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The Latino Wedding Traditions You’ve Been Taking Part In Are Deeply Rooted In History From Other Cultures

When it comes to our bodas, Latinos have the traditions and customs on lock. From money dances to wedding vows, there is no aspect of a wedding that involves a Latina that won’t be strongly steeped in culture and tradition. But where did our unique practices of the “traditional wedding” come from anyway? It turns out, while so much of the weddings that take place in countries like Cuba, Brazil, Costa Rica, and Peru aren’t just based in their lands of origins.

In fact, many of customary traditions match surprisingly along with the traditions of countries across the globe.

Bridesmaids

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These days brides have become accustomed to offering their bridesmaids a bit more leniency and control over the dresses they wear to wedding ceremonies. While it was once much more common to see brides of all sizes and shapes donning the exact same dresses, size-inclusivity and consideration have inspired many brides to allow their girls to pick out styles for themselves while wearing the same color or shade.

Matching dresses during the processional wasn’t always a tactic used by brides to ensure they stood out over the rest, however. In fact, bridesmaids of Ancient Rome originally wore dresses that looked similar to the bride’s so that they could help her to outsmart evil spirits. With so many dresses to compare, evil spirits wouldn’t know which woman in the lineup was the bride that day.

But the bridesmaids’ duties were far more treacherous in early Rome, where they were expected to intervene on behalf of the bride and fight off any former boyfriends of the bride who attempted to ruin her wedding day or steal her dowry.

Las Arras

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These gold coins can be seen in just about any Latin American Christian wedding ceremony but it undoubtedly comes from Spain.

The custom of presenting thirteen gold coins to the bride and groom in an ornate box can be traced back to Rome and Spain. Arras means “earnest money” in Spanish and is the money presented from the groom’s family to the bride’s.

Wedding Cake

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The customary wedding cake wasn’t always so romantic or delightful.

According to research, ancient Romans would require a groom to take a bite of bread at their wedding and crumble the remains on the bride’s head for good luck. “Fun” ensued when guests were prompted to then rush to her feet and pick up whatever bread crumbs they could find so that they too could have a bit of good luck. These days, the modern western approach to desserts and weddings has seen many cultures opt for actual desserts and cake for the celebrations of a couple’s wedding.

Money Dances


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The money dance is an event that occurs in many cultures rooted in Latin America, though the exact origins of it are unknown. During a money dance, guests will give money in a chance to dance with the bride. Often times, the money given to the bride and groom is used to help set them up for a future or for just a little extra cash on their honeymoon. While no origins of the dance are known, it might be of interest to some that the tradition is common among the Yoruba and Igbo people of Nigeria.

White Gowns

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At one time, red was actually the color du jour for brides at weddings. While some had actually worn white for their weddings, it was not until Queen Victoria rocked a white gown for her wedding that white became the color most Western brides would opt for.

Wedding Rings

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The tradition of wedding rings can be traced back 6,000 years ago to ancient Egypt. At the time, couples exchanged braided rings made of reeds and hemp in a gesture that symbolized eternal love and commitment. Ancient Egyptians had a belief that the left hand had a vein that was connected directly to the heart and as a result started the tradition of wearing wedding rings on the left hand (awww!). Clearly, the custom caught on and spread because the exchange of rings is one done throughout the world. In Latin America, this is no different. Today, couples all over Latin America wear rings and in Brazil and Mexico, couples often wear engagement rings (not just the bride!).

Gisele Bundchen’s Marriage To Tom Brady Looks Perfect On Pictures But She Recently Opened Up That She Has Rough Patches In Her Relationship

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Gisele Bundchen’s Marriage To Tom Brady Looks Perfect On Pictures But She Recently Opened Up That She Has Rough Patches In Her Relationship

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Some think that looks, money and a massive social following can buy you everything but Brazilian model Gisele Bündchen has been a consistent voice against this logic. Recently, the Victoria Secret ambassador’s husband Tom Brady also confirmed this fact, citing his own marriage and Gisele’s happiness within it as proof.

In a recent interview, Brady revealed that the duo has had rough patches just like the rest of us.

Speaking with Howard Stern on SiriusXM on Wednesday, Brady opened up about his marriage to in a pretty candid interview.

“A couple of years ago, she didn’t feel like I was doing my part for the family,” the star quarterback admitted. “She felt like I would play football all season and she would take care of the house, and then all of a sudden when the season ended, I’d be like, ‘Great, let me get into all of my other business activities. Let me get into my football training,’ and she’s sitting there going, ‘Well when are you going to do things for the house? When are you going to take the kids to school and do that?’”

