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From Too Much Spit To Not Enough Heat, Latinas Dropped Truths On What It Was Like To Have Their First Kisses

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It’s the Summer and lately, we’ve been feeling a little romantic. It has us thinking about the sweltering heat, moonlit nights and someone special to spend it with. All this romantic energy has made us kinda nostalgic about our own love lives and those moments that made them memorable. Whether our first kiss was fun and casual or with the loves of our lives, they’re a part of who we are now. To celebrate these smooches, we asked Latinas to tell us about their first kiss.

Here’s what they had to say about these monumental first.

The kiss that was packed with a lot of peer pressure.

Teen Vogue

“For my first kiss, I was about 8 years old lol. My older cousin made me kiss a little boy while visiting our abuelo in Mexico. The little boy lived next door to my abuelo.

I apparently wasn’t ready to have my first kiss because I was super shy and I didn’t have a crush on the boy, I just felt a little pressured because my cousin was like, “Kiss him, kiss him.” So me and the little boy kissed in front of my cousin and his brother.

It was a little peck, but at that age it felt like I did something horrible. I remember later seeing my parents and going up to them and telling them right away that I kissed a boy because I felt so guilty. They told me that I was too young to be doing that. I, of course, didn’t rat out my cousin for pressuring me into it, but blamed myself more.

Eight years old… yup that’s way too young. Funny first kiss though lol. Now everytime I go visit my abuelo in Mexico, I look at the front of the house where I kissed the little boy and just laugh. ” — Jenny, Los Angeles

The kiss that started it all.

Girl’s Life

“I had my first kiss when I was 16 and it honestly felt like it would never come. I had a flirtation with a boy in my Algebra class so — on a whim — I invited him to a game night sponsored by one of our school’s clubs.

During the evening, he and I decided to take a walk together. It was nice but he kept stopping and staring at me. I’d later find out he was working up the nerve to kiss me but at the time I was a wreck! We didn’t kiss that night but I invited him to my house the following day. 

We were upstairs sitting side by side on the family room couch. It was so peaceful with just the two of us. Suddenly, my mom called us downstairs and totally ruined the mood! When we sat up, we turned to each other and both leaned in.

We kissed three times before nervously heading downstairs. I was totally in love! Seventeen years later, we’re married with three kids. I think my first kiss came exactly when it was meant to.” — Samantha, Houston

The kiss that was a playdate peck.

DailyMail

“I was 5 years old and he was my best friend. He was the son of my mom’s best friend, actually, and we were inseparable as little kids. One day, we were reading Sleeping Beauty and, in the end, they kiss and the princess wakes up. I don’t remember which one of us said it but we got the idea to try it. And we did!” — Irina

The kiss that was practice for the real thing.

Seventeen Magazine

“My first kiss was actually with a girl. My best friend and I had grown up together since we were 7 years old.

Because both of our parents worked we spent a lot of time over at each others houses being ‘watched’ by our older siblings or baby sisters. Most of the time that including the older caretakers flipping on the TV and having us watch it while it watched us for them. So, many of our hours in the summer were spent watching tv shows and movies that were romantic in nature.

When we 13 years old we watched ‘Wild Things’ and realized that we could practice for our first kisses on each other. TBH it was a sweet, non-sexual exchange between friends. And we still are to this day.” —Ana, Brooklyn

The kiss that was twenty years in the making.

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“I had a crush on this boy for years in grade school who I had known since we were four. I was a very late bloomer when it came to sexual experiences because I grew up in a very sheltered household. So, by the time I was in college and 20 years old I was pretty convinced it would never happen to me.

Finally, I went out to a party with friends and saw my former crush from elementary school. We caught each other early on in the night and later in the evening after a few drinks saw each other again. While we were catching up outside of the party he kissed me.

It was such a relief at the time, but pretty heartbreaking later when I realized most people in college just go around kissing people for fun and it doesn’t mean anything! Haha!” — Gabby, Texas

The kiss that never should have happened.

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“My first kiss was from an uncle who was a complete pervert. I don’t really like to talk about it and normally when people ask me this question I just say that it was from the second person who ever kissed me.” —Anonymous

The kiss that exceeded all the hype.

Mid-day.com

“I think by the time I got around to getting my first kiss, so many of my friends had assured me that it was no big deal, and it would be nothing special. I think that that’s why when it finally came around it felt truly special and intimate.

At the time, I was in a church group during the summer when I was 15 and had liked a boy in my class called Mateo. He told my friends during a break that he wanted to kiss me one week and I had been so scared, even though I liked him, that I just avoided him. My heart would beat so fast every time we were around each other.

