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Latinos Are Not Shy About Being Out, Loud And Proud Because It’s Always Pride In Our Hearts

Being part of the LGBTQ community is hard in itself. There are societal pressures and a recent spike in hate crimes committed against the LGBTQ community. Being queer and a Latino brings another set of issues that so many people never have to deal with. There is deep-seeded anti-LGBTQ sentiment within the Latino community connected to machismo that still needs to be dealt with.

However, one thing queer people know is that you have to be out, loud and proud when it is safe to do so. It changes people’s perception of the community when they know someone who is LGBTQ. It becomes personal and helps the community strive. Here are some Latinos who are proud to be part of the LGBTQ community and they are not hiding it.

Queen Sara Ramirez offered support lines for what can be a very difficult, or very cathartic day for folks.

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Coming out is the most intense and nerve-wracking day for anyone trying to live their authentic self. What if my parents don’t accept me? What if my friends stop talking to me? It is a scary time and people some times need help outside of their immediate friends group.

LGBTQ people are sharing their PDA everywhere they can on the internet.

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I’m here for this. It’s unreal that gay PDA was stigmatized on television and movies as recently as five years ago. Remember when that petition went around to get Cam and Mitch to kiss on screen on “Modern Family”? We’ve made strides but there is still so far to go.

“One Day at a Time” writers gave LGBTQ Latinos a chance to see themselves represented on television in a non-stereotypical fashion.

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It is one of the few times we have seen a Latino family coming together to support an LGBTQ person on their family on television. It is a sweet reminder that Latino families just love their families.

Fun fact: Puerto Rico ranks higher than the U.S. on Spartacus’ Safety Travel Index.

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They have more laws on the books to protect trans people than the U.S. This is easy to do because the United States has *zero* laws that protect trans people from discrimination.

Seeing queer Latinos all over the internet as a normal couple goes a long way.

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Representation is so important for people living in a marginalized community. Queer Latinos have long been over dramatized in the media and it gives an unreal expectation of what it means to have a queer famiy member.

There are times when humor is the best way to go about coming out.

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“Oh, hi mami, I’m just bingeing this really great show, “The L Word” because I don’t like men. Want to watch it with me? Want to hear my favorite characters?”

If you’ve got it, flaunt it.

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The pride wear is real. Most of us go all out for pride… and also #NationalComingOutDay. Peep Latina owned TomboyX for queer-friendly, everybody-friendly underwear. Yes, some of the waistbands are rainbow. ????

What we know on the other side:

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Once I accepted who I was and was out to the world, I assumed my family would disown me once I told them. A whole year later, I told them and it was a mixed bag. Whatever your fears are, they’re much bigger than the reality. Come out in your own time. You’ll know when you’re ready.

Yep, anyone who was paying attention could have called it.

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As Latinos, we thrive in the art of denial and we learn it from the best. So what if I played rugby all through high school and talked about my “girl crushes.”

They will ignore you until you start shining rainbows out your ears. Don’t expect them to willingly take the hint.

Bad Bunny is almost definitely the present day crush for all genders.

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Yes to these glasses, yes to this attitude. You don’t have to come out as anything other than queer. I mean, we all know by now that gender is a construct with infinite expressions across the spectrum so why name just one, or two, or three if you’re attracted to more?

Everyone has a ‘song’ or artist crush.

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I was in love with Avril Lavigne growing up, hbu? My Christian elementary school told me she was a sinner and then I fell harder.

Some Latinos repped for Jesus.

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I mean, personally, I’m forever scarred by the Catholic Church and my homophobic father, but I  ???????? am ???????? here ???????? for ???????? you. We need more people willing to open LGBT youth with loving arms in every corner of the world.

Other people repped themselves. ✌????

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Also, very cool, mijx. There is nothing better than living your truth regardless of people’s perceptions.

We can’t forget to shine some light on our bi friends and family.

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Bisexuals make up the vast majority of the LGBT community and yet have some of the worst stigmas. The more folks own it with pride, the stronger the community. Vale.

There’s nothing like celebrating your coming out anniversary.

