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These Selena-Themed Parties Will Inspire You To Rep La Reina On Your Next Birthday

It has been almost 24 years since the tragic death of our queen Selena on March 31, 1995. At the time of her untimely death, she was only 23 years old. During her short but eventful life, she became an icon for Mexican-Americans and Latinos all throughout the globe. She also helped bring genres such as tejano, cumbia, and grupero to mainstream American popular culture. Today, she is still an eternal icon and the epitome of what it means to be a contemporary Latina power player: generous, fearless and proud of her roots. 

Let’s leave sad memories behind and witness one of the ways in which Selena Quintanilla continues to be a source of inspiration and joy for millions. What better way to do it than showing you the lengths that Selena fans go through to honor their beloved singer in birthday parties! Yes, Selena-themed parties are still in and will never go out.

This birthday cake that looks like more like an altar to la reina del Texas.

We love the elegant arrangement in this cake. Selena looks ravishing in that picture, and the roses give an extra touch of nostalgia to the piece. It looks too pretty to eat, but we are sure it was delicioso

What about this fantastic recreation of one of Selena’s most iconic looks? 

Selena could rock basically any style, from grupero outfits to more rock-n-roll classics like leather jackets. This Insta user copied Selena’s look for the 1994 Tejano Music Awards and she did a great job. More on her party below.

Como la flor. Now, that is one chingón party desserts spread! 

This desserts table is a true homage to the late Grammy Award winner. Como la flor… one of the phrases most tightly attached to the great Miss Quintanilla. 

This woman has the best friends ever. They all played along with her Selena-themed cumple!

Does she look familiar? A woman called Arienne had an amazing party. Her friends dressed all in white, letting her shine in the stunning black outfit.  

Seriously, look at her smile… good for you, Arienne! 

She even looks a bit like Selena. It verges on the uncanny and a little unsettling. She should probably play Selena in the upcoming Netflix show.

Lipstick, purple sexiness and cookies. What better way to celebrate Latina power?

We are all over these sweet treats with the iconic purple outfit and the red lipstick. We are sure Selena would have approved. A que no puedes comer solo una

Ay Dios! These Selenitas son la onda.

OMG! These tiny Selenas are so cute and amazing. Good to know that these young Latinitas have such a great and empowering role model 🙂 

Little Aubrey is having the time of her life and it’s tots adorbs.

Look at this birthday girl. Seriously, she is so lucky her family has put so much effort into making her birthday dreams come true. 

We can’t even. This is so amazing and empowering.

One of Selena Quintanilla’s beliefs was that anyone can achieve their dreams, regardless of their particular skills. This birthday party just nos pone la piel chinita and reminds us that music is what brings us all together and that being different is amazing. Uniqueness is our most precious treasure. 

These centerpieces are magnificent, the little girl’s friends will all be ready to cumbia all morning.

Honestly, these centerpieces would look amazing at a wedding… if the bride is a Selena fan, why not? La novia manda. 

Pastelinos de Selena… para chuparse los dedos.

Purple glitter and a Selena cartoon that is cute as hell? Yes, please. Tbh, we are all feeling like we got cheated since we never had our own Selena-themed parties.

Or if you want something a bit more sophisticated, what about these?

But well, to be honest, these cupcakes are a bit more stylish and creative. They use the iconic belt, bra, red lips and red car that made Selena a brand of transcultural appeal. 

Eliana and her Selena bestie will make you jealous.

When you find a friend that shares your love for Selena and is willing to help you explore your fandom, you have struck friendship gold. 

Aw, bien tierno! This 7-year-old has a magnetic smile that reminds us of our fave Latina diva

What an amazing smile on this little diva so happy and sweet. We all know that feeling because we have all been that girl at our own birthday parties.

This rose is as big as her. *searches Pinterest for instructions on how to make it*

Roses will always remind us of Selena. This little chiquita de seis añitos is just loving her huge rose. Can we take home one of those gift bags, pretty please? Sing with us: 

Como la flor (como la flor), con tanto amor (con tanto amor)
Me diste tu, se marchito
Me marcho hoy, yo se perder
Pero, Aaaayyy! Como me duele
Aaaayyy! Como me duele

OK, then… this is… interesting…

Ay, santo Cristo! This is as funny as it it a bit disturbing. But we are sure these two were the talk of the party. What size is that bra anyway? ZZ? This couple must enjoy a fantastic amor, even if it is prohibido for any reason. 

Estamos muy excited about these balloons. Seriously.

Muy excited is one of Selena’s iconic phrases. These globitos look elegant and cute at the same time. If you are planning a Selena-themed party after reading this post, these can’t be missed. 

A Selena-themes party wouldn’t really be complete without a Selena piñata, o no?

Some stereotypes are true: us Latinos do love a good old-fashioned piñata, o no? This community party at Los Feliz had a great one with the now eternal purple conjuntito coqueto

We like this meticulous creation a bit better, though.

But to be honest we think this one is much better. Look at all the details, like those huge earrings and the belt. It takes real craftsmanship to pull that off! Little Vali must have been over the moon. 

