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Here Is What You Told Us You Wanted To Accomplish In The New Year And We’re Rooting For You

It’s that time of year where we make promises to ourselves (and to others about how we’re going to try a little harder in the coming year. How next year is going to be a big one. It’s going to be 2020! We asked our female readers what New Year’s resolutions they had for 2020, and here are some really great ones that we can all aspire to. 

“Follow through with applying to grad school.”

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This is an excellent resolution and one I can relate to 100 percent. This year, after years of graduating from college, I finally decided to really apply for grad school and not put it off any longer. While it may seem challenging to go back to school, especially if you’re working full-time and are scared to get into debt, there are ways to jump over those hurdles. 

For starters, if you’re still working, sign up for only one class. This is manageable, and I can say from experience. If you sign up for one class, you can fit it into your schedule. There’s also a ton of schools that offer online courses, and that works for busy people even more because you can be on the go and still get an education. 

Now if you don’t want to get into debt, but want that second degree, there are so many scholarships that are mainly for people who are going back to school, or that are moms, or that are over a certain age. There are scholarships for the most individual person, all you have to do is Google!

“To have no resolution and just let life happen.”

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Let’s face it, we’re under a lot of stress already. If you’re not busy doing one thing, we’re planning something else. The New Year should have more spontaneity. Who can’t relate to seeking less control? We tend to get so worked up about all the things we need to get done in the day that we rarely have time to let things just be.  Don’t be on your phone every second, take a walk, meet up with friends, but just do it without planning so much. 

“Wake up earlier to have me time in the mornings.”

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As soon as the alarm goes off, we are go, go, go. We go to bed thinking about all the stuff we have to do the next day, and we typically wake up groggy and anxiety-ridden. But, one thing that helps, is to get go to bed a little earlier. This gives you time to wake up and not rush out of bed. It also gives you extra time to lay there and think and be chill. 

If there’s something else that you want time for in the day, whether it is meditating, praying, writing, working out, or walking the dog — get up even 30 minutes earlier, and it will make all the difference in the world. Just remember, go to bed earlier. It will pay off. 

“Be outdoors more — bask in the presence of beautiful scenery and beautiful people.”

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This resolution is everything because it will help you and your soul in so many ways. The less you are cooped up indoors, stuck behind the computer or on the phone, the less you enjoy life. Try going to a park or go on a hike at least once a week. You will find that you have more peace in your life without making a huge change. 

“To be fearless!”

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Being fearless can mean a lot of different things to a lot of people, but what you should think about is what worries you the most. The things that keep you up at night. The things that hold you back. Pushing those things aside is what fearless is all about. Fighting against the things that scare us, that hold us back from accomplishing our dreams. That is being fearless. Even though we can’t be fearless every day, little moments of overcoming our fears is what matters. 

“Smothering myself with self-love. I decided to love myself as hard as I’ve loved others.”

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If you give a lot to others, to your kids, to your family, to your work, you should be giving yourself that same devotion. You may think you don’t have time to be good to yourself but you do by doing little things throughout the day. Indulge in your favorite kind of tea, watch your favorite trash TV show all alone, take an extra-long bath, by yourself those shoes you’ve been coveting for a while. Love yourself by being kind to yourself. Cut yourself some slack. You are a human being, who needs just as much love as everyone else. 

READ: Make This New Year Different By Making Active Positive Changes Instead Of Overwhelming Resolutions

Lizzo Had The Most Inspiring Glow Up Of The Decade And If Her Story Doesn’t Motivate You, I Don’t Know What Will

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Lizzo Had The Most Inspiring Glow Up Of The Decade And If Her Story Doesn’t Motivate You, I Don’t Know What Will

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We first started hearing the name Lizzo in 2018, but the singer became a household name in 2019 when she skyrocketed to fame thanks to her incredibly catchy and positive music. Lizzo’s body positivity, self-love and no BS attitude has made her a huge success—but it wasn’t always like that.

It’s not like the singer found “overnight success.” Her huge hits weren’t only one year in the making. 

For a decade, the artist had been working on her music and trying to break out in the entertainment industry. On New Year’s Eve, Lizzo remembered the start of the decade, which was much more difficult than we knew. In 2009, Lizzo was working odd jobs, living out of her car, and had just lost her father. 

