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Beyoncé Giving The Look To A Woman Leaning Over Her To Talk To Jay-Z Is Every WOC Shutting The Becky Down

This week, the world watched Donald Trump, unfortunate president of the United States, make a visit to the Royal family in England. It’s been a bit of clunky road, but he and Ivanka have taken up some pretty important lessons on how to treat the queen. Do not touch the queen, do not turn your back on the queen and for the love of god caller her Queen or your Highness only.

Now, in case you didn’t know, these practices apply to our very own sovereign in the U.S., Queen Beyoncé, as well. And when it comes to our queen, Beckys — particularly ones who have good hair and eyes for Hov — a set of very specific procedures apply.

#1 No LEANING across the queen to talk to her mans. Not ever.

Not EVER.

But Nicole Curran, wife of the Golden State Warriors’ owner had clearly failed to be informed of these facts. Today she knows.

Recently Curran caught eyes when she appeared courtside beside Beyoncé and Jay-Z for Game 3 of the NBA Finals.

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The video which was posted to Twitter by ESPN, shows Beyoncé watching as Curran leans over her to talk to Jay-Z. The thing is…

ONE DOES NOT SIMPLY LEAN ACROSS A QUEEN, JAN.

Clearly, agitated, Beyoncé’s face goes blank before she gives Curran The Look that so many women of color know well.

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It’s the one we’ve been getting from our moms at parties since day 1 and have put into practice ourselves. It’s the one we got when we were younger and caught cutting up / disgracing the family name at a party. The one we got when we had to ask if we could sleepover… at age 24. And the same one we deliver when a Becky comes too close to our man.

Somehow, it can spark a fire and simultaneously put one out while also making you pee yourself.

Latinas of Twitter were also unimpressed by Curran’s behavior and were quick to acknowledge their experience of having to use The Look in similar situations

Beyoncé’s face is literally all of us who have ever had to step up to a woman at a club, bar, BBQ, family party and let a girl know that the ring on their man’s finger MEANS he’s taken.

It’s also the face, those of us who aren’t married, have given when we know that just our PRESENCE next to our man ought to be enough for a girl to know she needs to not.

Not. Thot.

Of course, Curran has said that her intention was much more innocent than we’ve all assumed.

Curran, who has since deleted her Instagram account because of online bullying, told Ramona Shelburne of ESPN that in the moment gone viral, she was simply asking Jay-Z and Beyoncé if they wanted drinks.

BTW: Jay-Z ordered vodka soda while Bey asked for water. That classy queen.

When it comes to The Look, Michelle Obama also knows what’s up.

Pretty sure we all remember this moment in history when the former First Lady was forced to literally put herself between her husband and former Prime Minister of Denmark Helle Thorning-Schmidt.

Lesson of the day?

Don’t be leaning across queens, girl.

Not Even Danny Trejo Has A Celebrity Face Tattoo

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Not Even Danny Trejo Has A Celebrity Face Tattoo

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It’s 2020 and face tattoos are the new normal. While the distinguishing ink has a rich history that traces all of the ways back to Ancient Greece and China, today’s tattoo du jour is notably born from some mutual understanding that subversive acts like a spiderweb tatt on your elbow or bleaching your heard are no longer enough.

Amber Rose 

The mother of two has said she truly took the death of Kobe Bryant to heart and was inspired to tattoo her children’s names on her forehead.

Presley Gerber

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When Cindy Crawford’s son and model Presley Gerber tattooed the lower part of his eye fans were shocked. Mostly because as it turns out, no matter how much they liked him they were “misunderstood” about him. The young model’s choice to tattoo the word on his face was baffling decision.

Post Malone

Post Malone might just be the reason why face tattoos took flight this year. The American rapper has a number of face tattoos including the words “Stay Away” on his forehead, and “always tired” under both of his eyes.

Aaron Carter

Speaking to Entertainment Tonight in a recent interview, the pop star explained that his face tattoo was done in honor of his career. According to Carter his tattoo is an image of Greek monster Medusa who Carter sees as his protector.

Justin Bieber

Yep, the once cleaned up teen hearthrob also has face ink. Though his are a bit more discreet Bieber does have a small cross under his left eye and the word “grace” above his right eyebrow.

Halsey

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Halsey also has a small tattoo that is very difficult to recognize. It’s very discreet and hard to spot. Her face tattoo is made up of a red diamond with a “Q” above it. It’s just in front of one of her ears.

These are just some of your favorite stars who have face tattoos that mean something very important to them. They’re very unique and it is one of their ways of expressing themselves. 

Are You A Victim Of Abuse? Use This Checklist To Help You Determine The Truth

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Are You A Victim Of Abuse? Use This Checklist To Help You Determine The Truth

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If you feel that you are experiencing an abusive relationship, please seek help. Call The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233 for assistance. Please take care if you feel that your internet or mobile phone device use is being monitored.

There are three ways that abuse can be identified. By the way your partner treats you physically, by the way they treat you emotionally, and by how you feel about the relationship. This checklist of twenty signs of abuse is one tool that you can use to see if you, or someone you know, is a victim of abuse. And remember, more resources for dealing with abuse can be found by calling The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233.

1. They have grabbed you and refused to let go.

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This falls into the category of physical abuse. No-one should grab you to make you feel threatened and unsafe. No-one.