But let’s talk about the elephant in the room. The one we really wanna use as a piñata is evil Yolanda.

But if we wanna sacar nuestra ira against someone, it is against Yolanda Saldivar… Dale dale dale, no pierdas el tino!

Last but not least, a good Selena-themed party requires some sequin bra shopping 

Want to organize a Selena-themed hen’s night? Well, take all your amigochas shopping and get sparkly bras to dance the tecnocumbia and just let yourselves loose in honor of our reina por siempre. Ready to partayyy? Sing with us.

READ: This Woman Had A Selena-Themed Party For Her Daughter’s Birthday And Our Hearts Can’t

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People Are Sharing Their Personal Experiences Of Feeling Shame Over Their Bisexuality And It’s Pretty Heartbreaking

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People Are Sharing Their Personal Experiences Of Feeling Shame Over Their Bisexuality And It’s Pretty Heartbreaking

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It’s no secret that more than most sexualities, the bisexual experience is often invalidated and largely stigmatized. Often times, people who are bisexual are forced to shoulder the social stigmas from partners, friends, and family who believe that they are hiding their homosexuality, are sexually promiscuous, and or more likely to spread sexually transmitted diseases.

Curious about the effects of the stereotypes, we scoured Reddit for personal experiences with the sense of shame some people feel attached to their bisexual identity.

Check out what we found in one thread below.

https://www.reddit.com/r/bisexual/comments/4r4ha4/does_anyone_else_feel_shame/

So, I’m bi and finding some videos on the youtubes about bisexuality and started watching videos of people saying being bi doesn’t exist. I also noticed on some apps like grindr and a few others who seemed to have a ‘problem’ with my being bi for some reason. Which makes me feel bad about being bi :c

“I was really insecure about my sexuality for a long time… I still kinda am but I’m mostly ok with it Now. Sometimes I even love it. I’m not really ashamed of it anymore, I’m just incredibly introverted and very private so I’m not open to most people about it. It took me several years to come to terms with my sexuality and accept myself and I still struggle with it sometimes. I used to wish I could just be straight. But now I feel like if there was something I could do to make myself straight, I wouldn’t do it.”-Strawbeerylemonade

“No I don’t feel bad about who I am. If someone doesn’t like me for who I am, I don’t want to date them.”- EnLaSxranko

“There is a lot of misconceptions about us in the gay and straight community. I don’t feel shame but I feel awkward. No matter who I choose to be with I feel I need to explain. I’m currently in an amazing opposite gender relationship with a queer woman who I adore and we encounter bi-phobia. Today I kissed her at Pride. We are in love and queer.
I hold my relationships with my male partners in high regard and will never be ashamed that I loved them (because of their gender). So like it or not, as queer people my love for my girlfriend will be political. oh well. I’m used to it and so is she.”- torontomammasboy

“Kinda. I find it embarrassing for some reason, kinda like if I had a skin condition or something. I actually came out to my parents yesterday and they haven’t disapproved or anything but I feel really weird that they know now. Kinda exposed feeling. It’s weird. I also get the whole shame part. I don’t want to be public about my same sex attractions in the sense that they are almost purely sexual in nature. I would probably not date a guy. I’m ashamed I have sexual feelings for men but really wouldn’t date them (I could do a BFF with benefits thing but it wouldn’t be romantic at all and I don’t think I’d ‘fall in love’).”- CompartmentalizeMyBi

“I’m 25 and am currently having my homophobic mother staying with me until she finds her own place. I’ve came out to her a couple of years ago, but she dismissed it as “foolishness” and has basically been in denial about it ever since. I basically have to tip-toe around her if I want to have another guy in my own apartment. That combined with my own internalized homophobia and biphobia makes it hard not to feel ashamed of my own attractions.” – acethunder21

“No I do not feel any shame. Mostly because I actually don’t give myself any label at all. And why I don’t give myself one is because honestly, I hate labels. For jobs, for relationships, for sexuality. It all is just not something I want to deal with. Now I’m not saying that any of the the labels you give yourself aren’t any real to you. You’re reality is just as personal to you, as mine is to me. And I don’t want to get in the way of how you want to live. And that’s how everyone should really treat each other about their sexuality. I’m nearly 17, (6 days from now) and male. I’m in love with my first, and 7-month boyfriend. A lot of my friends and family know this, and I didn’t feel any different coming out about it to them than when they did not know. When wondering about your sexuality, learn it like you would playing an rpg game. Go out and explore, and find what you like, and make it yours. Hopefully my tired 1:30 am rant meant something. Have a happy night and 4th if your in the good ol’ U.S. Of A like me.”-PopsOnTheRox

“I stopped giving a f*** about what people think eons ago. Opinions are like assholes, everyone has them. Yours is the only one that should matter to you. Make yourself proud and you’ll find people respect and admire it.”-StroppyMantra

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We Asked What Being Latino Meant To You And Your Responses Were Inspirational AF

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We Asked What Being Latino Meant To You And Your Responses Were Inspirational AF

What does being Latine mean to you? That’s the question that we asked our Instagram community and their responses really got us thinking.