The singer took a trip down memory lane posting a major TB picture on Instagram.

Lizzo looked back on the past decade and reflected on some of the troubling times she went through to get to where she is now. “2009 was the year my daddy died. 2009 was the year I lived in my car and cried myself to sleep on Thanksgiving. 2009 I was a girl in Houston, Texas, with no plan, no hope, no will to carry on,” Lizzo began.  Then she reflected on the year that brought her insane success, “2019 is the year my album and song went number 1. 2019 is the year I told my mama, ‘I can buy you a house.’ 2019 I am a woman with a 20/20 vision of the future. Anything can happen in a decade. Tomorrow is the beginning of your anything. Thanks for the ride 2019. Here we go 2020!”

Lizzo had quite an impressive year this 2019

Now the singer’s nominated for eight Grammys, has performed on countless awards show stages, headlined SNL, and was Time magazine’s Entertainer of the Year —just to name a few of her merits. Plus, she’s buying her mom a new house, how’s that for a glow up?

She even worked as a sign spinner before, and now she’s “the artist who defined 2019.”

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Don’t stop…. we need you. 2020 is yours for the taking.

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Lizzo is a true inspiration and the best example to follow your dreams, because that’s exactly what she did, and look where it took her. Before Lizzo was the fabulous rapper, flautist, and singer that she is today; she was working odd jobs, like sign-spinning, to make ends meet. “Don’t stop … we need you. 2020 is yours for the taking,” she captioned a post showing her at the beginning of the decade working as a sign spinner for Liberty Taxes and then the promo for her SNL debut. 

Lizzo celebrated New Year’s Eve feeling all of the feels. 

Now that we know just how far she’s come, it’s no surprise that Lizzo was in her feels on New Year’s Eve. The singer has plenty to celebrate, but also a lot to look back on. “NYE MOODS,” she tweeted featuring a few glamorous images. 

Sometimes we forget to acknowledge all the blood, sweat, and tears, artists have shed to get to where they are now.

Other artists identified with Lizzo’s come-up throughout the decade, and shared their own. Adam Rifkin, a writer and director, replied to the rapper’s tweet: “Sometimes it takes 10 years to get that one year that will change your life.” 

Then he shared a full-moment post from Lin-Manuel Miranda.

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The composer, lyricist, singer, actor, producer, and playwright, worked on his successful Broadway musical Hamilton for years before it found its place.

Lizzo’s having the best time of her life, period.

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U ready?

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“U ready?” she asked her 7.2 million followers, after ringing in the New Year living her absolute best life —And honestly, I don’t think we are. This past year, Lizzo already served us so much great music and self-love, and we’re ready to bet there’s so much more to come. 

No Pisces Is Going Into 2020 The Same Way As A Virgo—Here Are Rituals And Limpias To Start 2020 Right, According To Your Sign

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No Pisces Is Going Into 2020 The Same Way As A Virgo—Here Are Rituals And Limpias To Start 2020 Right, According To Your Sign

New Year’s resolutions have a reputation for not surviving long outside of January-land, but using simple rituals the for New Year can help you make space for personal reflection, process the lessons you’ve learned over the past year, and get in touch with your powerful inner witch. Plus, spending time, energy, and intention on your goals through ritual work adds a little bit of an extra sparkle to them that may just inspire you to follow through.

Each culture has their own traditions to celebrate the start of the new year and growing up Latinx, we know that there’s nothing quite like a spiritual cleanse or ‘Limpia’ for those who want to revive their energy after being exposed to negative energy. So keep reading to find limpias and rituals curated for each Zodiac sign.

Aries


The first sign of the zodiac is competitive, courageous, with a ‘winner’ mindset. As a fire sign, Aries can be very emotionally charged —and 2019 sure threw some curve balls. Heading into 2020 a ritual with an opposing element like water, can help balance and flush out those high temps.

Here’s a simple ritual:

Fill a glass with purified water and find a place of solitude with no distractions (cell phone off).

Create an intention of what you learned in 2019 that you want to continue growing and learning in 2020.

