality I was sleeping 20-22hrs a day. Eventually I couldn’t keep it up anymore and broke down in the middle of a restaurant and told them I was really struggling. To their credit they instantly had me in to see doctors, they did all kinds of research, they became cheerleaders … What I had needed all along if I’d let them know. There was one rough patch where my dad threatened to have me committed but I think, looking back, that it came from a place of fear for him worrying he might actually have to hospitalize his daughter for her own good. I can’t imagine how hard that was for him.
I’m better now. I have friends and my family and an awesome SO. It took me almost two years after I got better to really relearn who I was apart from my depression but the people in my life have been really patient about it. They’re generally understanding when I feel like I’m backsliding but I’ve learned to cope better than dumping all my problems on them as well.”-snapkangaroo
“I have an anxiety/panic disorder and sometimes depression. It really affected my schoolwork back in 2009. I went on academic probation. I was afraid to leave my apartment. Etc etc. Then I started getting help. Three semesters later I made Dean’s List. My anxiety has been up and down since then, but I’ve never let it affect my work again.
A year ago on the 15th of February I broke up with my most recent ex-boyfriend because of it. I had been open and honest with him in a way I had avoided before because I was scared of the stigma. He seemed receptive and empathetic. Then one day I came home, complained about a panic attack, and he laughed at me. He called me ridiculous. All of a sudden I realized what a tremendous asshole he was and broke up with him.
It’s hard for me to know the line. Who can I talk to about this? Who can I trust? My mom, my best friend, and my sisters I can trust. Anybody else? I don’t know. When can/should I start talking to the person I’m dating about it? Will he laugh me out of the room? Will he pretend to care for months and then laugh me out of the room?
I’m doing really well right now. I haven’t had a panic attack in months. My anxiety has been at an all time low. I’m hoping this is actually me getting better rather than me having a good spell. But I don’t think so. It’ll come back. It always comes back. And that’s part of the disorder. Being so afraid of the panic that it causes me to avoid thing and panic about things and let it control me. If it does come back, I can beat it again. I have in the past, I can in the future.”- BagsOfMoney
“It’s really inspiring to hear how you hauled yourself back up! Have you had to have any of those conversations lately? How does it differ to talk to family vs. friends vs. romantic interests about it?”- ktwat
“I have severe anxiety and depression. This is not your normal “sometimes I feel sad” shit. Also, I’m a hypochondriac and neurotic. What I’ve seen is that people need a lot of patience for me. They need the ability to listen to me as I coach them through my anxiety attacks (“don’t touch me; okay now I need a hug; give me space; I need water” etc.) and they need the ability to distract me when I get into neurotic/hypochondriac fits of anxiety. When I’m depressed, they need to understand it’s not because of them. This is always tricky to convince someone of.”- giottoblue
“One of my boyfriends didn’t “believe” in mental illness, and decided that therefore I shouldn’t be taking my medication for anxiety/ADD because “I shouldn’t be dependent on a chemical” and “it was all in my head and I could just feel better if I wanted to.” That relationship did not last, and that was a big part of that. That’s a thing that does actually happen, and was pretty harmful for me (although that’s part of the larger scheme of that relationship which tended to be rather manipulative, which is a whole other can of worms. Feel free to pm me if you’ve got any questions about it though.)
My current boyfriend is very understanding and supportive of that, recognizes that sometimes I need my space and that sometimes there are things that won’t just immediately “get better” and he’s really great about wanting to see me happy and calm and if my life gets super stressful (which happens somewhat frequently as a grad student) he does whatever he can to make it better! But he might be extra great about it.
I haven’t ever had anybody ever ask to have some of my meds (some of them being controlled substances that people pay a lot for on the street) with any seriousness, but I usually include that in my opening spiel about the problem. I’ve also had some experiences where people are talking about getting them from a doctor when clearly they don’t have a real problem (like, “yeah I went to my doctor and told him I can’t concentrate and now he gave me meds to take during finals…” sort of like that. I don’t mean that I’m an expert in when people do/don’t have a mental disorder. This is kind of like people who clearly smoke a lot of pot saying they suddenly go to their doctor to get it when before they had no indication of a problem. I’m trying to word this well and it really isn’t working but I hope that makes sense). In those situations I tend to just not say anything because it’s not something I tell a lot of people.”-all_that_glitters_
“I’m now in recovery for an Eating Disorder and have had a massive battle with anxiety.
Personally I’ve been able to see who my real friends are. My ED took over my life slowly but surely and as I started on the slope a few friends just seemed to distance themselves and then stop talking to me. I’ve got a smaller group of friends now but I trust all of them and wouldn’t change a thing.
The other aspect that was affected personally was my relationship with my boyfriend, he stood by me every single moment and helped me through basically every single panic attack/purge etc. He was my rock, but it almost split us up. During recovery I made a stupid mistake as my self destructive part took over, however, we made it through. I think the hardest part for him was that he just couldn’t see my train thought, he didn’t understand how my skewed logic made so much sense to me. There are still knock ons from this time as my libido dropped during my ED and I still find it really hard to initiate any sort of sex. I still have a poor view of what I look like, which is worse when stressed, but we continue to work through it.
Professionally, ED and then recovery has ruined my job. My boss has been pretty unreasonable with some aspects of it and continues to stress me out. She also told me during recovery that I wasn’t ‘crazy crazy any more, just girl crazy’. Also, any time something is wrong with me she automatically assumes its an ED issue and asks if I’m eating. It’s horrible to be constantly probed over something that you are trying to overcome/move past.”-marty1411
“The stigma is terrifying to me. I can’t imagine any other time when people find it okay to berate someone over an illness. Your boss sounds like she is asking for an HR conversation. And what in the everloving fuck does “girl crazy” mean? Like “your invalid problems are even more invalid because they are female invalid problems”? Bullshit. Every element of it is valid whether someone chooses to acknowledge it or not. I am glad you have such great support, though. Your SO rocks! Tell him some random chick on the internet loves and respects his patience and strength.”-ktwat
“My eating disorder has affected every aspect of my life since I was 13. I am in recovery now, but for over a decade, I was in and out of inpatient/residential treatment centers.