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Every year there is a whole new set of feelings around it, verdad? You look back at how your life looked and how you felt a year ago and see the evolution. It’s something worth celebrating.

The glo up is self-evident and ever glowing!

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Ever looked back on photos of yourself when you were still trying to perform to fit in? Only do this around Halloween because there is no other appropriate time for it.

Some of us called out white-washing when we see it.

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The organization actually does an incredible job of representing the diverse LGBT community. Check their feed and check their apoyo of Emma Gonzalez.

Organizations that offer mentorships can be so important for people who can’t come out to their families.

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We all remember whatever periods of time we acted straight or used “they” pronouns to describe our significant other. Going home to the family in those days sucked. There’s a light at the end of the tunnel, friend.

TBH, not everyone has a hard coming out story.

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I’m not saying that this guy didn’t struggle. I hope he didn’t. I hope that one day, nobody feels strange and alone in a hetero world. Times are changing.

READ: Here Are 11 LGBTQ Latinos Who Will Make You Proud To Say You Are Part Of The Same Community

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Lauren Jauregui Says That the Imaginary Relationship That Fans Invented Between Her and Camila Cabello Was ‘Traumatizing’

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Lauren Jauregui Says That the Imaginary Relationship That Fans Invented Between Her and Camila Cabello Was ‘Traumatizing’

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Former Fifth Harmony member Lauren Jauregui is opening up about a traumatic time in her life that affects the way she approaches romantic relationships to this day.

On Becky G‘s En La Sala podcast, Jauregui revealed that the imaginary relationships that fans “shipped” between her and Camila Cabello made her “disgustingly uncomfortable”.

As a background, “shipping” is an internet phenomenon in which fans want two people (either real or imagined) to get together in a romantic relationship. On the internet, “shipping” usually consists of fans producing art or other creative works to support their imagined storyline.

Jauregui and Cabello were the centerpiece of such a fandom. Fans even had an imagined portmanteau for the duo: “Camren”. Fans would interpret everything–a stray glance, a lingering hug, them dancing on stage together–as evidence that they were secretly dating. But the two women were never in a romantic relationship.

Jauregui–who now identifies as bisexual–explained that the rumors upset her so much for a myriad of reasons. First, she didn’t have romantic feelings towards Cabello. “Camila and I were just very good friends at that time,” she explained to Becky G. “And we respected each other. When each other would talk, we would look at each other. We had love for each other. Like, genuine friendship.”

Number two, Jauregui was aware that Cabello was not queer, and that fact further complicated things.

“It made me feel like a predator,” she said. “Because of the type of clips people would put together and the type of stories people would write and the type of stuff–I was always the aggressor and I was always the one turning her. I was always the one who was the ‘masculine’ energy in the scenario and it made me very uncomfortable because that is not how I identify.”

Jauregui also explains that the rumors were hard for her because, at the time, she wasn’t ready to come out publicly. “I wasn’t even comfortable with telling my parents about it,” she said. “I wasn’t even comfortable telling myself that I was queer.”

All of the speculation around her relationship with Cabello had lasting effects on her confidence with women.

“To this day I have an issue flirting with girls because I don’t want to make them think that I’m trying to invade or anything like that,” she revealed.

Jauregui went on to say that she doesn’t usually talk about that time of her life in public because it was “so traumatizing” for her. “I just chose to ignore it at a certain point, because getting angry to [those fans] would mean that it was real and validated it more for them. So I was like, okay, then I can’t get angry or defend myself, apparently, because that just makes it more real [for them]. It just really f—– with my head.”

Lauren Jauregui’s revelation is just another example of how fans can sometimes forget that celebrities are people too. Unfortunately, Jauregui experienced trauma at the hands of people who probably thought the entire thing was just fun and games.

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Gloria Estefan Shares Her ‘Shocking’ Reaction To Her Daughter Coming Out

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Gloria Estefan Shares Her ‘Shocking’ Reaction To Her Daughter Coming Out

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The Estefans’ Red Table Talk is officially here and queer!

So get used to it!

The beloved Cuban singer and her family hosted their second episode of the Facebook Watch series Red Table Talk: The Estefans. Things got real real as she, her daughter Emily Estefan and niece Lili Estefan sat down for a raw and honest conversation about their lives and relationships.

