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These Are All The Ways You Told Us Your Dad Ditched The Machismo And Raised You To Be Strong And Powerful

Father’s Day is just one day a year where we show our dads love. They do so much for us making sure we have everything we need and that we are always taken care of. While some times our dads let their machismo flare up and try to control things, times are changing and a lot of our dads are changing along with them. For some people, our dads never allowed for anything machismo to enter our houses and it is something we are so grateful for. We asked you to tell us how your father kept the machismo at bay in the house and here’s what you had to say.

Happy Father’s Day to all the dads that never treated their wives as someone who had to do everything for them.

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There is something so sweet and kind about dads taking on household duties to make life easier for their wives. We all stan a Latino dad who rolls up his sleeves and gets to work cooking and cleaning without being asked.

You have to show some respect to single fathers who did it all.

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It’s hard to raise kids when both parents are in the picture. Coordinating schedules and figuring out responsibilities to keep everything moving is not easy. It is even harder as a single parent having to work full-time and taking care of your little ones.

Leading by example is one of the greatest ways to make sure you leave your kids with a strong example for the rest of their lives.

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There’s nothing more inspirational than watching your dad strive for his dreams while keeping you motivated to achieve yours. Watching your dad sacrifice and push to be his best will definitely get you in the same mood.

Some times it is as simple as not pushing for your daughters to realize their full worth.

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Our culture has always highly valued women getting married to show the world their self-worth. There is nothing better than a dad telling his hijas that you can be whoever and whatever you want to be.

A working father helping his stay-at-home wife with chores is everything.

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Being a stay-at-home mom is a very hard job. You are essentially an office manager making sure that everyone gets to their appointments on time and has enough to eat. Having a partner to help you our is crucial to making the whole thing work.

Teaching valuable life lessons is so important.

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It is nice to be taught things that are so important around the house. Obviously, the most important thing to know is how to cook and clean. However, if he can teach you how to save money and take care of a car, all the better.

Even when they did have machismo moments, he knows how to make things better for everyone in his own ways.

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He might say some things that are old school at times but his overall actions are what matter. If he is teaching you how to be a strong woman who can take care of yourself, that’s the best.

Even something as simple as working nights is a major move.

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How sweet that this father would work nights to give his wife the chance to work during the day. He might be doing it to guarantee a dual-income household, but it is still so sweet. He sacrificed his nights to give his children his attention during the day.

Down with the patriarchy, up with the matriarchy.

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We all know that abuela holds the real power in the family. Whatever she says go. Its nice to know that some das are instilling the message that, as a woman, you deserve to live the life you want regardless of other people’s thoughts.

Pushing for education will get you far.

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Knowing that this dad is planting flowers and talking about the arts is just too much. Way to go, dad.

Let the women protest for their rights because it is important.

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We are in a time when people need to fight for their rights. Everyone is watching as marginalized group after marginalized group is taken down a scary path. Fortunately, we have bad ass dads willing to let us fight back.

Some times they even do the hard tasks, like talking about periods.

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Who else has had their father explain what a period is? It is something that so many people are uncomfortable talking about and acknowledging. However, periods are normal and some times your dad has to explain it to you.

Take a moment this Father’s Day to thank your dad for making your life everything it is with his life lessons, dad jokes, and understanding that you are your own person.

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Happy Father’s Day to all the dads out there doing their thing and raising strong children.

READ: Recent Report Puts a Price Tag on How Much Outdated Standards of Machismo are Losing Everyone Money

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Woman Who Watched Her Mother Die Before Her Eyes While At Sea As A 9-Year-Old Reunited With Her Rescuers

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Woman Who Watched Her Mother Die Before Her Eyes While At Sea As A 9-Year-Old Reunited With Her Rescuers

May 20, 1986, started out for Desireé Rodriguez and her family as an idyllic morning.

At the time, Desireé’s father (a 30-year-old construction worker by the name of Thomas Rodriguez) had taken her, her mother, and sister as well an aunt and uncle out to Catalina Island for a day of sailing. The plan was to go out, fish, and bask in the summer sun before heading back home. In the evening, just as they were headed home the family was impacted by a dense fog. Desireé and her 5-year-old sister Trisha awoke from a nap on the boat to calls from her father to abandon ship and within minutes the entire family was lost at sea. Out in the water and away from their boat that had capsized.

 The family of six was stranded in the chilly Pacific water for hours and Desireé watched as her father first went to swim for rescue and never returned. In the hours that slowly stretched by Desireé witnessed the death of her sister, her mother, her uncle and then her aunt.

Decades have passed since her family’s accident but Desireé has lived to tell of the story thanks to the two men who rescued her.

In a recent piece by The New York times, Desireé was reunited with the two men who were remarkably able to save her after she spent a nightmarish 20 hours in the ocean.

Only 9-years-old at the time of the tragic events, Desireé recalls believing that her father would return with help when he first swam away from the boat. “My dad was like the superhero to me. I actually thought he would get help,” Desireé explained before calling the desperate hours that followed. After watching her family members die, she found herself all alone.

“At that point, I just kind of made the decision, I need to get away from this boat,” Desireé recalled to the New York Times. “I need to swim away, somewhere else. … Where? I don’t know.”

Just when Desireé decided to give up hope, the skipper of a commercial sportfishing boat spotted her orange life jacket in the water.

