An Instagram User Tried To Shame Adrienne Houghton For Not Having Children And Latinas (And Her Husband) Rose To The Occasion
Adrienne Houghton is being shamed for not having children, and her husband is not having it. On Sunday, The Real co-host posted a boomerang on Instagram of her and partner Israel Houghton sharing a sweet kiss on their wedding day three years ago during a Seine River boat ride in Paris.
Houghton’s post quickly generated a discussion about mom-shaming after one user made a comment.
“The best yes. 11:11. I love you more than ever,” the 35-year-old actress captioned the post. “Best decision I’ve ever made. There will never be another. You and me. Eternally,” Houghton, 48, responded in a comment.
The charming visual, which showed the Eiffel Tower in the background, mostly received kind, congratulatory remarks. However, because someone always has to rain on happy people’s parade, there was one troll who questioned why after three years of marriage Houghton hasn’t yet had a baby.
“3 years and no kids,” commenter @tysonleelee wrote, adding a few sad emojis.
There’s so much wrong with the unsolicited statement. To start, it’s intrusive. Just because the Puerto Rican-Ecuadorian celebrity is in the public eye doesn’t mean her private life is open for comment or questions. Even more, it’s insensitive. The commenter has no idea if Houghton and Houghton have been trying to have children, and remarks like such could feel like jabs during their struggle to reproduce. Finally, it’s sexist. Womanhood isn’t tied to motherhood. Houghton, who is a stepmother to Houghton’s four kids from a previous marriage, doesn’t need to bear children simply because she is in a relationship. Women’s autonomy means making our own reproductive choices, which includes deciding whether we, not observers, want to get pregnant or carry pregnancies to term.
As can be imagined, most people came to Houghton’s defense.
“Can you believe it? People actually get married bc they want to be together and spend as much time enjoying each other’s company,” one commenter responded, suggesting that not all couples get together to form larger families. “There is no time limit on kids and marriage. They are happy and in love. That’s all that matters,” another replied.
Still, no answer was as comprehensive or potent as hubby Houghton’s clap back.
“Tyson, my brother. Do you really want this smoke right now,” the Christian musician started his rant. “I’m gonna let you go and find something worth worrying about. In the meantime, and in-between time: May I suggest perhaps an online etiquette class? Couple things you don’t inquire about — women’s age, women’s weight and as someone eloquently put it in these comments — unless invited STAY OUT of a women’s uterus.”
Houghton, who also noted that people never know a couple’s private struggles with starting or expanding families, politely told the commenter to worry about his own life and be kinder and gentler to people.
“Maybe find a girlfriend or a wife and worry yourself to your heart’s content about her pregnancy journey and plans,” he said. “By the way, when we do announce a pregnancy, I expect nothing but polite well wishes from you. If you’re planning anything other than that, thou shalt be blocked life. May the Lord God bless you real good as you go find a good thing/wife. Thanks.”
Houghton, who also compassionately responded saying she and her man are madly in love and are in no rush to have children together, has in the past spoken out about her troubles conceiving. In a September 2018 segment of her talk show, the “Cheetah Girls” star discussed how difficult it has been for her to get pregnant, how insensitive people could be about it and why she remains faithfully trusting in her God.
“I think as an audience, we should be sensitive to the fact that everybody doesn’t get pregnant right away,” she told co-host Loni Love. “I think, for myself, I thought it would happen so easily for me, and it just hasn’t happened that way.”
Despite the difficulty and haters, though, the Latina said she is hopeful that she will birth a child of her own one day.
“I’ve had to come to peace that it will happen when it’s God’s timing,” she said. “I believe in that and I have faith in all of that, but it can be really discouraging and it can be really frustrating. I would love nothing more than to be a mom, but I want it when God wants it for me.”
Houghton and her husband aren’t new to fans dissecting and criticizing their relationship. The pair started dating soon after the singer-songwriter divorced his ex-wife of 21 years. Together for just under a year, the two wed in a small and charming ceremony in Paris in November 2016.