In the second episode of ‘Red Table Talk: The Estefans‘ titled, “Emily’s Coming Out Story,” the family revealed that Gloria was shocked to learn that her “miracle baby” was queer.

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Speaking frankly, Gloria explained that her initial reaction to her daughter’s coming out was to dissuade her from telling her grandmother the truth. According to Gloria, she feared that her own mother would die from the news about Emily.

“I came out to my parents like in 2017. But as you’ll see on the show, I think they knew way before that,” Emily, who is 25-years-old Entertainment Weekly in an interview. “What I’m most excited about in this episode is the complexity of it all. I wouldn’t be doing anybody justice if I went up there and lied and said that it was easy or that there weren’t complex emotions involved, even though my mom has been such a fierce supporter of the LGBTQ community. Everybody has a perspective. And as human beings, we’re always trying to be understood instead of understanding. As you’ll see in the clip, it was difficult for me to hear that. No matter under any perspective, those words were difficult to hear.”

Sadly, Emily never had the chance to share this part of her identity with her grandmother, Gloria Fajardo.

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Fajardo passed away in 2017 before Emily had the chance to come out to her. It is unknown whether she knew of her sexual orientation before she passed away.

“That is one of my biggest unanswered questions that I will live the rest of my life with,” Emily explained “Many of the people around me that love me have told me they knew. But in my heart, my grandmother and I were so close but I’m really not sure. But that’s part of life too — you don’t get every answer that you want. I’m also learning that regrets are a waste of time. But I’m still on that journey. A few years ago, I would’ve never imagined that we’d be talking about this as I’m about to release an episode where I say things I’ve not even told family members of mine. I’m still growing and learning.”

In the latest episode of the Red Table Talk, Gloria explains that Emily became known as her “miracle baby” after she was conceived following a devastating tour bus accident in 1990.

At the time, Estefan’s doctors told her she would not be able to concieve more children. At the time, Gloria and her husband, Emilio Estefan, already had their son, Nayib Estefan. Nayib is 15 years older than his sister Emily.

In the latest interview, Emily talks about the pressures of having to live up to the concept of a “perfect daughter” that had been projected onto her by media outlets. She also addresses how she became the target of tabloid fodder in Spanish-language media after her relationship with Gemeny Hernandez was revealed.

“My parents would tell me all the time that we all have to earn respect, which I totally understand and fully agree with,” Emily explained of her experiences growing up in the spotlight. “Life is difficult and you don’t know what people’s intentions are all the time. When my dad started dating my mom, my grandma would slam the door in his face! My parents never exhibited anything extreme like that when it came to my relationships, but they would remind me what their courtship was like. I would let them know that we’re going through similar things, but in different colors. Life is about repetition and trying to pick up new things along the way. My grandma came from a time where she didn’t go on a date with my grandpa until they had their marriage certificate, and even then her mom was chaperoning them. They didn’t kiss until they were married.”

Emily revealed that she and her girlfriend Gemeny have been together for almost four years now and that she has been welcomed as part of the Estefan family.

“Family dynamics are hard, no matter what,” Emily went onto share. “Gem is one of those people who is like a mirror: She came into my life and showed me my truth. Sometimes that’s not beautiful, but that’s what love is. It’s not beauty or dates or romance all the time, but all of the things that come with love. I’m really young, but I feel that having her by my side has made me truly understand what a loving, adult relationship is like. That’s why it’s been so easy for me to fight this fight and speak my truth, because it’s all worth it. She helped me be brave. Now she has a relationship with my family which is the incredible part and can maybe be explored in season 2? Having her come to sit at the table and talk about those dynamics. Everybody loves each other, but as I said, love isn’t easy. And you know what it’s like being a part of a Latino family. The baby starts dating somebody, even if it’s Mickey Mouse, they still wouldn’t think he’s good enough!”

The second episode of the Estefan’s Red Table Talk, “Emily’s Coming Out Story,” debuted this past Wednesday, Oct. 14, at noon ET on Facebook Watch.

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