Professionally and academically, this affected me because I had to leave school and work at very inopportune times. It took me 7 years to graduate college because I had to take 5 medical withdrawals. It was an embarrassing reason to leave, so I usually wouldn’t tell any of my friends. One day, I would just not show up and stop responding to texts. Then when I would return, I would say I was just sick. I told my close friends, but it wasn’t something I wanted to broadcast.
All of my relationships have ended because of my eating disorder, whether indirectly or directly. I remember a situation with an ex where he wouldn’t let me purge. I became a different person. I screamed, kicked, cried, bit, punched, and hit him because he wouldn’t let me go. I called him extremely hurtful names. I didn’t care about anything in that moment except getting to the bathroom to shove me fingers down my throat. Eventually, he gave up and let me go. I ran to the bathroom and threw up. When I came out of the bathroom, I was so embarrassed.
My boyfriends do not just date me; they also date my eating disorder. I went to Germany with an ex, and he ended up calling his mom asking her to get me an early plane ride home because he couldn’t handle my eating disorder. I didn’t experience the trip while I was there because I only cared about food. I ended up convincing him to stay, but our relationship was never the same. We broke up very soon after that. When I climbed the castle stairs in Germany, I only wondered how many calories I was burning. I didn’t care about the beauty of the castles or the country.
Therapy has affected me in an extremely positive way. I have learned amazing communication skills by being in therapy for 12 years. I know how to effectively relay my feelings in every situation. I learned that it’s okay for me to have needs and that they may not always be met. I would recommend therapy to anyone. It is not just something for “crazy people.” It can be beneficial for anyone.”- toritxtornado
“I have bipolar II and generalized anxiety disorder. I also am currently dealing with post-partum depression.
I am on medication, but I am not in therapy right now. I’m doing pretty well for the most part.
I have a lot of problems with controlling emotions in general. But anger is the most difficult. It has almost destroyed my relationship with my husband a few times over.
He used to have a difficult time understanding that my disorders were causing my erratic behavior. He didn’t understand why I could just be happy and calm like him. He even talked me into quitting all of my medication early in our relationship. It was awful and I was having a lot of awful problems for it.
These days, especially after the birth of our first child and the post-partum psychosis that followed (complete with hallucinations and paranoid delusions) put things into perspective for him. He understands now that my mind just isn’t working properly in regards to mood regulation and perception.
I have lost friends due to it, mostly because of my rage problems where I would tell them off in the most cruel, painful, and humiliating way possible if I felt slighted or insulted by them. I don’t do that anymore, thank god.
In the past, a lot of my medications killed my libido. Right now I am on a good medication combination, my libido feels fine, maybe slightly lower, but I don’t have the problems reaching orgasm that I did with other drugs.
It hasn’t really effected my work much since I manage my disorders well with meds.
It did become a problems during my second pregnancy. I tried quitting all of my medication and started having back to back panic attacks. At work. I remember a few times getting panicked and just blacking out and wandering around the town I work in. That stopped happening when my OBGYN put me on wellbutrin.
I used to see a psychiatrist for my medication. It was expensive and felt creepy because he would analyze my every thought and movement. I see a family doctor right now and he has done a better job of finding good drugs for me than any of the psychiatrists ever did.
But it’s definitely not something I can be open about. I just don’t bring it up unless I know someone very well.”- antisocialmedic
On Thursday, Selena Gomez took to her Instagram page to reveal a new project she’s working on. And while Selena has been busy working on her Spanish-language album and makeup brand this year, this project is a little bit different. This project will be focused on a cause near and dear to Selena Gomez’s heart: mental health.
The initiative is called Mental Health 101. The campaign is meant to spark conversation with the question: What if mental health education was taught in school?”
Gomez posted a powerful short essay to her Instagram feed about how important mental health services have been to her. It read:
Today, I’m so grateful that we get to launch Mental Health 101. This campaign is so close to my heart because of my own struggles with mental health. I know first hand how scary and lonely it can feel to face anxiety and depression by yourself at a young age. If I had learned about my mental health earlier on – been taught about my condition in school the way I was taught about other subjects – my journey could have looked very different.
The world needs to know that mental health matters. It’s just as important as your physical health, and I wish we could acknowledged that, not just in words but through our actions.
For anyone who is hurting right now, I hope you know that you are not alone. I’m a believer in seeking help. Getting support and educating myself on mental health has changed my life, and it can change yours, too.
Gomez asked her followers to join her mental health initiative by doing three things: signing her change.org petition, donating to the Rare Impact fund, and spreading her message via social media.
Gomez’s Rare Impact fund has the goal of raising $100 million over the next 10 years to help connect people in underserved communities with mental health care. The fund will also be matching donations up to $200,000. You can donate here.
On the change.org petition, Selena Gomez wrote that it is “absolutely essential to offer mental health services in schools, and for the philanthropy community to prioritize this issue.”
The goal of Gomez’s change.org petition is to raise awareness amongst the philanthropy community about how important this issue is for you people.
She also wasn’t afraid to get candid. “Mental Health is personal for me,” she wrote. “Figuring out how to manage my own mental health hasn’t always been easy, but it’s something I am constantly working on. I hope I can help others work on it, too. I wish more people talked about mental health when I was younger, so I could have learned and understood what was going on with my own health earlier on.”