Make 2020 Your Year With These 5 Steps To Succeed At Your Resolutions
For us humans who like to count days and calendar years, a huge celebration is upon us. We’re leaving an entire decade behind us as we step into the 2020s–finally a decade that we can all phonetically reference without any awkwardness. More than that, the mark of a new year has always been a time to physically and metaphorically declutter from our lives what is no longer serving us. New Year’s resolutions are powerful ways to set intentions for ourselves and build self-trust by following through on them. We’re not invoking any of this privileged white folk ‘manifestation’ energy. We’re doing what our padres taught us to do: work for what we want, si Dios lo permite. As the exhaustion of a semester, work season, year and decade come to a close, we get the opportunity to rest and recharge and start all over again.
Here’s the thing. Once we get back to school, work and real life, that kinetic energy will start to slow down, and your resolution isn’t just going to manifest out of thin air. As a Capricorn, let me tell you how to be realistic when you decide what your resolution is going to be and how to follow through.
1. Be Selfish
Ask yourself: how is this going to benefit me in the long-term? New Year’s energy is some serious joojoo that you won’t want to waste on what somebody else wants for you. It’s time to think big picture and get selfish. Where do you want to be in 10 years? What’s the first step to get you there? Resolutions take up space in your thought life and living life. Is this one worth it? Does it excite you? It’s far easier to follow through on a resolution when you really want it for yourself and isn’t just an effort to fit in or cave to societal pressure.
2. Tell Your Mother
There’s nothing a Latina mom loves to do more than check up on you. Other sources will tell you to create accountability or “form a pact” with someone else. Not us. We know as well as anyone and their (Latina) mother that your mami will ask you about your resolution every time you talk. It’s a powerful weapon that you may want to seriously consider before deploying. Just how committed you are to this resolution? Because you can’t back out once you tell your mami. She just wants what’s best for you, mija.
3. Don’t Do a Fad Diet
Disordered eating may feel like a family heirloom, passed down from one mami to the next, but this is the generation when it stops and we start loving our curvy bodies. No matter how often your tía or abuelita flip flop between calling you gordita or flaquita, take resolve in yourself knowing that they’re both compliments. Studies prove that fad diets don’t work to maintain a healthy weight, but rather offers major fluctuations in weight.
Instead of adopting a mindset of scarcity and focus on reducing certain foods, consider adopting a mindset of moderation and balance. Choose to eat more healthy plant-based food, more aguacate instead of butter, or choose to work out just one more time a week than you already do. Exercising and eating well have their scientifically-backed benefits, like better physical health, sleep, and mental health. Focus on eating more good foods instead of feeling terrible when you eventually cave and have your abuela’s flan. Better yet, vow to eat more flan in 2020, mi gente!
4. Light a Vela to Saint Anthony, the Patron Saint of Lost Causes
Our moms may love to light candles to Saint Anthony to beg the stoic statue to find us novios or novias, not realizing that by doing so, they’re telling us they think we’re a lost cause, but it works, okay. In moments of doubt or despair, take up the worthy tradition of our most recent ancestors and light a candle to Saint Anthony. Whatever resolve you’ve lost, he’ll be able to help you find it.
5. Take a Mental Snapshot of the Moment You’re Working Toward
When we see people like Jennifer Lopez or Justice Sonia Sotomayor, it’s easy to want what they have, but hard to imagine them putting in the work to get there. Whether you decide to volunteer more to boost your self-esteem and find a community or decide to go back to school to get that bachelor’s or law or doctoral degree, there will be sacrifices. Prepare for it. Understand deep down that it won’t always be fun so that when you have to cancel social plans or drag yourself out the door when all you want to do is watch Netflix, you remember: I signed up for this. Picture yourself in the cap and gown or at the top of that peak, or just picture J.Lo. Either will do.