The boat’s first officer leapt into the water and fished Desireé out of the water. Desireé was ultimately transported back to San Pedro and never saw her rescuers again.

“I don’t think I would have lived, I’ll be honest with you. I think at that point, I was just kind of done,” Desireé explained in a recent interview about the incident. According to an article at the time that described the incident, Desireé had suffered no major physical injuries and was “in good spirits.” She left the hospital in San Pedro the next time.

“I had even hoped that my dad did make it somewhere,” Desireé explained of her thinking of the time. “Maybe he is living on an island and just got amnesia and didn’t know that he has a family. You know, you always have hope. But you get older, and reality sets in, and you’re like, OK. He didn’t make it.”

Paul Strasser and Mark Pisano, the two men who rescued her, ultimately earned commemorative plaques for their bravery from Mayor Tom Bradley. Desireé Rodriguez, now Desireé Campuzano, was adopted by another aunt and uncle who raised her. She went onto attend junior college in Fullerton, built herself a career in criminal justice, married and had a son. Still, she always wondered what had happened to the men who saved her.

It wasn’t until the COVID-19 pandemic that Strasser and Pisano came into contact with Philip Friedman who launched a podcast about his hobby as a fisherman.

“Friedman Adventures” which launched this past December, shares incredible stories from fishermen. Ine one episode Pisano spoke about the 1986 rescue.

“It’s kind of a weird story, kind of like there are some supernatural qualities,” Pisano explained of the experience on the podcast.

Friedman felt motivated to unite the two rescuers and Desireé. Ultimately a friend of Desireé’s heard the episode when it aired and made the connection. He reached out to Desireé and then Friedman and ultimately she and her rescuers were reunited.

“I was nervous at first,” Desireé said of meeting Strasser and Pisano “just seeing [the] guys and putting kind of finalization to the ‘what happened.’” The three were finally reunited during another episode of the podcast.

“I feel like she’s sort of our daughter, in a way, because we brought her back to life,” Strasser said during their reunion. “Even though we never knew each other.”

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Bride Sparks Twitter Debate After Asking If It Was Rude To Serve Her Mother-In-Law Jersey Mike’s At Her Wedding

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Bride Sparks Twitter Debate After Asking If It Was Rude To Serve Her Mother-In-Law Jersey Mike’s At Her Wedding

It’s a truth universally acknowledged that when you get married you’re not just getting a partner, you’re getting a whole new family. Understanding this can mean all of the difference when it comes to the future of you and your new spouse. Those who get it will likely pursue their future with an understanding that compassion and love have to regularly extend to other members of their new family. Those who don’t… end up on Reddit with family woes.

One Reddit user recently posted a request for assurance that quickly went viral and comes with a pretty obvious family lesson to us all.

Reddit user, u/No-Permit-3219, recently posted in a subreddit in search of reassurance about a recent fall-out with her mother-in-law that occurred at her wedding.

“AITA for giving my MIL a Jersey Mike’s sub?” the user asked r/AmItheA–hole, a subreddit posters can use to get an opinion as to whether their behavior makes them the “a–hole” or not. In the post, the user detailed how her new family is being “torn apart” by her decision to provide her mother-in-law with a Jersey Mike’s sub at her wedding.

“I’ll start off by saying I don’t really have issues with my MIL. she can be a bit needy and demanding, but she isn’t a bad person,” she kicked off the post. “FIL on the other hand is horrible, and his main trigger is when he doesn’t think we ‘respect him’ or treat his wife right. We got married recently, and I wanted to serve my favorite foods at the wedding, lemon chicken and lemon cake. I was aware that not all guests would like that, but I felt that it was my day, and the less food options we had, the cheaper it was. For the average guest, I figured they could just live with it, but I didn’t want my MIL to starve and she HATEs lemon, can’t even put it in her mouth without gagging.

“I was trying to think of something she would eat that was cheap and easy. I know the buffalo chicken cheesesteak at Jersey Mike’s is her fave fast food meal, and I had a box of M&M’s for her. She did give me a weird look, but she ate it. Also I had it delivered, so it wasn’t just sitting there and getting soggy. FIL was furious. He said that I am selfish and disrespected him and his wife. He went on a rant about how tacky it was to have a wedding and not take the family into consideration, and that I wasted his money. MIL did tell him to stop yelling, but he called me a bitch on my wedding day.

“Now FIL is demanding an apology and his golden child isn’t speaking to me. Their other child is on my side, and MIL said she isn’t going to cause drama, but she does think it was disrespectful, and she would never do that with her own MIL. My husband is totally on my side, and I asked some bridesmaids, who feel like I did nothing wrong, and I was gracious to even get her something.”

Users on Reddit labeled the poster TA for her decision but Twitter users had a different opinion.

“It’s her favorite fast food meal, which is quite different from her favorite food,” one user on Twitter commented. “I prefer McDonald’s over Burger King or Wendy’s but would be pretty surprised to have a Big Mac and some candy served to me at my child’s FORMAL wedding that I paid for.”

The Daughter In Law with a Jersey Mike’s-loving mother-in-law went onto underline that even though her future parents-in-law were paying for the wedding she never broached the topic of a dinner menu.

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Fortunately, the Reddit user has come to terms with the fact that she failed miserably and texted her mother-in-law an apology.

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Here’s hoping that this Reddit user finds a way to turn her self-made sour lemonade into something sweet.

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