Visualize that intention being poured into the glass of water. Visualize the element of water cleansing and purifying the negative thoughts.

After taking a moment of gratitude to connect and visualize your intention, release the intention back into the earth by pouring the water on the ground.

Taurus

Taurus are some of the most loyal elements of the zodiac. They are reliable, consistent and calm. 2019 was probably a prosperous year for you, either financially or work-wise. Heading into 2020, keep up the prosperous vibes with this simple limpia:

Recite a personal prayer to connect you with your source (the higher power you believe most in)

Open windows or doors so that dense energies can flow out.

Light a dried lavender flower bundle like you would palo santo or sage and move the extinguished bundle around your space to cleanse away the negative energetic residue of 2019.

Gemini

Geminis are full of curiosity, and inquisitive knowledge. But it‘s this mindfulness and curiosity what causes that tendency towards indecision. Being indecisive probably led you down some interesting lessons this past year. Here’s a ritual to help you head into 2020 with a more grounded mind and level-headed confidence.

Recite a personal prayer to connect you with your source (the higher power you believe most in)

Open windows or doors so that dense energies can flow out.

In a fire-proof bowl or cauldron, light a piece of charcoal like you would sage or palo santo. Place fennel seeds on the smoking charcoal and pour a small amount of cedar oil on the fennel to increase the burn.

Fan the smoke around you and your space to cleanse away the negative energetic residue of 2019.

Close the ritual with a prayer of affirmation and love.

Cancer

With the moon as your ruling planet, you are one of the most intuitive signs. You are loved for being attentive and nurturing and this can be draining your energy. Self-care should be an important topic for you going into 2020. Here’s a ritual for a spiritual baño to help you cleanse from negative vibes and ease into more chill ones.

Run warm water and fill tub to your liking.

Add sea salt and chamomile allowing the properties to expel in the water.

Place healong crystals of your choosing around the tub, or inside if they don’t have a negative reaction to water.

Light some candles to help you relax, and soak in the warm bath.

Visualize the chamomile and salts working their magic, releasing dense energy from your aura.

Enjoy for as long as you need and close with a prayer of gratitude.

Leo

You shine bright like the sun. Leo is one of the most charismatic signs of the Zodiac. You live passionately and are usually center stage or the life of the party. 2019 might have been a little bit of A reality check for your ego. A year full of highs and lows helped both make you humble and proud of who you are. Here’s a spiritual bath to help soothe your inner fire.

Run warm water and fill tub to your liking.

Add a handful of dried lavender allowing the properties to expand in the water.

Add a tablespoon of Florida water to the bath —or as much as you feel guided to pour.

Soak in the warm water and envision yourself connecting with the lavender to help you soothe and cool down the overuse of fire within you. Ask for guidance toward a more balanced temperament.

Enjoy for as long as you need and close with a prayer of gratitude.

Virgo

This sign is known for it’s meticulous attention to detail and impeccable work. Your grounded nature allows you to be practical and get things done —which is something many other signs lack. 2019 might have thrown you off of your stable nature which left you feeling frazzled at times. However, 2020 will help make you feel more stable as we move into a four universal year in numerology. Enjoy the following cleanse to assist you in cleaning yourself of dense negative energy and freeing new space to allow new opportunities into your life.

Make bundles of fresh rosemary (one for each room with a bed and another for a small altar)

Spray or sprinkle Florida water onto bundles.

Pray over the rosemary bundles and connect with the higher power you believe in, and ask for assistance in welcoming in fresh energy this 2020.

Place a bundle under every bed in your place and another in an altar.

Keep the bundles in place until they’ve dried out completely.

Once they’ve dried out (2 weeks approximately) throw them away in a dumpster at least 2 miles away from your home.

The rosemary will clear out dense energy and will allow a clear mind for your analytical brain.

Libra

Balance is your safe haven. Structure and diplomacy are ideal for a Libra to thrive. 2019 may not have been to challenging to you, however, this past year did cause some shakeups in your romantic relationships as well as your friendships. Spending so much time with your head in the clouds requires some time for you to feel more grounded —and that’s exactly what this limpia will help you do.

Set a bowl full of water and salt in the middle of the room you wish to cleanse.