Finally after what felt like years but was probably just a couple of weeks I told him that I liked him and wanted to kiss him too. He kissed me outside under a tree. It was very sweet.” — Veronica, Chicago

‘My Mom Insisted My Hips Changed’ Latinas Talk About Their Moms Finding Out They Had Sex For The First Time

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‘My Mom Insisted My Hips Changed’ Latinas Talk About Their Moms Finding Out They Had Sex For The First Time

There comes a time in a young woman’s life when she has to venture out into the world and experience everything out there that the world has to offer. And yes, “everything” includes sex. And while sex is a totally natural and expected step in a young woman’s coming-of-age journey, the Latinx community often holds notoriously conservative views about when it’s “okay” for a young woman to have sex for the first time.

This conservative attitude towards woman and sex is nowhere more prominent than it is in the minds of Latinx mothers. Many Latinx moms, especially from older generations, have been trained to believe that a young woman’s worth is tied to her virginity and that it’s a sin to have sex out of wedlock. This attitude makes it hard for girls to talk to their parents about sex, which means a large portion of the Latina population is uneducated about STIs, unwanted pregnancy, contraception, and how being sexually active can impact your emotions. Because of the shame surrounding extramarital sex in the Latinx community, many young women hide the fact that they’ve been having sex from their mothers in order to avoid conflict or avoid being shamed.

That’s why Fierce by mitú took to our Instagram page to ask our followers how their madres reacted when they found out their daughters were no longer virgins. We also wanted to know if our followers decided to keep their virginity statuses to themselves.

Check out the answers below!

1. This mom’s nosiness gave her more than she bargained for

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“My mom found out I was having sex when I was 23 years old and she found my birth control (cringe!). This is a pretty common story I share with a lot of my friends but the way my mom found out was pretty mortifying. My novio, who I have been dating since I was 14 and who she has known for as many years, was over at the house. Because my mom has always been very nosey and a helicopter mom I would give him my birth control for safe keeping (For so many reasons Don’t DO THIS!!) Anyway. The birth control fell out of his bag and my mom flipped out. Any other scenario, had I hid it in a closet or sock drawer she would have found out sooner but I probably could have convinced her it was just for acne.” – Veronica, Chicago

2. This mama read between the lines and stayed silent

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“I kind of had to fess up to my mom because I was moving in with my boyfriend. She’d been asking me since we started dating if I was using protection over and over again and I was too embarrassed to even say that we were having sex. I finally just told her that I was moving in with him and I think she got the deal.” Kathryn, Los Angeles

3. This mom insisted she could tell by just LOOKING at her daughter

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“I told my mom years after, but she swears she knew the night I came home that it happened. I’m like c’mon, Mom. No way did you know. But, you know how they are–they know EVERYTHING.” – Laney, San Bernadino

4. The old “hyper-emotional” reaction

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“My mom cried so so hard and then instantly got mad at me and gave me the silent treatment. She also claimed she “knew” that I wasn’t anymore anyhow ’cause I “started talking back”. But, I was 21 at that point!” – Yvette

5. The mom who doesn’t know…but c’mon: she knows

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“To [my mom] I’m still [a virgin] ’till I’m married….Nahhh I think she probably suspects I’m not by now”. – Connie, Southern California

6. The mom who lives in blissful ignorance

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“I’m 30 years old and still haven’t told my mom. At this point she’s gotta suspect I’m not [a virgin]. But at least I waited until I was 19!” Anna, Chicago

7. The Suffocating Silence

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“Literally my current situation, lol. I want to tell her but, I’m afraid of her reaction. I don’t think she’ll be mad, but I really would hate for her to cry about it. Send help!” Darlene, Riverside

8. The “Live Your Life” Type of Mom

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“I keep it to myself, but I’m pretty sure she knows me better. 😉 ” – Belle, Puerto Rico

9. The “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” Policy

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“She never asked and I never told her… but for what it’s worth, I waited till I was at least 18.” Tania, Los Angeles

10. The Mom Who Tries and Fails to Guilt Trip

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“She said: ‘Why didnt [you] wait ’till marriage like [I] told over and over again?’. So, I said: “Who said I’ll ever get married?” Lizet, Bakersfield, CA

11. This mom who started crying when she walked in on the act

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“I had skipped school to lose my virginity to my high school boyfriend. We had planned it out so that I would play sick and he would skip school and do it when my parents were out of the house. They boy work long hours so we figured we had some time. The actual act went well, but literally just as we finished we heard my front door open. No snuggling. We both jumped up to hide. I’ve always thought it took maybe 30 steps to get from my front door to my room, my mom took five. My boyfriend ducked out of the bathroom and somehow my mom got to the front of the house to confront him. I mean he had no shirt on and was pulling him his pants. She knew. She knew so much she cried.”  Ana, Austin, TX

13 Lessons About Love From ‘Teresa’ You Should Definitely Copy/Paste If You Want Your Life To Turn Into A Dumpster Fire

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13 Lessons About Love From ‘Teresa’ You Should Definitely Copy/Paste If You Want Your Life To Turn Into A Dumpster Fire

It’s long been established that we have an undying love for telenovelas. In fact, they’ve taught us so many important life lessons over the years. While we will always be eternally grateful for what they’ve taught us, some lessons haven’t been as accurate as others. Especially when it comes to L-O-V-E.

