You know darn well that if you try to ask your Latino parents to buy you some Lunchables for school, the answer will be NO. Instead you’ll get a response like, “¿Si te puedo preparar comida en la casa porque voy a gastar $5 en estas ch*ngaderas?”
So instead of Lunchables, this is what you got for your school lunch…
Thinking of asking your mom to buy you some pepperoni pizza Lunchables? Think again.
CREDIT: @GEORGE DAVID SWEATMAN / @ALMA MARQUEZ / FACEBOOK
She should make a DIY-tutorial on this.
And if you also want to try asking for a fancy, overpriced lunch bag, this is what you get instead:
CREDIT: @CLAUDIA PAREDES / FACEBOOK
This mom has some topnotch drawing skills.
Your fancy lunch bags are substituted with paper bags, plastic wrap, aluminum foil, recycled grocery bags, and of course butter containers as tupperware.
CREDIT: @OLIVIA DOPE / TWITTER / @MARIAELENA JOHNSON / FACEBOOK
You just have to cross your fingers and hope that your mom doesn’t accidentally pack you an actual container with butter, rather than your lunch.
On mornings that you’re running late to school, you can expect to have one of your mom’s quick n’ easy sandwiches for lunch.
CREDIT: @SIL FLORES-FRANKLIN / FACEBOOK
And if you’re in a huge rush, then those salchichas won’t even be cooked.
Very quick n’ easy…
CREDIT: @BILLY TAN / @TAMARA BARBOSA / FACEBOOK
Doesn’t get any easier than Spam and Cheez Whiz.
And for a snack, there’s no way your mom is sending you with a greasy bag of chips. She makes sure you have something healthy, natural and organic to eat.
CREDIT: @JOHN TOM THOMPSON / @ADRIANA RODRIGUEZ / FACEBOOK
As long as you have that salt shaker, you can eat anything for lunch.
But no matter how different your lunch is from every other student at school, it’s still bomb AF. ?
CREDIT: @SABORLATINOCORUÑA / FACEBOOK
DE-LI-CIOUS.
Bougie Lunchables will never have anything on your mom’s fire homemade meals.
CREDIT: @JAMER PACHECO / FACEBOOK
I’ll take pollo con arroz any day.
And as for those who still have a desire for Lunchables, you can go ahead and do exactly what this woman did…
There comes a time in a young woman’s life when she has to venture out into the world and experience everything out there that the world has to offer. And yes, “everything” includes sex. And while sex is a totally natural and expected step in a young woman’s coming-of-age journey, the Latinx community often holds notoriously conservative views about when it’s “okay” for a young woman to have sex for the first time.
This conservative attitude towards woman and sex is nowhere more prominent than it is in the minds of Latinx mothers. Many Latinx moms, especially from older generations, have been trained to believe that a young woman’s worth is tied to her virginity and that it’s a sin to have sex out of wedlock. This attitude makes it hard for girls to talk to their parents about sex, which means a large portion of the Latina population is uneducated about STIs, unwanted pregnancy, contraception, and how being sexually active can impact your emotions. Because of the shame surrounding extramarital sex in the Latinx community, many young women hide the fact that they’ve been having sex from their mothers in order to avoid conflict or avoid being shamed.
That’s why Fierce by mitú took to our Instagram page to ask our followers how their madres reacted when they found out their daughters were no longer virgins. We also wanted to know if our followers decided to keep their virginity statuses to themselves.
Check out the answers below!
1. This mom’s nosiness gave her more than she bargained for
@addictivestock/Instagram
“My mom found out I was having sex when I was 23 years old and she found my birth control (cringe!). This is a pretty common story I share with a lot of my friends but the way my mom found out was pretty mortifying. My novio, who I have been dating since I was 14 and who she has known for as many years, was over at the house. Because my mom has always been very nosey and a helicopter mom I would give him my birth control for safe keeping (For so many reasons Don’t DO THIS!!) Anyway. The birth control fell out of his bag and my mom flipped out. Any other scenario, had I hid it in a closet or sock drawer she would have found out sooner but I probably could have convinced her it was just for acne.” – Veronica, Chicago
2. This mama read between the lines and stayed silent
@lcdfotografia/Instagram
“I kind of had to fess up to my mom because I was moving in with my boyfriend. She’d been asking me since we started dating if I was using protection over and over again and I was too embarrassed to even say that we were having sex. I finally just told her that I was moving in with him and I think she got the deal.” Kathryn, Los Angeles
3. This mom insisted she could tell by just LOOKING at her daughter
@addictivestock/Instagram
“I told my mom years after, but she swears she knew the night I came home that it happened. I’m like c’mon, Mom. No way did you know. But, you know how they are–they know EVERYTHING.” – Laney, San Bernadino
4. The old “hyper-emotional” reaction
@addictivestock/Instagram
“My mom cried so so hard and then instantly got mad at me and gave me the silent treatment. She also claimed she “knew” that I wasn’t anymore anyhow ’cause I “started talking back”. But, I was 21 at that point!” – Yvette
5. The mom who doesn’t know…but c’mon: she knows
@precious.earth.nature/Instagram
“To [my mom] I’m still [a virgin] ’till I’m married….Nahhh I think she probably suspects I’m not by now”. – Connie, Southern California