According to Brady, Gisele advocated for herself, pointing out parts in their marriage she wanted to improve– refocusing on her own career and dreams included. To help out his wife, Brady said that he made the decision to take a few steps back from his Patriots organized team practice activities and other business interests.

“Because with my family, the situation wasn’t great,” Brady explained, going onto explain that Gisele “wasn’t satisfied with our marriage, so I needed to make a change in that.”

Making the changes wasn’t totally easy for Brady however. The star quarterback admitted that he’d initially felt some resentment towards his wife for her issues with their relationship and the two ultimately decided to attend counseling.

According to the interview, Brady had a turning point was when Giselle wrote him a “heartfelt letter” about her feelings.

“She actually wrote me a letter, and it was a very thought out letter that she wrote to me and I still have it and I keep it in a drawer and I read it,” he said. “It’s a very heartfelt letter for her to say this is where I’m at in our marriage, and it’s a good reminder for me that things are going to change and evolve over time. What happened and what worked for us 10 years ago won’t work for us forever because we are growing in different ways.”

Ultimately, the couple seemed to fix their issues by coming up wit ha balance.

“The point of a relationship is that it has to work for both [partners],” Brady explained in the interview. “You better work on both because if you don’t then it’s not sustainable.”

Ultimately, Giselle’s decision to be honest and not hold in her resentments probably saved her marriage. That’s a lesson to all of us who have a hard time expressing ourselves in relationships and often deflect to the classic but oh so harmful “No, I’m fine.”

Latinas Shared Their Best Bits Of Marriage Advice And The Comment Section Got REAL

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Latinas Shared Their Best Bits Of Marriage Advice And The Comment Section Got REAL

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Recently, a FIERCE reader posed a pretty poignant question on Twitter: “If you could give me advice on marriage, what would it be?”

Married folks and mujeres that were once married offered up their best bits of advice! Check them out below!

View marriage as a bonus not the piece to a missing puzzle.

My advice: don’t do it!! JUST KIDDING. my mom says, view marriage as an additional bonus to your life not as a completion . You’re an amazing complete woman on your own.” –pelucaazul

Beware the red flags.

“As someone going through a divorce: make a list of all the red flags (small and big) and play each one out and truly determine if any are problematic. The small red flags now always come back up later. Some can be worked on, some can be communicated through , but some are a sign of unsettled trauma/machismo/addictions/narcissism etc.”- _ashlyndarling

Keep up the dating game.

“Never stop dating each other!”-mariaelena34

If you’re getting advice about your life, get it from the right people.

“Its between you two!!! . Dont try to fit your relationship into stereotypical molds… what works for you may not be what other ppl say! Also, dont bad talk your boo even if you’re mad and frustrated. What you feed, grows. And always remember to flirt with your husband lik y’all still dating. And, if you turn to someone for advice, make sure they understand healthy marriages. Soooooo many ppl in the world giving advice but dont have a healthy successful marrige…. be open wi th your boo, be honest, nd hve fun! Best wishes&blessings – AH.”-autumnhype

Don’t compare yourself. It’s not a tit for tat game.

“Never compare yourself to other marriages or your parent’s marriage. Your marriage is whatever you want it to be and cultivate together, this is completely up to you and your spouse. This is the most freeing thing I have ever heard and made me appreciate my marriage more!”-cathrinemolstad

Don’t put up with behaviors or treatments within marriage that your instincts are telling you are wrong.

“Married 20 years and my best advice is to trust your instincts. In my marriage what has worked is respecting my partner and expecting that same level of respect, that reciprocity goes for kindness, compassion, patience, and forgiveness too. But, ultimately, this is big, don’t marry someone if your instincts are telling you it’s wrong, don’t put up with behaviors or treatments within marriage that your instincts are telling you are wrong, and don’t stay if those same instincts are telling you it’s wrong. You know you, what you want, need, can and can’t handle. That’s the voice to defer to – not your friends, society, or family. The union should bring you and the other person great personal growth. I realize that all sounds like a high bar and it is. People get and stay married, settling for far less than they should, because there is (or they perceive) external pressures to do so. Resist this. Marriage is not for everyone and not every partner is a commit your life partner. Finally, though, it’s 2020. Marriage isn’t irreversible. If it’s not working, that’s okay and don’t take it as a failure, but an awareness of your worth and growth.”-sheexistshere

Grow with each other.

“Grow with each other. Ive been with mine for 8 years (married 2). We started dating at 16 and 19, and man have times changed. If we didn’t make mistakes, keep each other accountable, help each other figure out what we each wanted to do, we won’t be together after all this time.” –danielaherreranyc

Communication is key

“Always communicate even if it sounds like something silly and always find time for each other no matter how busy your day can be.”-lauraelnasser