We’re sad to say that the topic of amor is totally misrepresented in novelas. While that may make them all the more interesting, it also means that it’s misguided us once or twice in the love department. However, our loss is your gain because now we can share with you all the unrealistic love lessons we’ve learned from telenovelas. Hopefully, they will help guide you down the right path in your own adventures with romance.

1. Be careful who you’re kissing. It could be an evil twin.

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Have you ever noticed that telenovelas are just full of twins? Living in a world where almost everyone has an evil doppelganger has to make dating extra hard. What’s stopping them from switching places with the good twin whenever they want?  Next time you go in for a kiss with your significant other, make sure to double check that it’s really them. Look for mysterious birthmarks or mustaches. Those are a dead giveaway for evil twins.

2. If you’re not feeling the relationship, you can always fake your own death.

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Have you ever been in a relationship and realized it was a mistake? You could do the grown-up thing and sit your significant other down to have an amicable breakup but where’s the drama in that. Telenovelas teach us that the proper way to approach this is to just completely ghost which can be pretty drastic if you ask us. If you DO follow telenovela advice and plan to fake your own death, don’t show up to your funeral. That’s a rookie mistake.

3. Love triangles are something you need to worry about.

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Torn between two lovers? You might be in the middle of a novela and not even realize it. Telenovelas have taught us that at some point in our lives there will be two people passionately in love with us and we will have to choose between them. If you’re single now, this might give you some hope but we wouldn’t hold our breath. Real life usually isn’t as gracious with the love interests as novelas are.

4. Cheating is to be expected.

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If you are stuck between two lovers, it’s no big deal. Novelas have taught us that cheating is just part of love. Hopefully, you don’t take this lesson to heart because cheating is actually a really gross thing to do. Additionally, being cheated on is the worst. This is one lesson we are happy to leave in the novelas.

5. All conflicts can be resolved with an intense kiss.

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Chances are, if you rush up to a significant other during an argument and try to kiss them, things might not go as well as they do in the novelas. In these stories, a fiery kiss is all that is needed to end any conflict. In the real world, not so much. Use your mouth to talk it out before you move onto the smooching. Your relationship will work better that way.

6. There will always be a jealous former lover in the picture to mess things up.

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Things are going perfect. You have someone who you love and who loves you back and the rest of your life is just as together as your romance. However, lurking in the shadows in them: that devious ex who is just waiting to trip up your happiness. Not to say this never happens in the real world but usually, we don’t have to live in a state of paranoia over our exes. That business belongs in the past and in the novelas.

7. Your makeup will always look flawless no matter what.

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Have you just had an intense make-out session? We can’t tell because your makeup looks flawless. Just been dumped and have been crying your heart out? Your perfect face says otherwise. In telenovelas, ladies look flawless no matter what is happening in their lives. We would love this to be true because it would save a ton of time primping every morning but, alas, this is strictly a novela teaching.

8. A rich man and/or member of royalty is totally going to fall in love with you.

Twitter / @michinitwo

You are a poor girl who worked on your family’s alpaca farm and he is an undercover South America prince who falls in love with you. He whisks you away — despite objections from his family — and you live the rest of your life as a princess. Yeah right. If only it was that easy.

9. Be careful of that new novio. He might just be your long, lost half brother.

Twitter / @Alkhan_bh

Your parents had a whole life before they had you and who knows what they got up to during that time. If you go off of telenovelas, that cute guy you’ve been texting might just be your long, lost half brother. No amount of therapy can make you unsee his nudes so let’s thank goodness that real life isn’t as traumatic as novelas can be.

10. You’ll probably leave someone at the altar. That is if you don’t get left yourself.

Instagram / @fofoquente_

Marriage is a big deal but the chances that you’ll actually go through with your wedding is pretty low if you’re in a novela. Will you leave your fiance at the altar? Will they leave you? Maybe it will be a double runaway situation and neither of you will show. All we know is that weddings cost a lot of money so you might want to think it over before booking the DJ.

11. Prepare to be betrayed by your best friend.

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Your best friend may be your ride or die but they are the first person you should be suspicious of if you’re in a novela. Are they plotting against you? Trying to steal your man? Trying to steal your job? Pump the breaks on the paranoia. Hopefully, your real life isn’t as dramatic as a novela because you deserve a BFF you can trust.

12. There will be a controversial pregnancy.

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If we were only following what we’ve learned from novelas, we’d expect a controversial pregnancy any moment now. Hopefully, we can avoid paternity tests, babies switched at birth and life-threatening pregnancies in our real life because novelas make that look way too stressful.

13. Love conquers all.

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Not to be cynical but this is an important lesson that novelas get wrong. Sometimes love isn’t enough. For a relationship to work, it also takes compromise, communication, sacrifice, and understanding. Only then can love flourish and bloom the way we see it do on telenovelas. We all want that novela romance but, in the real world, it takes a little work. Still, it’s well worth it.

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