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Latinos Are Not Shy About Being Out, Loud And Proud Because It’s Always Pride In Our Hearts

Being part of the LGBTQ community is hard in itself. There are societal pressures and a recent spike in hate crimes committed against the LGBTQ community. Being queer and a Latino brings another set of issues that so many people never have to deal with. There is deep-seeded anti-LGBTQ sentiment within the Latino community connected to machismo that still needs to be dealt with.

However, one thing queer people know is that you have to be out, loud and proud when it is safe to do so. It changes people’s perception of the community when they know someone who is LGBTQ. It becomes personal and helps the community strive. Here are some Latinos who are proud to be part of the LGBTQ community and they are not hiding it.

Queen Sara Ramirez offered support lines for what can be a very difficult, or very cathartic day for folks.

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Coming out is the most intense and nerve-wracking day for anyone trying to live their authentic self. What if my parents don’t accept me? What if my friends stop talking to me? It is a scary time and people some times need help outside of their immediate friends group.

LGBTQ people are sharing their PDA everywhere they can on the internet.

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I’m here for this. It’s unreal that gay PDA was stigmatized on television and movies as recently as five years ago. Remember when that petition went around to get Cam and Mitch to kiss on screen on “Modern Family”? We’ve made strides but there is still so far to go.

“One Day at a Time” writers gave LGBTQ Latinos a chance to see themselves represented on television in a non-stereotypical fashion.

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It is one of the few times we have seen a Latino family coming together to support an LGBTQ person on their family on television. It is a sweet reminder that Latino families just love their families.

Fun fact: Puerto Rico ranks higher than the U.S. on Spartacus’ Safety Travel Index.

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They have more laws on the books to protect trans people than the U.S. This is easy to do because the United States has *zero* laws that protect trans people from discrimination.

Seeing queer Latinos all over the internet as a normal couple goes a long way.

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Representation is so important for people living in a marginalized community. Queer Latinos have long been over dramatized in the media and it gives an unreal expectation of what it means to have a queer famiy member.

There are times when humor is the best way to go about coming out.

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“Oh, hi mami, I’m just bingeing this really great show, “The L Word” because I don’t like men. Want to watch it with me? Want to hear my favorite characters?”

If you’ve got it, flaunt it.

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The pride wear is real. Most of us go all out for pride… and also #NationalComingOutDay. Peep Latina owned TomboyX for queer-friendly, everybody-friendly underwear. Yes, some of the waistbands are rainbow. ????

What we know on the other side:

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Once I accepted who I was and was out to the world, I assumed my family would disown me once I told them. A whole year later, I told them and it was a mixed bag. Whatever your fears are, they’re much bigger than the reality. Come out in your own time. You’ll know when you’re ready.

Yep, anyone who was paying attention could have called it.

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As Latinos, we thrive in the art of denial and we learn it from the best. So what if I played rugby all through high school and talked about my “girl crushes.”

They will ignore you until you start shining rainbows out your ears. Don’t expect them to willingly take the hint.

Bad Bunny is almost definitely the present day crush for all genders.

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Yes to these glasses, yes to this attitude. You don’t have to come out as anything other than queer. I mean, we all know by now that gender is a construct with infinite expressions across the spectrum so why name just one, or two, or three if you’re attracted to more?

Everyone has a ‘song’ or artist crush.

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I was in love with Avril Lavigne growing up, hbu? My Christian elementary school told me she was a sinner and then I fell harder.

Some Latinos repped for Jesus.

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I mean, personally, I’m forever scarred by the Catholic Church and my homophobic father, but I  ???????? am ???????? here ???????? for ???????? you. We need more people willing to open LGBT youth with loving arms in every corner of the world.

Other people repped themselves. ✌????

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Also, very cool, mijx. There is nothing better than living your truth regardless of people’s perceptions.

We can’t forget to shine some light on our bi friends and family.

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Bisexuals make up the vast majority of the LGBT community and yet have some of the worst stigmas. The more folks own it with pride, the stronger the community. Vale.

There’s nothing like celebrating your coming out anniversary.

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Every year there is a whole new set of feelings around it, verdad? You look back at how your life looked and how you felt a year ago and see the evolution. It’s something worth celebrating.

The glo up is self-evident and ever glowing!

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Ever looked back on photos of yourself when you were still trying to perform to fit in? Only do this around Halloween because there is no other appropriate time for it.

Some of us called out white-washing when we see it.

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The organization actually does an incredible job of representing the diverse LGBT community. Check their feed and check their apoyo of Emma Gonzalez.

Organizations that offer mentorships can be so important for people who can’t come out to their families.

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We all remember whatever periods of time we acted straight or used “they” pronouns to describe our significant other. Going home to the family in those days sucked. There’s a light at the end of the tunnel, friend.

TBH, not everyone has a hard coming out story.

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I’m not saying that this guy didn’t struggle. I hope he didn’t. I hope that one day, nobody feels strange and alone in a hetero world. Times are changing.