There is so much to love about being Latino – from our community and our familia, to our cultura and our resilience, our drive to be better and work harder to reach not just our dreams, but the dreams of our pápis and our abuelos too. There is no single definition of what being Latino/Latina/Latine means, and, as expected, where we fall on the Latinidad spectrum varies depending on each one of us. That being said, there is no wrong way to be a Latino or to feel Latinidad, and we hope that these answers give you the courage to accept it, embrace it, and carry it proudly.

But first, the response that left our jaw on the floor:

“I consider myself Indigenous Latinx. I have a trilingual experience growing up with listening and speaking a mixture of Mixtec, Spanish and English #indigenouslatinx” – @jeanettejaguar.

Wow Jeanette! That is so beautiful, thank you for sharing with us. If you ever want to talk to us about your Mixtec cultura and your upbringing let us know, we’re all ears!

Being Latine means embracing the skin you’re in…

“Being a Latino means I’m beautifully brown.” – @pepelokz

“Means brown is beautiful! Was taught at a young age the girls who had brown skin, brown eyes, and brown hair like me were the prettiest. 💕” – @_cynnreneerose

…and not letting anyone tell you how you should or shouldn’t feel.

“It means being unapologetically brown and proud and not letting other oppress our culture and beliefs 👏🏽” – @_ottootto_

“always persevering and continuously learn about ones culture or cultures as to not repeat the same mistakes of the past! I’m a proud Mutt of Mexican born parents! Never have I denied my culture and being what I am I would gladly die fighting then on my knees ✊🏼🇲🇽” – @immanuel_rosa

Some people have trouble feeling accepted

“Ni de aquí, ni de allá” – @marcela.nog19

“Being a Latina is being unsure if it’s okay to claim being Latina. It means fear of being rejected by both cultures that make up my being. It means to laugh at myself as being white wash so that i can pretend it doesn’t hurt when I hear from family and friends around me. It means to constantly be looking for my roots because neither groups want to claim me.” – @miszjean

First of all, whoever made you feel like you weren’t enough is projecting their own beliefs onto you! You said it yourself, both cultures make up your being. You are not either/or, you are BOTH, and that’s something that’s within you, regardless of what other people have to say. Do whatever makes you feel more secure in your identity; if it’s not knowing enough about your cultura that you are self conscious of, all the knowledge in the world is just a Google search away. There’s always going to be people telling you what to do and how you should feel, but that’s their problem, you are supported and loved and you are accepted just the way you are, and if you don’t think so, keep reading to check out Ana Martinez’s answer a little further below.

“Well I feel like I am not living up the standards of being resilient. I am struggling to get my career or studies done, I just feel overwhelmed about the pressures of being an immigrant, disabled, and with chronic issues. I don’t know how my grandma did it coming from a indentured farming family to a businesswoman in her prime time in Mexico- considering that she was not a white woman or a criollo or from a rich family. I am very tired of fighting. I am exhausted. I don’t think I represent anything of Latinx/Latina/Latine, but my grandma DOES represent that. 🇲🇽🌻” – @pandapanda_26

It’s not fair for us to compare our obstacles and challenges to those of anyone else, especially our parents’ and abuelos’. Granted, sometimes it’s hard not to, especially when we consider the lives they led and the sacrifices they were forced to make along the way, but we’re never going to feel like what we do is enough if we’re always comparing ourselves to them. It’s hard not to feel intimidated when things seem to go wrong or when things get tough but mija, you’re doing amazing! Growth is hard and uncomfortable and sometimes we fall but the most important thing is that we pick ourselves up and keep going. That’s exactly what we saw when we read your response: someone who has overcome many challenges and is tired af but is still here, growing and learning and echandole ganas. Think about a time when you overcame something you thought you wouldn’t. See? You can do anything as long as you actually try, your abuelita’s blood is in you, and you cannot fail. *Sending you a big virtual hug*

There is so much of Latinidad to be proud of.

“Being super proud!” – @sarahi_rueda

“Being Latina means being proud of your culture, and being a princess and a warrior.” – @j98oo

“What being Latina means to me: you have the upmost knowledge and first hand experience of struggles( it be family, self, work) getting by just to stay afloat(financially, emotionally, physically) but most importantly the exposure and lessons embedded in us by our adult leaders(parents/ guardians/grandparents) in our life. But on the other side of that coins what makes us Latinas unique is beside all of the above we still are shown how to hard workers, humble, and resilient.” – @tati_rivas90

“It means I love to dance. It means family will always be the most important thing in the world to me. It means I might sound like a gringa to some pero the spanish comes out real quick when im angry, smitten by a cute dog, or in other situations I better not say. It means I belong to a group of people they act like they can’t see. It means I have to explain myself to my white boyfriend over and over again. It means every time I go back home to miami a part of me that’s always empty gets filled. It means vallenatos, mi abuelita, My finca in colombia, the navidades that can never be the same again ❤️” – @saraamayaaa

At the end of the day, remember that where we are born does not determine who we are.

“It means that just because we were born in the 🇺🇸.. being children of a Mexican immigrants… we are Latinos” – @anamartinez67

We hope that you are feeling just as inspired by these responses as we are.

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