Light an ethically sourced bundle of sage and state a protection intention

Work the smoke from your sage, from the North corner of the room, to the east, south and western corners.

Direct the energy you’re clearing, into the bowl with salt. The saltwater will soak up all the energy you need to release –from anger, to confusion.

Once done with the sage, place it safely somewhere it can extinguish itself until the smoke goes out.

Center yourself in the middle of the room with a black crystal or tourmaline (make sure you sage the tourmaline too), and ask Mother Earth in gratitude, to help you feel more grounded as an air sign.

Scorpio

This year you were focused and you dedicated a lot of time to areas where you feel that you are in a position of power: work, relationships, etc. If you worked hard, you experience positive karma paying you back in return. You might have had some harsh realizations that triggered you emotionally though. So cut yourself some slack with this limpia to help you revive the energy of your space.

Place purified water in a pot to boil

Once boiling, add fresh basil.

Squeeze 2 fresh lemons into the boiling water.

Allow the water to cool down and place it in a spray bottle. This will be your purification water.

Spray it in rooms, use it to clean desks or mop your floors.

You can use it all year round.

Sagittarius

2019 tested your ways of communication. The final mercury retrograde of the year might have affected some of your friendships or relationships. You learned how to express yourself but also how to not lash out. Here’s a fire limpia to help release any personal, professional or romantic blockages that were created in 2019.

Pray over fennel seeds to seek for the release from any blockages created in the year.

Light a charcoal block until it sparks and place inside a cauldron or fire-proof pot.

Place copal carefully onto the charcoal and the fennel seeds on top while the charcoal is lit and heated. Pour some ‘road opener’ oil (find it at your local botanica or or spiritual shop) on it and let it smoke.

Perform a self limpia —use the smoke to wash over your head.

Scoop the smoke over your head and down every chakra point up to the soles of your feet.

Work the cauldron in circles over your arms and legs until the smoke goes out.

Remaining smoke can be used to cleanse your room.

Capricorn

2019 kept pushing you towards growth and success. You’re naturally driven and ambitious, but some of last year’s retrogrades might have felt like you were being pulled backward which made you feel anxious. This ritual will help get rid of that left-over anxiety and return you to your usual tenacious self.

Connect with your higher power of love and protection.

Cleanse a smokey quartz stone

Meditate your intention over a dark brown candle. Cut the wick before lighting and pour patchouli oil over the candle for added protection and spiritual grounding.

Write your intention and new goals for 2020 and propose them to planet Saturn for added discipline and assistance.

Light the candle and place the crystal on top of your paper of intention. Connect and meditate with the crystal for 5 minutes.

Keep the candle lit for the next 8 days or as long as it burns.

Aquarius

The innovative ones. The year 2020 will be a phenomenal year for your sign, and you‘ll feel more at ease than ever. 2019 was a year full of shadow work for you. Working through and shattering old patterns was a big behavior for Aquarius in 2019. Leave all the clutter of the mid behind and make way for the greatness to come. This simple spiritual bath will help you come back to center and focus your mind.

Light a white candle

Pray over a bundle of eucalyptus and the candle, stating your purpose for the new year.

Place the white candle in the bathroom with you.

Run a warm bath with epsom salt (2 tb spoons) and place the eucalyptus around the showerhead so that the stream of wafter runs through the properties of the plant.

Drop some essential oil into the bath and soak for as long as you need. Pour the bath water over your head (chakra) and let it touch every part of your body.

Keep the bundle on your shower head until you no longer feel the properties of the plant in the water, then dispose of it 2 miles away from your home.

Pisces

The most emotional and sensitive sign of the Zodiac. You spend a lot of time dealing between what is real and what isn’t —with your innate ability to tap into other realms. Here’s a simple water cleanse —your natural habitat!— to help connect you with your intention and wishes for the new year.

Fill a glass with purified water and find a place of solitude with no distractions (cell phone off).

Create an intention of what you learned in 2019 that you want to continue growing and learning in 2020.

Visualize that intention being poured into the glass of water. Visualize the element of water cleansing and purifying the negative thoughts.

After taking a moment of gratitude to connect and visualize your intention, release the intention back into the earth by pouring the water on the ground.