READ: Here Are 11 LGBTQ Latinos Who Will Make You Proud To Say You Are Part Of The Same Community

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Armed Police In Tulum Arrested A Gay Couple For Allegedly Kissing On The Beach

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Armed Police In Tulum Arrested A Gay Couple For Allegedly Kissing On The Beach

Despite the COVID-19 pandemic, Mexico has remained a popular tourist destination as people seek out places with fewer restrictions. However, Mexico’s popular beach destination of Tulum apparently still has some restrictions – for LGBTQ folks – that the police are quick to enforce.

A Canadian couple was briefly detained by police for allegedly kissing on the beach.

Police in the popular resort town of Tulum, about 90-minutes south of Cancun, briefly arrested a gay couple for kissing in public on a beach, alleging that the couple was not allowed to kiss in public because children were present.

According to local media reports, police said they were reacting to a report by someone else on the beach who had claimed that the men were “committing immoral acts.”

The couple were handcuffed together and ordered in to the back of a patrol vehicle until a crowd of onlookers formed and began to shout disapprovingly at police after one of the men explained to the crowd why they were being detained.

Outraged bystanders gathered around the couple and urged the police to let the men go.

The crowd began shouting in support of the couple, calling the actions homophobic and demanding the couple’s release.

The pressure from the crowd apparently prompted officers to release the men after a few minutes of dialogue. The presence of Escalante herself might also have been a factor.

In response to the arrest, Quintana Roo Tulum Police said: ‘We are an inclusive and impartial police both for residents and tourists who visit the state of Quintana Roo. So no abuse of authority will be tolerated.’

Video of the incident quickly went viral on social media with outrage being the common reaction.

Video and photos of the arrest went viral after on social media accounts, including that of local politician Maritza Escalante Morales, who denounced the actions of the officers. Escalante happened to be at the beach with her family when she noticed the officers approach the couple, she said, and joined the crowd to advocate for the couple’s release.

“I want to file a PUBLIC COMPLAINT, because the treatment and type of authorities we have in our municipality is inexcusable. Yesterday while I was on the beach with my family, we noticed around 4:30 that 2 police squads in their ATVs approached a group of young foreigners. After about 20 minutes, a patrol arrived and proceeded to arrest them with handcuffs,” she explained on TikTok.

“The policemen were VIOLENT,” Morales added, “and gave arguments such as ‘there are families and children and they cannot be seeing this. I am FURIOUS because it is not possible that in the XXI century this type of oppression against the LGBT+ community continues. We all deserve the same treatment, and appropriate sanctions must be applied to these authorities.”

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Kehlani Dresses as Both Prom King and Queen on Cover of ‘Playboy’, Talks Feeling Comfortable in Both Gender Roles

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Kehlani Dresses as Both Prom King and Queen on Cover of ‘Playboy’, Talks Feeling Comfortable in Both Gender Roles

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Kehlani has long been open about the fluid nature of her gender expression. That’s why it’s exciting that the R&B star is experimenting with different facets of her personality on the most recent cover of Playboy.

In a bold move, Kehlani appears on Playboy‘s latest cover dressed in both (traditionally) women and (traditionally) men’s clothing.

And as if one Kehlani isn’t exciting enough, the magazine cover treats us to two versions of this Oakland native. On the left side of the magazine, Kehlani is dressed up as a Prom Queen, complete with a resplendent gown and a tiara. On the cover’s right side, Kehlani is dressed in Prom King drag: her tie undone, her collar open, her crown askew.

She shared the picture to her personal Instagram page with the cheeky caption: “I always wanted to date me.”

In the accompanying interview, Kehlani talks about gender identity and expression, motherhood, and owning her sexuality.

When Kehlani was asked how she defines masculinity and femininity, Kehlani got refreshingly candid. “I’ve discovered that I’ve run from a lot of femininity,” she admitted. “I was way more comfortable in a more masculine space. I feel more masculine when I am in my stillness and I’m grounded in a quiet, contemplative mode.”

She then explained that she feels “most feminine” when she’s “being the mother of my house.” (Kehlani had a baby girl named Adeya Nomi in 2019). She also explained that she “feels her femininity” when she ‘s indulging in self-care, like soaking in a flower-filled bath, or doing a hair mask.

“My femininity makes me feel soft and gentle and tender and careful in a different way than my masculinity makes me feel,” she said. “I’m trying not to let it fall into the gender norms of feminine and masculine, but for me it does a tiny bit. But I also am very fluid in both of those settings.”

Kehlani has always been open about her fluid sexuality and gender identity.

In 2018, she tweeted: “Not bi, not straight. I’m attracted to women, men, REALLY attracted to queer men, non-binary people, intersex people, trans people”.

But of course, haters on the internet accused her of “queer-baiting”–that is, pretending she’s queer to get more LGBT fans and attract attention. In an interview with The Guardian last year, she revealed why the accusation frustrates her.

“I’ve had girlfriends in front of people’s faces, right under their noses, and they weren’t famous and so nobody cared to make it public,” she said. “So they automatically assume that I must like men more than women.”

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