2. They have pulled your hair.

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This is another form of physical abuse. Sure, a bit of hair pulling in the act of passion is fine. But when it happens as part of an argument, or when your partner is deliberately trying to hurt you or make you feel threatened, that is abuse.

3. They have thrown things at you and/or destroyed your belongings.

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One way your significant other may try to control you is through your belongings. Throwing things at you and destroying your belongings is designed to hurt you physically and emotionally. Threatening to do so also falls under this category of behavior, too.

4. They have left you with bruises, black eyes, bleeding, and/or broken bones.

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While abuse doesn’t necessarily have to leave marks on your body, a sure sign of physical abuse in your relationship is when your partner does leave marks. Research shows that once it happens the first time, a “threshold” of sorts has been crossed, and an abuser is more likely to hurt their partner again.

5. They have threatened to hurt or kill you.

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It may not seem like abuse, since there are no physical marks left from a threat to hurt or kill you. However, these threats are still part of the arsenal of tools that abusers use. How? Because these threats are designed to control your behavior, and make you feel powerless. Abuse in a relationship is about the abuser gaining and maintaining power, and death threats are a way of emotionally controlling you.

6. They have threatened to take your children away or harm them.

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Even if you have children together, children shouldn’t be used as a bargaining chip in your relationship. Even more importantly, your children’s safety is non-negotiable: no partner of yours should threaten it. By the way, this doesn’t just apply to children. Pets can also be used to manipulate and control you in a relationship.

7. They have forced you to have sex.

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Sex is not a “duty” to be fulfilled in a loving, equal relationship. Nor should your partner guilt trip or manipulate you into participating in sex acts after you have refused sex. Consent needs to be freely given! It doesn’t matter how long the two of you have been together. Otherwise, it’s classed as sexual assault.

8. They try to control you and treat you like a child.

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Abusive relationships are about control and power. Part of treating you like a child is making you feel like you don’t have any control in the relationship, or even your life, so that you continue to stay and endure the abuse.

9. They make you feel like you need permission to make decisions or go somewhere.

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This applies when you feel like you have to text at every moment to update your partner about where you are. And when you can’t spend time with friends or family without getting permission from your partner. This is because abusers commonly try to isolate their partner from other, platonic relationships with other people.

10. They try to take complete control of the finances and how you spend money.

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Controlling how money is earned and spent is known as financial abuse. People suffering from this type of abuse are commonly denied access to money by partners for doing simple tasks like grocery shopping. Or, sometimes the abuser decides whether and when their partner is allowed to work.

11. They cannot admit to being wrong.

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Part of being in a respectful and loving relationship is being able to say sorry and to admit fault. An abusive partner refuses to apologise, because doing so would threaten their position of power in their relationship.

12. They accuse you of things that you know are not true.

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This is about control, and manipulating you. After all, if you’re spending your time trying to prove your innocence, then you’re not going to spend your time planning to leave the relationship, are you?

13. They do not take responsibility for their behavior.

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The reality is, it’s not too much to ask someone to take responsibility for their behavior – even more so when it’s someone you’re in a relationship with. However, your partner doesn’t take responsibility for their behavior because doing so would threaten their position of power in the relationship.

14. They use “The Silent Treatment” to get their way.

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Chances are you may have experienced “The Silent Treatment” before, in elementary school. And that’s where that behavior should stay. An equal, loving relationship is not built on one person using silence to manipulate the other person into conceding a point.

15. They make subtle threats or negative remarks about you.

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Of course, there’s always room for some friendly sledging in a loving, respectful relationship. But, it turns into abuse when your partner does this on a regular basis to frighten, or control you. It’s possible they may even pass it off as a “joke”, or say that you’re “overreacting”. But again, if you’re in a loving relationship, then your partner should respect the fact that you’re hurt by a “joke”. They should not continue to make these types of comments.

16. You feel scared about how your significant other will act.

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Repeat after us: you should have no reason to fear your partner in a loving, respectful relationship. You should have no reason to fear your partner in a loving, respectful relationship.

17. You feel that you can help your partner to change their behavior.

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But, only if you have changed something about yourself first.

18. You watch your behavior carefully so that you do not start a conflict in your relationship.

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An abuser does not abuse all of the time. They maintain a cycle of abuse in the relationship. Things go from being tense, where you feel like you have to watch your own actions, to an incident which involves verbal, emotional, financial and physical abuse. Then, your partner attempts reconciliation or denies the abuse occurred, and the relationship goes into a calm stage. However, tensions will begin to build before long, starting the cycle once again.

19. You stay with your partner because you are afraid of what they would do if you broke up.

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In other words, you feel trapped in your relationship because of your partner’s current, or potential, behavior. This can range from hurting you, your kids, your pets, your friends, and your family. Or, destroying your belongings, compromising access to your finances, or hurting themselves.

20. They don’t pass “The No Test”

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“The No Test” is pretty simple. Observe what happens the next time you tell your partner “no”. This could be in response to being asked out on a date, or maybe doing them a simple favor. Disappointment is a normal response to being told “no.”  However, pure outrage, violence, and/or emotional manipulation is not a reasonable response, and may indicate an abusive relationship.

If you feel that you are experiencing an abusive relationship, please seek help. Call The National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1800 799 7233 for assistance. Please take care if you feel that your internet or mobile phone device use is being monitored.