6. The mom who lives in blissful ignorance
@maarjavahiphotography/Instagram
“I’m 30 years old and still haven’t told my mom. At this point she’s gotta suspect I’m not [a virgin]. But at least I waited until I was 19!” Anna, Chicago
7. The Suffocating Silence
@jevgenijasorokina/Instagram
“Literally my current situation, lol. I want to tell her but, I’m afraid of her reaction. I don’t think she’ll be mad, but I really would hate for her to cry about it. Send help!” Darlene, Riverside
8. The “Live Your Life” Type of Mom
@olga_lukaneva/Instagram
“I keep it to myself, but I’m pretty sure she knows me better. 😉 ” – Belle, Puerto Rico
9. The “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” Policy
@bailandoconjulieta/Instagram
“She never asked and I never told her… but for what it’s worth, I waited till I was at least 18.” Tania, Los Angeles
10. The Mom Who Tries and Fails to Guilt Trip
@glam_.dps/Instagram
“She said: ‘Why didnt [you] wait ’till marriage like [I] told over and over again?’. So, I said: “Who said I’ll ever get married?” Lizet, Bakersfield, CA
11. This mom who started crying when she walked in on the act
“I had skipped school to lose my virginity to my high school boyfriend. We had planned it out so that I would play sick and he would skip school and do it when my parents were out of the house. They boy work long hours so we figured we had some time. The actual act went well, but literally just as we finished we heard my front door open. No snuggling. We both jumped up to hide. I’ve always thought it took maybe 30 steps to get from my front door to my room, my mom took five. My boyfriend ducked out of the bathroom and somehow my mom got to the front of the house to confront him. I mean he had no shirt on and was pulling him his pants. She knew. She knew so much she cried.” Ana, Austin, TX
There is something about your parents staying friends with your ex that drives people crazy. Like, they also made connections with those people and they might really like them. However, should they take your side and just cut them off? That is the debate raging right now after on Twitter user confronted his mom about liking one of his ex’s Instagram photos.
Here is the moment Alan Zamora confronted his mother about liking his ex’s photo on social media.
My mom just liked my ex’s pic and i confronted her about it and she said “Terminó contigo, pero no conmigo” MY MOM IS CANCELED 💀💀😭 pic.twitter.com/TUHcu4EQ0X
He confronted him mother with a, “WTF?!” She responded simply with, “Terminó contigo, pero no conmigo.” She added: “She’s my friend.” Now, that is just some cold honesty about the importance of making sure your parents don’t get too attached to your novios and novias.
Her insistence on being friends with his ex led him to ask for new moms.
Credit: @MamonNalgon / Twitter
Who wants to give this man the mom he clearly wants. Obviously, he is looking for fierce loyalty and a mother who will never side with his ex over him. Also must be able to be filmed for Twitter at a moment’s notice.
She even invited his ex over to hang out and we are all dead.
Credit: @MamonNalgon / Twitter
Honestly, we all love when our ex’s parents want to stay in touch with us. They clearly love what we have to offer to the world. However, have you ever been on the other side of this? Have you ever seen your parents try to hangout with your exes while liking their social media pics?
Some people saw this and thanked the universe that their parents can’t do the same thing.
Credit: @Josewaterboy12 / Twitter
Pro tip: Make your parents social media illiterate. If they don’t know how to do social media, they can’t break your heart like this. Imagine your mom having an entire Instagram just to stay connected with the exes she liked from your life.
Some moms came through to explain what is happening from her perspective.
Credit: @lfgonzales / Twitter
It is kind of unfair for us to ask our parents to just cut someone out of their lives just because we couldn’t make it work. should they put their lives and hearts on pause just because our lives fell apart? It is a question that some moms legit want us to answer.
There were a few examples of parents taking it too far.
Credit: @cachacci / Twitter
Like, who does this? How does your mom take a trip with one of your exes then send you photos of the trip? This is the ultimate betrayal. There you are just living life wanting to take a trip with your mom then she takes the one who got away. Shady.
Or how about coming home and seeing your ex straight chilling with your folks?
I walked into the house once to see my ex sitting on the couch talking to my parents… pic.twitter.com/4K9pTXqNXk
Suddenly, your safe space is gone. You can’t come home and just relax because suddenly you have an ex hanging out on the couch. What a disaster. What a life they must live to do this to their pride and joy.
Yet, some people think that it is actually a sweet reminder of how much your life impacts your parents.
Credit: @GuevaraAshlee / Twitter
Try not to cry thinking about how much you mean to your parents. They love you so much that they love everyone you love. That is true unconditional love. What a wonderful thing to think about.
Oh, and Zamora wants you to know that his mom is one of the most beautiful women despite the original video.
Credit: @MamonNalgon / Twitter
What a great son. Even when he is betrayed by his mother, he still supports her unconditionally.
