This Brazilian Girl Dressed Up As A Mom For Halloween And People On The Internet Are Celebrating Her Creativity
As young girls, we all looked up to our Latina moms. I remember watching my mom paint dark black eyeliner onto her lids, slip on her impossibly high heels, walk into a room and own it. I also remember her shoving my 11-year-old bully up against a brick wall, demanding that he call his mother for her that instant and calmy, savagely decimating his ego before my very eyes. Our moms are fierce, and their superhero costumes come in a variety of shapes and colors.
This Brazilian niña, however, chose a not-all-heroes-wear-capes take her Halloween costume of a mom. The details are unfortunate but make for a wonderful and unforgettable costume.
Young Yasmin painted vomit on one shoulder and spilled milk on the other to look like her mother.
Yasmin was invited to a Halloween party this year, but her mother, Ione Carvalho, told her they didn’t have the budget for a pre-made Halloween costume. Like every good Latina mother, she told Yasmin to use her imagination. That she did.
Yasmin is wearing leggings, old flip flops, an oversized shirt with vomit painted on one shoulder and spilled milk on the other. To top the look off, she painted bags under her eyes, put her hair in a messy ponytail, and is slinging a baby bag, a plastic bag of groceries and an entire fake baby along.
Meanwhile, this is her mother’s Facebook profile photo.
I have questions. The Internet has questions, and the Internet asked. Ione shared the photos of her daughter with the caption [in Portuguese], “Pre Halloween dance and Yasmin was characterized as a mother !!! She’s wearing the uniform of a very busy mother with gym pants, a shirt, tennis and a bun in her hair … Don’t forget the child’s bag, the diaper on the shoulder, the vomit on the other and the spoiled milk!”
Most folks praised her daughter’s creativity and even joked that Yasmin was in too good of character, “already showing the hardness” of being a young mother. Someone else commented, “You should win an award for the idea hahaha the best costume ever.”
Critics are not okay with the disheveled new mom stereotype.
The Facebook post has nearly 10,000 likes and 21,000 shares at the time of this publication. It’s gone viral in Brazil, and Yasmin has even appeared on a local Brazilian show to talk about the experience. With any kind of fame, there is criticism. In a Facebook comment, Ione reportedly responded to a critic, “If you’re a mom and never got to this state, congratulations, but don’t judge. … This mom can be anybody. I didn’t say it was all of them. It’s just an infantile fantasy made by a mom on a budget. Don’t cause so much drama.”
The “Tired Mom” or “Mombie” look is far from new.
A quick Twitter search turns up photos of new parents dressing up as an “Undead Dad” and “Mombie” duo. Those varieties typically require more blood makeup than your typical “Tired Mom.” The zombie trope is one and the same with the stereotype for a new mom minus the cannibalism. New parents are often sleep-deprived, sunken-eyed, smell weird. So they say.
Last year, a New Mexico teen went viral for her imitation of a “Tired Mom.”
Then 13-year-old Jillian Schnerch enjoyed the low-budget costume that was met with viral acclaim in 2018. The jury is split on these costumes. Some jokingly tweeted that they felt “superrrrr attacked.” One mom layered the joke by dressing up as a tired mom herself, tweeting, “I don’t know why people keep complimenting my Halloween costume… I didn’t even dress up this year. I’m just dressed as myself, a tired mom.”
Meanwhile, Jezebel rightly reported that the “Tired Mom” routine is only as infuriating as the lack of “Tired Dad” costumes. Is it because fathers aren’t as likely to stretch themselves in childcare or domestic work? Is it because women are far more scrutinized for their appearance than men? Or is it because “tired dads” are praised for measuring up to the bar women have been oppressed by for centuries? We can’t say.
All we know is that Yasmin is certainly enjoying her time in the spotlight, and hasn’t let go of her fake baby just yet.
Of course, her mother’s lesson isn’t lost on any of us, and hopefully not on Yasmin. Latina moms have always led us to believe our creative genius is worth more than the money they might not be able to give us. Gracias, mami.